"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Master Your Studies

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But what does this have to do with getting women?!
Ye Old DJ Bible Cliche: Being a Don Juan is more than getting women. It is about being an all-out Renaissance man.
So. This is for those of you that want to improve in your studies and make better grades. These are the ideas I used to go from the class dunce to making damn near perfect marks.


On the syllabus:

Motivation
Organisation
Time Management
Major Projects
80/20 Rule
Modeling
Revision Methods
Tests

Motivation: a never ending kick up the ass.

To succeed in anything, you need a burning desire that is going to carry you through and give you the motivation you need. The people who get the highest marks are the people who have a real desire and impulse towards them. These are the people who are training for certain careers, or hot to get into a certain school, or who get a lot of status from their loved ones from studying, etc.

You'll only ever get the results you absolutely intend to get, rather than the results you'd like to get. It is the same with studies as it is with women. Sit down and decide what fantastic grades will do for you, because you will need a compelling reason to push you through those tests.

Organisation

Most people see organization as a hassle. In truth, the more organized you are, the more EASY you make things for yourself.

-Write down your homework assignments clearly, with clear deadlines, and in a proper planner, not some crappy free one. You’ll respect it more if you buy it yourself.
-Ask your tutors when the key tests are coming up, and get the exact dates. This way you get to train for them properly. Write them in red pen on a wall planner you see every day.

You should constantly be trying to out-do yourself in how professional you can be in your studies. Ask yourself every day, ‘how can I be more professional & organized?’. Find the answers and you will make things a lot easier.

Time Management

What you need to do with your time is to make it work for you. The more you plan what you do in advance, the more time you’ll have for your studies and the more quality work you will get done. Keep asking yourself: ‘What is the most important thing for me to be doing right now?’.

Daily Habits

Work out everything you need to do in a day, and write it out as a to-do list. Put all your tasks in order of priority, from A-F, and work on the important stuff first.

Make a plan that has a space for every day of the week. At the start of the week, work out what you are going to need to do that week and block it in. Find a place for everything. Bear in mind other commitments or stuff you are going to do. If you don’t precisely block out time for your studies, you won’t do them to the level that you should.

Do this every day before you go to sleep

Make a to-do list for the next day.
Pack for your classes.
Plan out all the work you need to do the next day.

Time Survey

Work out how much time you’ve got. Add up how much free time you have, when you’re not in classes or asleep, in a day. Then factor in work or other commitments you can’t get out of. Then factor in the exact amount of time you need to spend in private study (outside of classes). If you have loads of free time left, maybe you should devote more to your studies. If you’ve got barely any, just revise smarter and cut down your hours (see 80/20 rule).]

Major projects

Got a project you need to complete by a deadline?

1)Work out everything you need to do.
2)Work out what’s most important.
3)Make a plan that has a space for every day you’ve got to work on the project, from now until the deadline.
4) Plan out when you will do every single thing, in order of importance! Do important stuff now.
5)Make the last week before the deadline completely free, this way you have time to fix any problems, or just chill.

Continual Revision: Tiny effort, big results.

Give ½ an hour, or an hour, one day a week to looking through your notes and reminding yourself of the key information. It’s like lifting weights – when the test comes your muscles will already be primed, when everyone else is frantically overtraining for it!

The 80/20 Rule

This remarkably accurate rule says that 20% of what you do is responsible for 80% of your results, and 80% of what you do makes up only 20% of your results.

Have you ever busted your ass revising a book-load of topics for a test, then found that only a very small part of your knowledge made up most of your marks? That’s the 80/20 rule in action. It applies to virtually everything.

Apply this to your studies and it will save you loads of time.

1) Break your subject down into it’s component parts (ie. the different topics, study areas, lessons, etc).
2) Work out the key parts of the course which are likely to get you big marks in the exam if you learn them by heart (the magic 20%).
3) Spend 80% of your time learning these key areas, and 20% of your time learning the rest of the course.

I was slogging through a huge book in English. Using the 80/20 rule, I realized that by intensely studying only a few key passages, I could get maximum marks in the exam, without having to cover the rest of the book in detail. I got full marks by concentrating on a few pages!

If you want to really kick ass with this method, 80/20 all of your subjects with the help of your tutors, and keep doing it until you know exactly which bits are really important.

Have a review

Every two weeks, go to each of your tutors and have a discussion about how you are doing. Ask them what you should be focusing on, how you could improve, and what your weak points are. You’ll get a lot of very useful feedback.

Get to the highest level

The easiest way to get to a higher grade is to ‘model’ those who are already there. Get hold of specimen papers by top achieving students, and break them down, work out how they are written. I improved by a grade in one subject just by analyzing the writing + planning style of better students, and using it.

Revising properly

Personally, I’ve always found that rewriting my notes in bullet points is the fastest way to learn. It’s boring, but it works.

Learning Styles

What is the easiest way for you to learn?

Auditory
If you’re an auditory learner, you remember stuff you hear. You should talk through your studies with your tutor, tape and listen back to your notes, and even record your classes with a Dictaphone so you can play back the important stuff to complement your notes.

Visual
If you’re a visual learner, you remember images and graphics easily. Annotate your notes with pictures, stick up revision cards around the place and associate the information with a certain area, or take dry facts and give them a visual significance (ie. imagine every detail of a war, with the date of it sliced into someone’s back. That’s how I passed History).

Kinaesthetic
If you’re a Kino learner (ha ha), then your best bet is to make everything real for yourself. You remember things that happen, that people do, things you hold in your hand, etc. Act out key passages if you’re studying a play. Revise with your friends.

Seclude!

The real key to revision, as I’ve learnt the long and hard way, is to seclude yourself in a room that is quiet and well-appointed, and get down to it! Take regular breaks and revise in 30 minute bursts. But keep focused. To get good results, you will sometimes feel like a monk. But it will be worth it!

My two favourite methods

Index cards
Break subjects down onto 3x5 index cards, with a few cards for each topic. Then number them and keep them in a folder. You can:
- Keep the cards in your wallet and look at them frequently.
- Organize them in terms of priority.
- Stick them up around the house where you will see them.

Notes on MP3

Record your notes onto computer, convert them to MP3, and stick them on your player. I listened to my notes during bus rides, chores, etc.

The Test

1.Start with exercise. Get the adrenaline going.
2.Revise your key information on index cards, but stop an hour before the test.
3.When you get in, write down key facts on a blank sheet of paper, so you aren’t struggling to remember them in the heat of battle.
4.When you get the paper, stare it in the eyes and think: ‘You’re mine’.
5.Work out exactly how much time you’ll spend on each question. Write out a plan for each one in shorthand note format. Cross out the plan at the end of the test. Spend about 25% of your time on the plan, then the writing is easy.
6.Take water and earplugs. Don’t let someone’s cough stand between you and a grade.

So there you go

Apply these ideas and you should see better results. But as with everything else, the bottom line is, you need to bust your ass a little to do well in studies. Put in the hard work, and use the ideas of this article to make sure you’re doing the right things, and get ready for that pummeling you will receive from your classmates on results day when they see your A-grades!

PS. There is more to add to this, if you guys like it I will develop it. Also, if anyone has something to add, PM me and I'll put it in.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WOW....all these big words really got me inspired. But im really confus r u talkin bout life or some test comin up? THanks for spentin tha time typin all these big words, i learned alot like the word"adrenaline" lol....learnin somthing new
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That's cool. We were discussing Renaissance Man in World Civ, and I thought I might try and become one, since I never just wanted girls from the DJ lifestyle, but to have the best life I know, and leave an impression on everyone I meet.
 

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Continual Motivation

Here's how to stay on track.

The Key to Continual Motivation

I think the key to motivation is to have a lot of really good, clearly defined reasons. When you know very clearly why you are doing something, and you desperately want it, then the question isn't how to get motivated but how to stop and back off.

The Right Reasons

In relation to studies, I used to study because 'my parents want me to'. **** reason, **** results. I'd just do pictures in class. But when the big tests came up, I decided I wanted to get the highest grades in order to 'prove to everyone I could'. Not a great reason, but certainly an inspiring one. So I did good. Then, the next year, I went for gold to prove to myself I could stick to a goal and achieve it. Much better reason, great results.

This year, I moved to a tiny village which does my head in. Also, I became eligible for university. And I wanted a challenge. So there's a whole bunch of reasons: 'escape this hellhole, get to a great university in a city, open up a lot of new opportunities, and see how far I can go with this'. That was the motivation needed.

So when you do anything and need motivation, sit down and really work out why you're trying to achieve it. And I mean look into the future and see what it's going to do for you. The further you look, the more you work out how achievement will help you, the more you'll be inspired.


If It's On Paper, It's Real

And write it down! Get into the habit of writing stuff down. If it's in your head, it'll get lost. If it's on paper, it's real. Anything you want to do, write it down on paper, express it positively and clearly, with deadlines if necessary, and say what you'll actually DO ie. 'I will work hard, every day, to get a First and admission into X college'. Put it somewhere you see it every day.

Our brains are used to filtering stuff out, so to make something stick you really need to bash it in there. That's why successful people write down all their targets and look at them every day.
I got 95% on my papers this year, and that's just from the motivation of having the target grades on the wall. That is constant motivation.

You'll know when you've got the right reasons and the right targets when the pleasure of working towards them is greater than the pain of the discipline. And then there's no stopping you.


Get the Scarface Edge

It's good to have a clear idea of your future too. I'm not saying plan it all out to the last detail cause it takes all the fun out of it, but if you know YOU ARE GOING WHERE YOU REALLY WANT TO GO, you don't need to worry about having the fuel to get there. It just comes. Look at Tony Montana from Scarface!

Gotta stop typing now, you've got me going... but... desire is a very powerful quality. It seems the guys who improve on this site are motivated by a very strong desire to be better. If you can desire something enough, I mean so it burns you up, you'll get it.

To make desire real, the easiest thing to do is visualise it. Play it over in your head... getting those grades, that result... because if you imagine something with strong emotion, to your brain it's the same as achieving it.

PS. If you like this thread, then please reply cause I'm getting drowned out by 'what kind of sink cleaner does a DJ use?' type posts :D
 
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Great post. Definitely Sticky material.

It's best to develop good study habits at a young age. Always plan ahead. You don't want to end up struggling to meet the requirements of a University because of a low GPA and low SAT scores. Extracurricular activities (sports teams, clubs, student government...etc) looks good in a HS resume and a great way of meeting new people. Try to get feedback from all your teachers (even if they are a total b*tch), if you got questions/ comments don't hesitate to ask.
 

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Its really Good. Planning and organizing is very important for better management.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm really glad fedrik dug this thread up..great 2 posts! I've been thinking about the need to plan and motivate myself more lately and this gave me a clear insight into the ways of achieving it. Thanks!
 

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I've only glanced over your post but I'm already in agreement with you. It's already been two years since I graduated high school and I regret not being able to study harder to get into a good university or college. And the reason why is because I frequent the university my friends go to and it honestly looks like the best 4 years of my life are waiting for me. Right now I'm studying my ass off to get into that same university.
 

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Thanks man I really need this right now. I've missed almost all the thirs term in my senior year due to an injury so as you can imagine I'm struggling. In a post I've been writing as a high school guide I was going to cover grades because it's something people rarely mention here. Despite that it is very important even if it's not as exciting as girls. Although if I was to write anything about how to set up a schedual and be disciplined about it I would be a hypocrit at the moment. A few things though:

-Set your standards high! This is true with women, grades and life. If you don't aim to get an A you wont achieve it. You will sabotage yourself so you don't do as much work. If you aim for the top you will find yourself doing more and doing better.
-Get into the HABIT of doing work. It's just a habit, and one of the most important you can develop. Just think you only have to do homework for 30 days in a row before it becomes harder to not do it! If you aren't in your senior year you wont have to do as much, but if you get yourself in this habit now you will be far better off when it becomes neccesary.
-Just because other people aren't doing work isn't an excuse for you not to do any. Take responsibility for your own time.
-If anyone gives you crap for getting good grades, just remember it's because they are jealous. They will deny it (of course) but everyone secretly wishes they could get good grades. Therefore getting good grades actually build a type of respect.
-Take a few minutes every night to go over what you learnt that day. It's probably the last thing you feel like doing but it is worth it. Our brains forget stuff quickly unless it is repeated. Simply going over everything quickly after you have learnt it can make you remember a lot more.

That's all from me.
 

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Good stuff.
We need more threads like this.

Organized, easy to read. Good job! :up:
 
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