Massive DJ turning point!

[playa99]

It was years ago I joined this website.. the typical innocent AFC with no balls who got hurt cause he couldn't pull his "love"

I read the material, changed the way I acted and dressed, hit the gym, got a brace. I then wound up with a girlfriend! Sweet right?

Yes and no!

Lets fast forward 5 years into the future. I've had several relationships, dated several HOT and some NOT SO HOT women. I've had problems with gambling and a career change! All part of me finding myself and the route I want to pursue in life, I've seen major highs and major lows! I've remained faithful at times and NOT so much in relationships.

I'm going to relay to you guys the point I'm at now, which serves as crucial advice!

I've got to a point where despite the problems and ups and downs I've had in my younger life I am doing well! I own a company whereby revenue grew by 100% last year!

I'm working a lot and it is opening new doors to me! I have a beautiful girlfriend and I've done this all for ME. No-one else, determination and hard work combined with having patience and knowledge have got me where I am now. Hard work means nothing if there's no logic behind it, no end goal!

Garnering attention off women is a side effect of self improvement.

Despite the positives, I've now got a decision to make. I look at the friends I've got now and the circles I'm hanging in. The guys are immature and although they have careers carved out there mindset is different, they aren't as mature minded, I've found this is holding me back! They've started to do drugs and this isn't for me, I want no part of it! There becomes a point where you either stay where you are, or you leave your past behind in order to grow further!

By no means am I falling out or cutting ties with these guys, they will still be my friends, I'm just progressing and they will be a less direct part of my life.

My point is different stages of life come with different people and different priorities, you've got to decide on that first and foremost, it is only a decision you can make, and you can have major shocks about who is and isn't supportive. Be bold, be confident and most importantly, be happy!

 

[TheException]

I've got to a point where despite the problems and ups and downs I've had in my younger life I am doing well! I own a company whereby revenue grew by 100% last year!

I'm working a lot and it is opening new doors to me! I have a beautiful girlfriend and I've done this all for ME. No-one else, determination and hard work combined with having patience and knowledge have got me where I am now. Hard work means nothing if there's no logic behind it, no end goal!

The epitome of "becoming the prize".

Garnering attention off women is a side effect of self improvement.

Exactly. The majority of men have this a$$backwards.

Despite the positives, I've now got a decision to make. I look at the friends I've got now and the circles I'm hanging in. The guys are immature and although they have careers carved out there mindset is different, they aren't as mature minded, I've found this is holding me back! They've started to do drugs and this isn't for me, I want no part of it! There becomes a point where you either stay where you are, or you leave your past behind in order to grow further!

By no means am I falling out or cutting ties with these guys, they will still be my friends, I'm just progressing and they will be a less direct part of my life.

My point is different stages of life come with different people and different priorities, you've got to decide on that first and foremost, it is only a decision you can make, and you can have major shocks about who is and isn't supportive. Be bold, be confident and most importantly, be happy!

Ive gone through the exact same.....although I had to cut ties.

Im going to quote Eric Thomas...."Dont ask whats wrong with something....ask whats right with it". Quit saying weed "isnt bad for me"....start asking "how is weed helping me?" Its a mindset shift and a very powerful one at that. Surround yourself with things that benefit YOU....while limiting things that dont.

 

[playa99]

The epitome of "becoming the prize".

Exactly. The majority of men have this a$$backwards.

Ive gone through the exact same.....although I had to cut ties.

Im going to quote Eric Thomas...."Dont ask whats wrong with something....ask whats right with it". Quit saying weed "isnt bad for me"....start asking "how is weed helping me?" Its a mindset shift and a very powerful one at that. Surround yourself with things that benefit YOU....while limiting things that dont.

The last point you make is very interesting!

Something a lot of guys need to take on board.

I've been reading the art of War and the wolf of wall street books as of late, both have given me major insights into self improvement on a HIGHER level!

 

[playa99]

Agreed, unfortunately its often the wrong kind of woman(status wh0res, gold diggers, branch swingers of both varieties). This is what our mothers never told us. Just be careful with your newfound success. As I've climbed the social ladder(and fallen a few rungs financially on the way) I've noticed myself attracting that new type of toxic woman. Also, you can tend to get too comfortable that the women will maintain IL just because of the status. Game and awareness that comes with it is ALWAYS king in my opinion.

Anyway, congratulations!

Thanks for the kind words man!

Yeah, I've come to realize that the dating game is made up of a majority of LOW quality women, equally there is a lot of low quality men also!

My main aspect of self improvement is completely internal. I agree, game and awareness are ALWAYS king and are key to finding and weeding out a quality woman!

I personally don't focus on social ladders to much. The reason being as you improve you open doors to new places and climbing to a higher status and having more social influence in your own circles. I focus on improvement and let the side effects come with it!

 

[CaptainSaveAh0]

Good post OP.

I feel the exact same as you. A lot of my friends went down the wrong path but the ones who didn't are now my closest buddies. It's important to surround yourself with like minded people. I am interested in investing and entrepreneurship and I am finding a lot of new friends with similar interests as mine.

If you surround yourself with the wrong crowd you can end up in big sh1t, regardless if you are doing anything wrong or not. Glad you are promoting self improvement because that's what I am all about also. Once you start succeeding woman will start noticing that and start chasing after you as your value increases.

Keep it up.