"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Masturbation

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Tight topic...

So as I'm diving into the DJ lifestyle / philosophies, I keep running into negative energy around beatin it.

Does not tuggin really help you be more, confident, ****y, successful with women? Or is it justed used as a metafore for not being able to bang an HB?

Has anyone field tested this theory?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There's a massive thread on this very subject in The Archive sub-forum.
 

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I feel more hornier and bolder when I past the two day mark but I can never get past five. MIf you're going to whack off, do it every couple days.
 

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When I don't masturbate for 2 days or longer, I feel more energetic, both mentally as physically. Both my mind as my body just feel more fresh, I'm better rested and have better focus. I feel my mind is more turned inwards when I masturbate too much, I'm a bit disconnected from my environment. When I stop maturbating for a few days, I feel much more connected with my environment, my focus is turned outwards instead of inwards. This alone makes a BIG difference in interaction with girls! And of course: the less you masturbate, the higher your need for a woman to suck your c*ck HARD heheeh... But everbody knows that, right? :D
 

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Just stop looking at porn, you'll get the benefits of not jerking it, and still get to jerk it
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It's hard (haha no pun) the first few days but after a couple of weeks it'll be easy. Habits always take a lot of resolve and effort to change but it's worth it. Benefits are that it seems to work as both an anti-depressant and anxiolytic. Buddhism has a good lesson on this - attachment is suffering. So any kind of addiction, whether it's to masturbation, food, women, drugs, attention, gossip or pain will have the same effect.
 

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If I am not consistently having sex I will probably beat it every 3-4 days. I feel like this is healthy and I still am able to get into a sexual frame of mind when meeting women.
 

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Hell, Im trying to cut down to less than twice a day! I just listened to 'overcoming porn and masturbation addiction' hypnosis, and I came out of it horny! Im a freak!
 

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Kat Williams jokes about making himself go whack off in the bathroom of the club before he takes home another skanky ho, because after doing that, it won't seem like such a good idea any more.

Probably the right answer to the question is a balance between making you do things you regret because you're horny, versus not having the motivation to do what you should do because you're not horny enough.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Laziness = Masturbation.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My buddy pulls hot women constantly whenever we go out, yet whacks off every morning and every night. Whacking off doesn't effect his success with women; he pulls regardless. So, let that be a guide for you.
 

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Nothing wrong with Masturbation...Look at it like Practice. Focus upon when you reach your peak and stop..Kegel it then go again. See how long you last...
 

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women haze said:
Nothing wrong with Masturbation...Look at it like Practice. Focus upon when you reach your peak and stop..Kegel it then go again. See how long you last...
LMFAO... Too much detail..

I'm not really interested in jerk-off techniques, or practice regiments.

I was curious if there is anything behind not beatin it daily and being more successful with women, life, etc..

Seems like the Jury is split.
 

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edger said:
My buddy pulls hot women constantly whenever we go out, yet whacks off every morning and every night. Whacking off doesn't effect his success with women; he pulls regardless. So, let that be a guide for you.
The fact that you have knowledge on that kind of info must discomforting for your friend.
 

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Does anyone have any tips for keeping your mind of it.

I'm trying to go 1 week, without doing it. I have so far managed 48 hours and am getting horny
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This topic seems to appair and reappear on this forum. For the sceptics who have never tryed it, don't knock it until you try it. Abstaining does increase your vigour for life and really make you feel great. To go for prolonged durations is difficult, I get a girl to relieve me every few weeks. I have vowed never to fap again.
 

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r0cky said:
The fact that you have knowledge on that kind of info must discomforting for your friend.
Um, his friend could have told him. Once you get passed a certain age and you acquire a certain amount of wisdom, words like "masturbation," "penis," vagina," and "breasts," don't seem as comical and taboo.

Then, you can find yourself even having mature and not so serious discussions about it with other people...because those things are not "evil" or "ew, yucky gross."
 

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i said this when a similar topic came up recently and i'll say it again.

if you cannot both 1.) masturbate healthily and 2.) maintain a healthy sex drive/attraction to women then you have deeper issues than just spanking it

i have friends in LTR's who spank it when they feel like it but have no problems hooking up with their girls

masturbation is not a big deal. if you stop doing it, it's not like the matrix is solved and suddenly you have the raw masculine sex drive of a thousand men and will in turn bang every female in your path

a nut is a nut to me. whether you get it from your hand or from a female it doesn't change you
 

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So do you agree with the theory that abstaining from jacking off increases your testosterone level?
 

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Eternal_water said:
So do you agree with the theory that abstaining from jacking off increases your testosterone level?
well ive stopped for around two weeks now , and last time i danced with a girl i got a huge boner ,and she was rubbing all over it , for me , getting hard is like dangling a carrot in front of a donkey , so its a definate good thing to have in a club.

idk about testosterone , but i feel like i have higher energy and what not , if you watch those commercials of testosterone for those guys in their 50s, the things those pills claim to do , happen to you when you stop whacking it ,so even if its not actual testosterone , if it does the same thing =]

Ill also note i feel like its alot easier for me to do regular things that i was usually to lazy to do , I used to not shower dailey , or brush my teeth dailey , now that im not gonna fall back to "rosey palms" i feel the urge to be and look my best no matter where i go
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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