"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Max kino but no kissing? wtf?

night101

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So, we go on a walk, i hold her hand, i'm rubbing her fingers; i start putting my arm around her so my hands on her bare stomach, i'm rubbing her all over her back, bare arms, shoulder, touching her legs, even on the inner thigh, i pick her up in my arms, we sit down and i'm moving her hair away from her face, and touching her face.. all of this and each time i go in for a kiss, she says can we please get back, and doesn't give me a "i want to be kissed look". i'm pretty sure if i did force my lips onto hers, which i could've, she wouldve rejected it.

thing is she's got a boyfriend and i asked her how its going, she replied, 'really well.' that didn't really prevent me from continuing to kino but i'll see her again, and i want a kiss reciprocated, not the awkwardness that would've followed after 'what are you doing, i have a boyfriend, etc.

anyone care to decipher for me/advice?

(fyi girl is asian and bf is afc afaik, shes the type that prefers a bit afc like a lot of the more innocent/nerdy asian girls)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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night101

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also, i guess my intent is more of a pua one, yah i can next her, but i like challenging situations and seeiong how far i can get
 

Lifeforce

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Women are usually alot more touchy with friends than men are. However going from touching to kissing is rather big emotionally. She got a boyfriend and feel guilty about nearly kissing you.

So you're gonna destroy her relationship and then next her?
 

slickaz

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ive had that before dude.
calm down...dont get pulled in too deep..

before i met this site..i had one of those.
she let me do alota kino and replied back in kind. but when i start it she'd say things like "please dont.." "ur temptin me so badly.." "dont kiss me but this is good.."

one day i got tired of the games and kissed her..she didnt hold back..she kissed me..half hour later..she just upped and opened my car door and ran into her house..

no bye nothing..half hour later i get a call from her, she never wants to see me again coz she feels bad that she hasnt yet completely broken up with her last bf..

but anyway..id suggest not going there..but if you want to get in..you may get in once..and then its over..but goodluk
 

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Uhhh. Well, here's a thought. Maybe she didn't want to escalate it any further than touching because she has a freaking BOYFRIEND! HELLO, ANYONE HOME? You see, the thing about women is that they don't like feeling like *****s, in case you didn't know that. Apparently touching is okay, but she seems to consider kissing as cheating, which she does not want to do.

So if you can't kiss while she has a boyfriend, what is the solution to your problem? Get rid of the boyfriend. I'm not saying knock him off or anything like that ('cause that's illegal, you know), but if he really is an AFC and you're a DJ (which I'm going to assume you are), then she should eventually realize that you're a much better choice and she'll go to you, but you have to give her time to see that. For now, keep all your kino under the radar. Then, when she comes to you, take it up a notch. Just don't do anything until they break up. Otherwise you're a jackass and you'll probably be unsuccessful.

Women will love you until someone better comes along. Be that someone.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Could be worse -- I met this girl at a concert last week. We were dancing together and she got her face really close to mine, gave me the bedroom eyes look, etc. I went in for the kiss and she turned her head, then immediately rolled out.

Whatever. This girl's got a boyfriend, and you've gotta make the determination as to whether or not you think it's worth the effort to try and bust that situation up. Otherwise, move onto women who want you and will reciprocate your affections.
 
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