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Maximum Number Deadlift Repetitions

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Being_the_Don said:
Since we're now on the subject of pausing between lifts, how long do you guys wait? If I don't lift within no more than 20 secs of my previous lift, I declare the number where I stopped to be a set. Then I take rest break and then start again. I do that on all my exercises. I wonder if I've been counting them differently than most of you guys all of this time. :confused:
Well, when doing 20 rep squats, it's until you rack it that you stop the number. The same goes for bench, once you rack it, it's over. With deadlifts though it's different...I wouldn't call waiting a couple minutes before each lift to be part of the rep amount. Once you step away from the bar, relax for a good amount of time...it's over - Failure also has a lot to do with the lifts

High rep deadlifts are pretty dangerous depending on the weight you do to your 1RM. Without a belt I would not attempt really high rep deadlifts.
 

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I-tallionStallion said:
Well, when doing 20 rep squats, it's until you rack it that you stop the number. The same goes for bench, once you rack it, it's over. With deadlifts though it's different...I wouldn't call waiting a couple minutes before each lift to be part of the rep amount. Once you step away from the bar, relax for a good amount of time...it's over - Failure also has a lot to do with the lifts

High rep deadlifts are pretty dangerous depending on the weight you do to your 1RM. Without a belt I would not attempt really high rep deadlifts.

I don't use a belt or straps. The thing is that I want to increase my number of reps on the deadlift to at least 5 per set (I'm talking about 400 pounds or more now) because sometimes I think I'm lagging behind some of the other guys who post in here. I know we're not competing against each other, but I measure my progress against you guys ie you, Quag and a couple of other posters. I know I'm doing well but I can do better. For me I wait 15 - 20 secs before doing another rep on my high end dL's. TBH, I've felt kind of bad if I'm not lifting within 5 secs of lowering the weight to the floor. That's ONE of the reasons I meticulously log my rest breaks in my journal. But maybe I shouldn't feel so bad about that now.

Anyway, I'm going to get those reps up.
 

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I got up to 405 for five reps by training once a week for 3x5 for my deadlift. i slowly went up every week until I hit 405 about a year and a half ago. I followed the where to start post (second choice) in the vault for 9 months or so before I started posting my journal.

And there is nothing wrong with a little competition. I enjoy seeing everyone progress on the board and seeing you get the 400 lb deadlift Don was a great moment cause you wanted it so bad.
 

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You also have to look at relative strength, not just absolute strength. A 160 lb guy can't be expected to compete with someone who weighs 200+ lbs.
In which case you also have to look at height. Some really short guys (less than 5'6") are actually really built at that weight, more so than 6'4" 200+lbs of me.
 

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Yesterday was probably the toughest for deadlifting under my new regimen. I only got 9.25 reps which is a disappointment imo. I wish that my calluses wouldn't bother me while lifting.
 

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calluses are a sign of holding the bar incorrectly. You should NOT be holding the bar on the layer of skin below the fingers.

You SHOULD be holding the bar in your fingers at the very bottom of them.
 

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Drum&Bass said:
calluses are a sign of holding the bar incorrectly. You should NOT be holding the bar on the layer of skin below the fingers.

You SHOULD be holding the bar in your fingers at the very bottom of them.

If I'm reading your message correctly, what you're suggesting is that I hold the bar with my fingers curled around it. Is that correct?
 

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Being_the_Don said:
Yesterday was probably the toughest for deadlifting under my new regimen. I only got 9.25 reps which is a disappointment imo. I wish that my calluses wouldn't bother me while lifting.
sensitive eh? use some moisturizer on the skin. something with vitamin e.


coconut oil is fantastic for the skin. mostly when healing from things like burns and cuts.
 

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Well, I do them that way but the fingers on my left hand have a tendency to give which is why I began to grip the bar more tightly.
 

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Kerpal said:
I wish you would eat more :p
Not a chance. I don't want to gain anymore weight than I already have these past few months. I'm doing the combined workout to lose those unwanted pounds, you know. And to help it along I'm returning to the eating habits I had been practicing up until autumn 2008 which is when the unfortunate pounds started adding on.
 

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HERE is a good article on how to grip the bar correctly during deadlifts
 

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I-tallionStallion said:
HERE is a good article on how to grip the bar correctly during deadlifts

Thanks for the article, the guy's stance is the same as mine. Back when I started doing dLs about 2 years ago this summer, I watched stronglift's video demonstrating proper form. If my gym allows it, I'll probably start using some chalk.
 

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Just pulled 450lbs for 10 reps tonight no straps, no belts, no wraps, no shoes !! 100 % RAW !!
 

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Very nice DB! You must be able to do over 500 lbs now. $hit...Your going to be me to it! :)
 

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already hit 500 like 2 weeks ago, im looking towards 515 now
 

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Well I'll be damned...who knew grip made that much of a difference. I've been grippin' the bar wrong the whole time!

I'll be looking forward to my next deadlifting day, to try a new grip.

Many thanks DB...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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