Any of you Pysch majors out there (like I will be next year), should be familar with a simple Pyschological concept known as Maslow's Hiearchy of Needs. If not, you should be worried that High School Senior does, and you don't. Anyways, Maslow's Hiearchy of Needs basicaly states that in order for someone to reach Self-Actualization, one must have certain needs fufilled. In general, these levels act like a pryamid, with Self-Actualization as their peak. These levels are:
Physiological Needs
Basic needs for survival, ie. food, water, shelter. Obviously everyone here has this in check, otherwise, you wouldn't be posting on the internet.
Safety Needs
Physical security. Now once again, I'm assuming everyone here lives in a stable environment, and are physicall safe.
Belongingness and Love Needs
Now, this is the big one. To move any further to Self-Actualization, one must be loved. Both by family, and in a romantic sense. I'll get back to this later...
Esteem Needs
To gain approval and acceptance from others, and yourself. Another crucial key, which I shall touch upon later.
Self-Actualization
The eventual goal for everyman. However, few actually reach this level. What this level basically entails is that you become aware of what you can truly be, and become such.
However, Self-Actualization, was recognized by even Maslow himself as being extremely hard for someone to reach. And why is this? Well, I believe it's because the pyramid is structured wrong.
Right now, it looks like this: http://www.mrdowling.com/602hierarchy.gif
However, I truly think that Esteem should become before Love. And this is why:
Most of the alure a man uses to attract a woman comes from his persona and charisma. If you are not comfortable with yourself, and have little self-esteem, how can you attract a woman? She'll pick up on it and you'll be doomed. Then what do most men do? They turn AFC. Hell, I've done it. Read my damn journal, it's full of moments like that.
However, if you were truly secure in yourself and had that self-esteem, you can project that aura and persona that attracts women. Women want a self secure man, they don't want someone who doubts themselves. You NEED self-esteem to get girls. It's as easy as that. It's that vital.
Now some of you are reading this (hopefully someone's reading this... if not I've been typing waaaay too long for nothing), and thinking "Love, how AFC!" Well, no. If one is to truly reach Self-Actualization one does need to be loved romantically. You need that outside enforcement to applaude you on your newfound persona you've created. Think about it like this:
If you're new to this DJ game, and you've just become sure of yourself, and devloped self-esteem, you'll still be shaky with it. Positive reinforcement is vital to solidfying your self-esteem. If you go out and immediately beging trying Cold Pickups and ask 10 girls for their numbers, and get shot down, you'll begin doubting yourself. You'll think that your persona still isn't right. You'll lost your self-esteem and become stuck at the bottom of the pyramid.
Now, if you're new to the DJ game and have just developed your self-esteem and image, let's say you handle this a bit differently. Instead of trying cold pickups, persue a girl you know. Hopefully, with some guidance from some Self-Transcendent DJs here (I'll get to that concept in a moment), you can get yourself into a relationship. Or at least, some good dates and kiss closes or something.
Either way, you need the positive reinforcments to survice the rejections DJs face. Where the DJ and the AFC differ is how they deal with rejection.
Now, on to the point of this post. What is the Self-Actualization that we here all want? That's to become a DJ.
We want to be the best we can be. Like the website says, we want to be the man that can get any girl he wants. Becoming secure with yourself is so important to this. How many "DJs" on this board have gone through AFC relapses? A lot. And why is this? They weren't secure enough to deal with the rejection or whatever got them down. And like I said, to become secure, you NEED the reinforcment from a relationship or some guarenteed good dates. All of this will build the stable platform for DJhood.
And once you reach DJhood, you can reach the final level of the pyramid of needs, Self-Transcendence. You can be one of the few true DJs on this website and help other people reach their Self-Actualization. There are a few people on these boards like that, but they are few and far between.
Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that becoming a DJ is a gradual process and requires certain basic needs. You have to be self-secure. You then must have this self-security solidifyed by the outside reinforcement of love. Once these steps are in place, and only then, you can become your Inner DJ. A true DJ. A man who can get any and every women he wants, because he is on a stable pryamid.
Whew... now hopefully some people will read this...
-Mr. Pink
Physiological Needs
Basic needs for survival, ie. food, water, shelter. Obviously everyone here has this in check, otherwise, you wouldn't be posting on the internet.
Safety Needs
Physical security. Now once again, I'm assuming everyone here lives in a stable environment, and are physicall safe.
Belongingness and Love Needs
Now, this is the big one. To move any further to Self-Actualization, one must be loved. Both by family, and in a romantic sense. I'll get back to this later...
Esteem Needs
To gain approval and acceptance from others, and yourself. Another crucial key, which I shall touch upon later.
Self-Actualization
The eventual goal for everyman. However, few actually reach this level. What this level basically entails is that you become aware of what you can truly be, and become such.
However, Self-Actualization, was recognized by even Maslow himself as being extremely hard for someone to reach. And why is this? Well, I believe it's because the pyramid is structured wrong.
Right now, it looks like this: http://www.mrdowling.com/602hierarchy.gif
However, I truly think that Esteem should become before Love. And this is why:
Most of the alure a man uses to attract a woman comes from his persona and charisma. If you are not comfortable with yourself, and have little self-esteem, how can you attract a woman? She'll pick up on it and you'll be doomed. Then what do most men do? They turn AFC. Hell, I've done it. Read my damn journal, it's full of moments like that.
However, if you were truly secure in yourself and had that self-esteem, you can project that aura and persona that attracts women. Women want a self secure man, they don't want someone who doubts themselves. You NEED self-esteem to get girls. It's as easy as that. It's that vital.
Now some of you are reading this (hopefully someone's reading this... if not I've been typing waaaay too long for nothing), and thinking "Love, how AFC!" Well, no. If one is to truly reach Self-Actualization one does need to be loved romantically. You need that outside enforcement to applaude you on your newfound persona you've created. Think about it like this:
If you're new to this DJ game, and you've just become sure of yourself, and devloped self-esteem, you'll still be shaky with it. Positive reinforcement is vital to solidfying your self-esteem. If you go out and immediately beging trying Cold Pickups and ask 10 girls for their numbers, and get shot down, you'll begin doubting yourself. You'll think that your persona still isn't right. You'll lost your self-esteem and become stuck at the bottom of the pyramid.
Now, if you're new to the DJ game and have just developed your self-esteem and image, let's say you handle this a bit differently. Instead of trying cold pickups, persue a girl you know. Hopefully, with some guidance from some Self-Transcendent DJs here (I'll get to that concept in a moment), you can get yourself into a relationship. Or at least, some good dates and kiss closes or something.
Either way, you need the positive reinforcments to survice the rejections DJs face. Where the DJ and the AFC differ is how they deal with rejection.
Now, on to the point of this post. What is the Self-Actualization that we here all want? That's to become a DJ.
We want to be the best we can be. Like the website says, we want to be the man that can get any girl he wants. Becoming secure with yourself is so important to this. How many "DJs" on this board have gone through AFC relapses? A lot. And why is this? They weren't secure enough to deal with the rejection or whatever got them down. And like I said, to become secure, you NEED the reinforcment from a relationship or some guarenteed good dates. All of this will build the stable platform for DJhood.
And once you reach DJhood, you can reach the final level of the pyramid of needs, Self-Transcendence. You can be one of the few true DJs on this website and help other people reach their Self-Actualization. There are a few people on these boards like that, but they are few and far between.
Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that becoming a DJ is a gradual process and requires certain basic needs. You have to be self-secure. You then must have this self-security solidifyed by the outside reinforcement of love. Once these steps are in place, and only then, you can become your Inner DJ. A true DJ. A man who can get any and every women he wants, because he is on a stable pryamid.
Whew... now hopefully some people will read this...
-Mr. Pink
