"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mature Men perspective..is it b1@#$ to...?

women haze

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Let a woman walk in front of you during a date?

Usually, In a congested city example Washington DC people love to hog the streets...

I am the type of guy who curtiously moves behind so people dont run into each other...( I feel like this is a b1tch move on my part...thinking about not doing it anymore)

okay so here is what happened: let's say you are walking next to each other with your Date (I am the type to walk looking at her then straight ahead giving my attention)...and two people are coming up at the opposite end I move behind her so they could walk past then resume walking next to her...

Or you go to a resturant, open the Door for a woman and she walks in front, and also when guided to the table to sit.

Is this considered Chump in her eyes...??? Like instead should i be in front instead of behind like a little fag...

It angers me that people don't have any consideration for others.....Hog the **** like it is theirs.

I feel like to be a man in this dating world...any little negative you don't realize that you did will keep you out of dem drawers...you feel me?

I just wanted to get a mature man's perspective......:(
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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samspade said:
Don't overthink it. Just remember to LEAD.
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women haze said:
I am the type of guy who curtiously moves behind so people dont run into each other...( I feel like this is a b1tch move on my part...thinking about not doing it anymore)
Moving behind is just one option, cutting in between the two people (if one of them doesn't move out of the way) or placing your hand on your date hip to manuaver her in front of you is another.

women haze said:
Or you go to a resturant, open the Door for a woman and she walks in front, and also when guided to the table to sit.
Chivalry is dead my friend, you won't be getting any points for doing those things in today's dating world.
 

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If it's crowded, I usually walk in front of the bird and clear a path subtley with my elbows. It also gives me an excuse to "accidentally" elbow t*ssers on the street :)
Same applies to gigs etc. - I use myself (particularly elbows) to make sure the bird is comfortable with space.
I don't think I ever walk behind them unless the chips just happen to have fallen like that. Having said that, some birds are the "striding forward without checking you're still there" type so you find yourself walking behind sometimes.
 

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DJDamage said:
Chivalry is dead my friend, you won't be getting any points for doing those things in today's dating world.
Chivalry is dead because women are no longer precious things that we need to take care of. They're bytches and proud of it. Who the hell wants to protect and take care of a bytch?
 

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Generally it's proper form on a narrow sidewalk when you come upon other people to let the woman go ahead of you single file, unless there's a person with a dog coming toward you, then you go ahead. When the man goes ahead it looks like he's trying too hard to "protect" the woman and is a bit uncouth--like he's afraid the people coming toward him are dangerous or something.

And further, it's proper form when you, as a single man, come up on a man and a woman walking side-by-side... you pass them on the man's side. And frankly when that happens and I'm alone I'll even go so far as to give them a wide berth and step off the sidewalk so that the guy looks like a stud in front of his girl. We're all here to help each other.

I'm a big fan of proper form and manners and stuff. It doesn't hurt me with the chicks because it's a place that *I* want to come from, my respect for myself and others, not because I'm doing it for them.

If you "own" your behaviors you can do pretty much anything and chicks will dig it. Understand that and you'll be way ahead of the game. Sit down and think about what behaviors you want to have, and *why*, and then stick with them and nobody will fault you for it. Your behaviors are like windows into your core being. All a woman really cares about is that your core is solid, she really doesn't even care what that core is. If your core is solid enough it will displace hers and she will conform to you--no matter what type of core you have--that's what she wants to do. So if your behaviors are congruent and are firmly rooted in your core, you're good to go, whether you're a saint or a criminal. Really.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJDamage said:
Chivalry is dead my friend, you won't be getting any points for doing those things in today's dating world.
I've found Chivalry is a fine tool to woo the strong independent woman.
You still have to be illusive between outings (establish value and competition), but it does show interest from you while out.

If you've a few miles on you (like me), and you date divorced woman, doing things that their ex-husbands gave up doing long ago serves as an incredible panty remover.

I always gain huge points performing the simplest of courtesies which cuts down the need for larger gestures (financial/excessive time) that might be required to impress a high value woman.

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