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Before I run I have to ejaculate, it helps me relax prior working out (especially running). I can't really explain why but I guess it's how I am.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Masturbating is it healthy or not?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is my answer:
If you believe that masturbating is unhealty, then it is and if you believe it to be healthy then it is healthy. Both ways you're right.
Just an example:
David masturbates three times a week, and when masturbating he does it fast and thinking that how bad it can be for his health. When masturbating he thinks of pornstars and other women which he hasn't slept with. After the masturbation David feels guilty for doing it and thinks it will affect his body badly.
Bob on the other hand masturbates three times a day, and when masturbating he thinks that it is healty. He imagines women he knows and which he may or may not have had sex. After that he feels relaxed and has no guilty feelings.
Your body reacts to your mind.
My experience:
A couple of years in the past, i masturbated a lot. Thinking it was bad, but i still did it and thougt i couldn't live without it. I really saw how bad this was for my health (feeling tired a lot) and for my mind (not engaging in social interactions, sarging etc). Then i cut back, didn't masturbated for about 2 months! The first 3\4 weeks were hard, but i felt really good. Not tired and it was much easier to approach girls.
But the 5\6 week, without any sex for 2 months i began to feel again tired and i wasn't masturbating (think my testosterone levels were going down).
So now it is sometimes, first listen to your body. How does it react and do you really need it. If you're having sex 3 times a week sex.. then don't masturbate. But if you on a dry spell, then i think it's better to do from time to time. But take your time, and try to not come to fast and fool your mind in thinking it's real sex. It must be a learning experience with your body.
The whole point about this is, that your body reacts to negative feelings!
If you believe that masturbating is unhealty, then it is and if you believe it to be healthy then it is healthy. Both ways you're right.
Just an example:
David masturbates three times a week, and when masturbating he does it fast and thinking that how bad it can be for his health. When masturbating he thinks of pornstars and other women which he hasn't slept with. After the masturbation David feels guilty for doing it and thinks it will affect his body badly.
Bob on the other hand masturbates three times a day, and when masturbating he thinks that it is healty. He imagines women he knows and which he may or may not have had sex. After that he feels relaxed and has no guilty feelings.
Your body reacts to your mind.
My experience:
A couple of years in the past, i masturbated a lot. Thinking it was bad, but i still did it and thougt i couldn't live without it. I really saw how bad this was for my health (feeling tired a lot) and for my mind (not engaging in social interactions, sarging etc). Then i cut back, didn't masturbated for about 2 months! The first 3\4 weeks were hard, but i felt really good. Not tired and it was much easier to approach girls.
But the 5\6 week, without any sex for 2 months i began to feel again tired and i wasn't masturbating (think my testosterone levels were going down).
So now it is sometimes, first listen to your body. How does it react and do you really need it. If you're having sex 3 times a week sex.. then don't masturbate. But if you on a dry spell, then i think it's better to do from time to time. But take your time, and try to not come to fast and fool your mind in thinking it's real sex. It must be a learning experience with your body.
The whole point about this is, that your body reacts to negative feelings!
QQ: No one said anything about abstaining from sex. Just masturbation, which brings me to:
This is a sponsored message by your community friend SamePendo
I invite you all to take part in my 6 month thingy. In case you haven't read the first post, there are 2 rules.
1) NO masturbating.
2) Push yourself to be a man.
Emphasis on 2. There is no use in just abstaining from masturbating, but thinking about doing it with your eyes like an owl looking at porn even more time than you did before.
Angelus brings very, very good points. Don't get all sassy on our asses. We're not telling you to stop having sex. When you think about it, mbing isn't worth it. There are much better things to do with your time.
This is a sponsored message by your community friend SamePendo
I invite you all to take part in my 6 month thingy. In case you haven't read the first post, there are 2 rules.
1) NO masturbating.
2) Push yourself to be a man.
Emphasis on 2. There is no use in just abstaining from masturbating, but thinking about doing it with your eyes like an owl looking at porn even more time than you did before.
Angelus brings very, very good points. Don't get all sassy on our asses. We're not telling you to stop having sex. When you think about it, mbing isn't worth it. There are much better things to do with your time.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
Don't believe everything you read.
It does drain your energy and as in boxing - 'will make your legs weak'.
If you work out alot, your energy is drained. If you work out and don't jack it, you have that extra drive, not only at the gym, but for taking action and getting girls. If a hunter is starved, he'll go hunting.
Don't knock it till you've tried yet. You'll feel super ..like rust in the veins when not jacking it. It's a good feeling and keep it controlled and use to your advantage.
It does drain your energy and as in boxing - 'will make your legs weak'.
If you work out alot, your energy is drained. If you work out and don't jack it, you have that extra drive, not only at the gym, but for taking action and getting girls. If a hunter is starved, he'll go hunting.
Don't knock it till you've tried yet. You'll feel super ..like rust in the veins when not jacking it. It's a good feeling and keep it controlled and use to your advantage.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Expert doctors also tell us not to eat fish, meat, fruit, bread, salt, sugar because it can lead to cancer oh and margirine because it can make us blind. These experts tell us not to wash our cloths in washing powder because it can lead to cancer. They tell us we should not drink any alcohol at all because it is a poision the even in miniscule amounts can damage your liver, they then tell us that we should drink alcohol because it slows down the ageing process. They say X-RAYS are bad for you and give you cancer, then they say X-RAYS are good for you and prevent cancer.GatorBait said:
Doctormad
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I remember when I was young, I was taught that masturbation and looking at porn was wrong. Somehow during my late teen years I aquired the belief that porn was not bad for your, unless it was an addiction. The same goes with masturbation.
Fast forward countless years later. I am now convinced that there is ABSOLUTELY no worth in porn. All porn does is sell a fantasy, and all masturbation does is release the tension from said fantasy. Years ago, my rationale for watching porn was to find out how tab A fits into slot B and how to manuever said tab A. Now that I have enough experience, there is absolutely no reason I should be jacking off to porn anymore...
...Except for one problem, I am addicted to porn. There, I said it. Two weeks ago I decided to engage in an experiment of my own. I know there have been countless guys here who have sworn off masturbation and porn, but I wanted to see the results for myself. For a whole week (not long, yeah I know but I used to jack off multiple times a day), I went without looking at porn or masturbating. The next week, I masturbated and looked at porn just like I regularly did. Here were my findings...
I found out that during the week I did not masturbate, I did feel a lot more confident. I could think clearer and my severe ADD did not affect me as much as it normally does. I could converse better, I was in a better mood, and most importantly, I wanted to be around people. However, I did still feel a bit shy around women.
The next week, I masturbated like I used to regularly do. At first there was not really any noticable difference. As the week progressed I noticed a distinctive personality change. I became more withdrawn, and less sociable. I started to stammer more, I started to lose confidence in my job. Whereas before I would go out for walks and bike rides, I would stay inside and watch TV, or worse sit in front of the computer and...you know. Worst of all was my ADD symptoms and my anxiety. I started to lose concentration, and became more absentminded. Even worse, I became more stressed out and high strung. I became defensive and even my co workers finally said something. In the end I will go so far as to say that excessive masturbation cost me my job (no big loss).
Conclusion: I firmly believe that masturbation by itself was not the cause of my shift, however excessive masturbation was. My problem was that after I jerked off for the first time in a week, I remembered how good it felt and therefore wanted to do it over again, which of course led me down that familiar and rather unpleasent road. This experiment also solidified my belief that porn, no matter what context its in, is bad in all forms. I am now convinced that we as men, should be the ones creating the porn, not jacking off to images based on bloated fantasy.
I am going to go without masturbating, but for at least two weeks this time. And I am going to do whatever I can to prevent myself from the temptation to look at porn again.
Fast forward countless years later. I am now convinced that there is ABSOLUTELY no worth in porn. All porn does is sell a fantasy, and all masturbation does is release the tension from said fantasy. Years ago, my rationale for watching porn was to find out how tab A fits into slot B and how to manuever said tab A. Now that I have enough experience, there is absolutely no reason I should be jacking off to porn anymore...
...Except for one problem, I am addicted to porn. There, I said it. Two weeks ago I decided to engage in an experiment of my own. I know there have been countless guys here who have sworn off masturbation and porn, but I wanted to see the results for myself. For a whole week (not long, yeah I know but I used to jack off multiple times a day), I went without looking at porn or masturbating. The next week, I masturbated and looked at porn just like I regularly did. Here were my findings...
I found out that during the week I did not masturbate, I did feel a lot more confident. I could think clearer and my severe ADD did not affect me as much as it normally does. I could converse better, I was in a better mood, and most importantly, I wanted to be around people. However, I did still feel a bit shy around women.
The next week, I masturbated like I used to regularly do. At first there was not really any noticable difference. As the week progressed I noticed a distinctive personality change. I became more withdrawn, and less sociable. I started to stammer more, I started to lose confidence in my job. Whereas before I would go out for walks and bike rides, I would stay inside and watch TV, or worse sit in front of the computer and...you know. Worst of all was my ADD symptoms and my anxiety. I started to lose concentration, and became more absentminded. Even worse, I became more stressed out and high strung. I became defensive and even my co workers finally said something. In the end I will go so far as to say that excessive masturbation cost me my job (no big loss).
Conclusion: I firmly believe that masturbation by itself was not the cause of my shift, however excessive masturbation was. My problem was that after I jerked off for the first time in a week, I remembered how good it felt and therefore wanted to do it over again, which of course led me down that familiar and rather unpleasent road. This experiment also solidified my belief that porn, no matter what context its in, is bad in all forms. I am now convinced that we as men, should be the ones creating the porn, not jacking off to images based on bloated fantasy.
I am going to go without masturbating, but for at least two weeks this time. And I am going to do whatever I can to prevent myself from the temptation to look at porn again.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's not about masturbation itself. It's PROVEN that not releasing sperm for a whole week increases your chances of getting a prostate cancer. Obviously, this is not something that concerns people in their 20s, but after you are 35, why would you want to risk this stuff?AngelusPUA said:
Anyway, I disagree with the whole purpose of this post. I've been fùcking AT LEAST once a week (usually 2-3 times per week) for the last 2 years and I masturbate even more. Masturbation does not prevent me from fùcking. Hell, it often happens that I have sex 5-6 times in a day and that night I go to bed and masturbate (and I had already masturbated when I woke up that morning and I will masturbate again the morning after).
Usually, the more I masturbate and the more I want to fùck and viceversa. Obviously, it's not that I have the urge to fùck immediately after I masturbate, but a hour later I'm hornier than before and I will do anything to have some real sex.
All in all, I think this is too subjective of a topic to say that "masturbation is good" or "masturbation is bad". Try not to do it if you want and see if it helps you or not. It's all up to each one.
Well, I'm 31 years old and I do it 2 to 5 times a day for about 6 years now. I am a complete slave to porn. I've never had contact (kiss, hug, etc.) with a female so I'm constantly horny. I beat off to any attractive woman I see every day. I take a mental snapshot of her and I use that to "complete" later on. It's really hard to be out and about in public because I will get an erection ANYTIME I see an attractive woman. I need to think about a video game or comic book to lose it. (these two for some reason tend to work the best.)
So my advice is not to even do it if you can help it. Like "Noob" above me, Ive started looking at specific fetishes and they change daily becase I think it may be coming desensitizing to me.You'll end up like me in time. I've kind of accepted it. But it does suck and this can't be healthy.
So my advice is not to even do it if you can help it. Like "Noob" above me, Ive started looking at specific fetishes and they change daily becase I think it may be coming desensitizing to me.You'll end up like me in time. I've kind of accepted it. But it does suck and this can't be healthy.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
Saiyan, you need quit substituting porn for the real deal. There is no comparison when getting the real thing as opposed to porn when you're really attracted to said girl.
A grown man should not have to (or be reduced to) jacking it. A grown man should be able to have his access to that which nature provides, a female for sexual pleasure and companionship.
A grown man should not have to (or be reduced to) jacking it. A grown man should be able to have his access to that which nature provides, a female for sexual pleasure and companionship.
Believe me, If I could get the real deal, I don't think I'd be reduced to masturbation. I've been through more "life plans", makeovers and "boot camps" than I can count. Man was I desperate for a relationship around age 20-28 so I tried everything. The way I see it, my right hand, at least, won't reject me. 
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I see nothing wrong with infrequent masturbation.
Frequent masturbation, defined as daily, or multiple times daily, can create the habit of requiring pornographic sex or super intense sex over the type you have with your woman/women. If you burn up that drive, I can tell from experience that it diminishes how hard you can be when boning your woman. It can diminish the sensitivity you experience with your woman/women. If you don't have a woman, it's motivating to get one. If you do, it's motivating to keep you sexual and super hard. My girl definately notices when I haven't versus when I have. And when I haven't, my mood is very much more aggressive than it already is.
I'm just posting my experiences though. Just my facts. Buy or sell them as you please. When I was younger, it was the only and best option. But when you have a woman, or the ability to find one, it seems it serves me best to preserve it. From time to time, I will if I see great pics or something, I haven't been with my girl. But by and large I preserve the ENERGY of it for other things. Not to mention, the moments you feel yourself CAVING into the desires, do something you want to do. Go read. Go lift. Go practice. DO something. Hill called it sexual transmutation.
A-Unit
I see nothing wrong with infrequent masturbation.
Frequent masturbation, defined as daily, or multiple times daily, can create the habit of requiring pornographic sex or super intense sex over the type you have with your woman/women. If you burn up that drive, I can tell from experience that it diminishes how hard you can be when boning your woman. It can diminish the sensitivity you experience with your woman/women. If you don't have a woman, it's motivating to get one. If you do, it's motivating to keep you sexual and super hard. My girl definately notices when I haven't versus when I have. And when I haven't, my mood is very much more aggressive than it already is.
I'm just posting my experiences though. Just my facts. Buy or sell them as you please. When I was younger, it was the only and best option. But when you have a woman, or the ability to find one, it seems it serves me best to preserve it. From time to time, I will if I see great pics or something, I haven't been with my girl. But by and large I preserve the ENERGY of it for other things. Not to mention, the moments you feel yourself CAVING into the desires, do something you want to do. Go read. Go lift. Go practice. DO something. Hill called it sexual transmutation.
A-Unit
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
It's a matter of balance, like anything else. If you're getting enough action, it's unnecessary. If you're not, too much can drain your energy, and too little can enable desperate AFC tendencies to surface (trying too hard to get laid). Balance, grasshopper.
AngelusPUA
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I would like to clarify something I get laid 1-4 times a week so that’s why I can relax on the jerking off. If you never have sex and/or get head then you probably need to masturbate once a week or else you will become and AFC. So if you are not getting laid at all jerk off once a week but don’t do it too much once a day is bad for you (counterproductive).
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Damn son, you need to make up your mind. I hope this indecisive trait is not due to some excessive jerkin'.AngelusPUA said:
Doctormad said:
Don't take this personally, but it almost sounds like a confession at Masturbator's Anonymous. The bluntness cracked me up quite a bit.saiyan23 said:
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My mind is made up I just assumed when I said not to masturbate that people have sex at least once a week but then I realized that unfortunately not everybody male has sex at least once a week so I rephrased
Well I'm just saying a decision's gotta be made towards good or bad, or neither. If you have been saying it's bad but then turn around and say it's okay to do once a week, that's like saying it's okay to smoke as long as you get a new pair of lungs every once in a while.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.