Mass Texting for social proof and to bring back the dead

[yuppaz]

Not really sure if this should qualify as a tip or not so posting it here. I've been using mass texts lately to keep stale numbers around / somewhat more lively (if the girl is hot but is non-responsive for whatever reason...or even if I f*cked up the interaction somehow...which admittedly happens a lot). Here's what I do:


1. Have a group on my phone of non - active but hot potentials. Maybe we dated and things fizzled, maybe she NEVER got back to me whatever. I'll sometimes include girls that are somewhat active, but I just don't care that much about for whatever reason. I will leave out active girls that are responsive and DTF

2. Whenever there is an event, or something significant going on I will send them a mass text to let them know about it. I'll make it sound fun, but be non-nonchalant about it

Here's what happens when I do this:
1. I am communicating with them without OBVIOUSLY doing so just to get a conversation started with them (they know it's a mass text). So you aren't coming from a WANTING something from them standpoint...still have power
2. I am showing them that I have a social circle and am a leader in that social circle (even though I don't really...) I am a leader = Alpha guy (which ups my value)
3. I am giving them a great reason to get back to me, without them feeling awkward about doing so (they may like me but are worried about how to broach the subject / re-initiate with me if they want to....because maybe things have changed since I met them 3 months ago, maybe she's single now and wants my **** where before she wasn't)
4. It shows them I have a life, that I am not just some dude sitting at home whacking it to porn.


So ..... sometimes they will get back to me and want to join me (boom that's a date)
Sometimes more then one does (boom competition, more social proof)
Sometimes they can't make it, but can now initiate a text conversation with me which will lead to a date later

I've been having great results with this, and have even converted some LJBF's interest


All in all, it's a good case for not deleting older numbers (unless the girl was a real ***** or whatever or asked you to delete it) and building up a base to work off of. Try it out boys!

p.s. The larger the list being sent the more social proof you have, so even if 20 out of 50 in your list have NEVER gotten back, still not a bad reason to keep them around. Also helps to have an unlimited txt plan.:rockon:

 

[f283000]

Here's my 2 cents

When it comes to failed relationships it is men who are the chumps not the women. A woman will give you the friend card, cut off contact with you, not call you any more and delete you from her online sites. It is us guys who want to keep them around, refuse to give up on them and delete them from our lives in the hopes of something working out in the future when you know nothing will ever happen.

Do women that turn us down all of a sudden start inviting us to parties, wanting us to become part of their social circle and what not? Of course not! Women are very close guarded when it comes to their social circle and cliques. Women that turn us down will usually give us the friend card, be polite and keep us at a friendship level without wanting to see us and actually hang out.

Men need to start acting like men again. If a woman doesn't give you what you want then remove her from your life! Don't waste your time trying to be friends, inviting her to your social circle WHEN THAT SHOULD BE A REWARD FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR! You are rewarding her without she deserving it.

Inviting a woman to join your social circle should only be done when your status with her is already established. It's a reward for her being good to you and establishing some sort of relationship.

 

[Scars]

I've always kind of done this, but never really thought consciously of it until now.

When I get bored, or get to the point where I feel I'm under a dry spell I will mass text just about every girl in my phone. I start off talking to them all and slowly drop one as they conversation dies, or if she is being boring. Eventually it leads me down to one girl, the one with the most interest and kept mine the whole time. Now I know who to hit up. And the other girls get a raised interest because I suddenly just disappeared and ignored them. They love it.

I do this about every couple weeks, give or take. It allows me to constantly spin 15+ so plates at once. (If you want to consider girls that I only talk to about once a month, but could have them over to fvck on a whim, a plate.)

 

[yuppaz]

F283 - it's not about rewarding her for bad behavior / disinterest, it's about keeping the door open and spending 5 minutes to gain social proof with those girls and even if they are just friends, having social proof in the venue you are going to. It's about using strategy to up your attractiveness, catch one of your potentials at a better time (because sometimes the next button is the right button to hit because of TIMING) while giving her an easy opening to you etc. I'm coming from the place that women are not men, they are fickle and their emotions sway like the breeze. One day she could be DTF and a week later be totally over it, then back again in a month, thinking about you but too much of a ***** to contact you. This strategy only gives you a better chance of catching and creating better moments with the girl when the wind is in your favor.

 

[macallik]

I like the idea. I texted a chick I met in the club a few months after no contact and it turns out she had gotten a boyfriend since we last talked and he called me asking "Who am I" and alla this nonsense lol.

However, with #s that fizzle out because the timing just wasn't right or whatever, Imma definitely try to make a group of girls with potential and send invites to all of them randomly to events. Good idea yuppaz

 

[War Against Betaism]

I was rush chair for my fraternity responsible for setting every event up and contacting the potentials to shoot them the information as well as the actives. I did what you did, mass texting addressing every one. When I asked my bros for help on something only 1 person would respond who is my closest friend. Our first event the outcome was okay but only like 1 out of 5 people that I mass texted showed up. The next day I did the same, same results. Just about none of them would text me back either.

The next event I tried a different approach; rather than making the text general, I made it sound more personal like I was directly addressing them specifically. Like instead of saying "Good morning rushees! Our event today is blah blah blah..." I would say "Hey (insert name), today we have blah blah blah...." More work but it's worth it. Outcome was substantially better the remaining of the week and at least half of the potentials would text me back asking questions. Maybe the events we held gave them more incentive to come out but I think it was in the way I approached the situation.

When you mass text people, since you're not directly addressing them personally, they have absolutely no obligation to respond to you and merely see it as a side to last option. They're also less likely to come out because when you mass text people, they feel like they're just 1 out of 50 people. There's not much personal connection there. If you address them individually, there's more of a personal connection there and they'll have better reason to come out.

Well that's my take on mass texting. I realize this is a completely different situation, but some of the same principles still apply imo.