"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've not been on here long, and it's so obvious, even to me, that this site has dropped its original posts,desires, and advice, and replaced it all with bull**** that new guys like to post. For example, 'what do i do now' , or 'this girl flaked on me!what should I do?'. Please guys, MAN UP! It's starting to make me sick. Only a few months ago, I used to be a whining little kid who wondered why he never got any girls, and was always picked on. It'scos we're all acting like PUSSIES. Stop asking these bull**** questions, and do what you feel is right, what you know you need to do, as a man. If she flaked on you, so what? You forget her, and move on with you life. As a man, you should know that you deserve better, to live your life, do what you want to do, stop letting your heads fill with women..

I looked around, and i found some posts for you ladies. read them and for f**ks sake, man up!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=56331

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=103210&highlight=masculine
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=93548&highlight=masculine
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16903&highlight=man
I'll find some more soon, but read through these, and take back what is yours: your masculinity, your rights as a MAN. Dont be afraid or ashamed of what you are. Dont pretend to be a hissy sensitive guy, we all know it doesnt work. BE A MAN
 
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I think there needs to be the continued influx of new people.. after awhile people just disappear so we need new blood... most of the posters from 2004 are gone..

why not make an extra section called DON JUAN GRADUATE SCHOOL, where only veterans (on site for 1 year at least) can get in
 

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I thought about this this morning. A lot of truth to it.

Being a man is really about trial and error. It's not about asking other people to make your decisions for you. If you get stuck and need advice after exhausting all of your options, that's one thing. But I think a lot of guys here (myself included, in the past) have been guilty of just asking everything step by step rather than risk taking.

You don't grow that way. You have to make mistakes and learn from them.
 

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3countriesPlan said:
I think there needs to be the continued influx of new people.. after awhile people just disappear so we need new blood... most of the posters from 2004 are gone..

why not make an extra section called DON JUAN GRADUATE SCHOOL, where only veterans (on site for 1 year at least) can get in
That's a retarded idea, and here's why: Not everybody who has something useful to contribute has been around for a year. There's a lot of people who post stupid stuff who have been around for longer than a year. If there was another forum, it should somehow be "merit-based" instead of based on seniority. However you'd go about doing that...a ranking system for posts maybe?
 

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I agree. These forums are largely AFC.


I'm sick of hearing about "relationship" problems and advice.

I rarely get the notion that someone is OUT THERE running the game! In the field! Cold Approaching!!!!

For fvck sakes where are you guys?

I'm also getting REALLY tired of all the hating on these forums. And all the Low Self-Esteem AFC posts. We should be supporting each other more. I want to see more positive people on here... Of course its hard for me to support the majority of the AFC views on here.

Right now I'm high on the game. I'm loving it. And I'm trying to stay as positive as possible. Would love if there was more moderation on these forums. Like if a post was CLEARLY AFC

...."Ohhh I know this girl in my class, I've been trying to build my courage for 3 months to finally look at her, and when I did she only looked at me for a second and looked away... It must mean shes not into me right??? It means I'm ugly and not good with women. c'mon guys I need help. How can I get her to fall in love with me and ask her out??"..............

WTF? Are you serious man? ...and these are question that are bombarded here everyday. Can we delete these cruddy soul sucking posts off these forums?
Either way I have been wanting to make a thread and rant on about what I have been feeling... But I'm not trying to bring any negativity myself lol. But seriously, lets make a change around here people.

I'm a FVcking Riderrrrrrrr!!!! I want the bad asses to show them selfs and lets get on with this GAME business!!! Thats what we are here for.

And if I'm mistaken. If this is a "Relationship" self-help forum where people can come here and cry over every little detail of every little interaction with a girl they don't even have the balls to approach, then please let me know so I can excuse myself.


...alittle bit of relationship advice and help is cool, obviously necessary at times in your life... but ughhh JUST STOP!!! PLEASE!!! :woo:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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I think there really needs to be either: stricter rules on the forums, or more moderators. Get these AFC's to stop posting stupid question as the one posted above : ("Ohhh I know this girl in my class, I've been trying to build my courage for 3 months to finally look at her, and when I did she only looked at me for a second and looked away... It must mean shes not into me right??? It means I'm ugly and not good with women. c'mon guys I need help. How can I get her to fall in love with me and ask her out??"


Just stop!!!
 

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The rule should be something like:

"If you have not personally experienced the wonderful sensation of realizing that women's vaginal crevices contain a moment's pleasure, whereas you, as a self-dependent, independent, MAN, are capable of a LIFETIME of pleasure by means of goals, dreams, and the attainment of them, then you, my dear friends, are not yet ready to talk about DJing. Please feel welcome to visit our pre-pubescent corner."
 

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I used to look at ways of doing things differently but came to realise that I had to be different.

Most AFCs on the site eventually realise that they'll have to change themselves instead of looking at a few quick tips to become sucessful.
 

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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
I think there really needs to be either: stricter rules on the forums, or more moderators. Get these AFC's to stop posting stupid question as the one posted above : ("Ohhh I know this girl in my class, I've been trying to build my courage for 3 months to finally look at her, and when I did she only looked at me for a second and looked away... It must mean shes not into me right??? It means I'm ugly and not good with women. c'mon guys I need help. How can I get her to fall in love with me and ask her out??"


Just stop!!!
guys that are bad with women have no clue where they're f'ing up. their reality might seem ridiculous to those of us who know better but they need the help
 

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That's true, but asking every step is still not going to get them where they want to be. They have to be willing to take risks and fück up so that they can learn from it.

Embrace the pain and own your fear.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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lol I used to beat myself up too when I didn't approach when I should have or just no in the mood.Now I am just like..man fvck her!

the way I see it is..you either do or you don't..if you do,great!

if you don't then don't cry about it and STFU ..noob! :D

You don't need to beat yourself up over something stupid or every girl that was a mischance..there are plenty out there.

All and all..fvck em lol..
 

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Cruise said:
The rule should be something like:

"If you have not personally experienced the wonderful sensation of realizing that women's vaginal crevices contain a moment's pleasure, whereas you, as a self-dependent, independent, MAN, are capable of a LIFETIME of pleasure by means of goals, dreams, and the attainment of them, then you, my dear friends, are not yet ready to talk about DJing. Please feel welcome to visit our pre-pubescent corner."
I like that.
 

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these forums will be mostly AFC.

however its better to encourage guys more than anything

most of us have done things to get our man card revoked.

and a lot of us forget how hard and how much energy it took to get started...I can tell you back in 2004 when i got here..I could barely make eye contact and i would get so nervous and scared...it wasnt easy..I focused everything on that for almost a year. But what helped me more than anything..is that I had many members of this board support me...talk on aim..talk in chats..we became a community and many of us made the changes to our mind set. I dont see that community here today..but then again im older and have been gone for a while..I wont be posting much in this forum because I have a child and im 25..so im moving onto the mature man forum..but you guys can really achieve more by having each others back.
 

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Im a noob to some extent....but i visited the site for a year before I joined up...its really helped me in my pursit of life.. but i agree...

People shouldnt post bull about seein a girl in class and her lookin at ay etc blah blah....but what it seems some people are forgetting is that this site was designed to help these annoying posters to become a better person..if they choose not to learn and keep making mistakes with women and never learn that women arent the only thing in life...then let them fail...

The resources are here to help you....if you have serious questions or funny stories then by all means share them....but dont post absolute bullshi.t.....
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Get over yourselves. There's another like this every couple of months. It's always been the same.

"movies used to be better"
"tv used to be better"
"music used to be better"

no you only remember the good stuff and forget the deluge of crap.
 
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mrRuckus said:
Get over yourselves. There's another like this every couple of months. It's always been the same.

"movies used to be better"
"tv used to be better"
"music used to be better"

no you only remember the good stuff and forget the deluge of crap.
Dude, if you were intelligent to read what I put, and not idiotically posting some random **** on here, you'd find that I didn't say those were the good ol' days. I've been on here two days..I'm saying you little boys who post every day, these crap questions, that you already know the answer to, but you just want the answer you want to hear. Stop being a little *****(a woman,stop analyzing everything) and act like the Men you were born to be..
 
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Craig_87 said:
Im a noob to some extent....but i visited the site for a year before I joined up...its really helped me in my pursit of life.. but i agree...

People shouldnt post bull about seein a girl in class and her lookin at ay etc blah blah....but what it seems some people are forgetting is that this site was designed to help these annoying posters to become a better person..if they choose not to learn and keep making mistakes with women and never learn that women arent the only thing in life...then let them fail...

The resources are here to help you....if you have serious questions or funny stories then by all means share them....but dont post absolute bullshi.t.....
I think it should be a rule in the bible..

if you do..do it.Great!

If you don't ,don't- but STFU and don't whine about it lol.

I would rather try ,even if getting rejected (actually sometimes better lol) that way,you no longer have to sit there and dwell on what ifs ands or whatever..it's worse then purgatory I tell ya!:crazy:

this is something new I am working on..I used to do this alot in the past,then I'd build them up in my mind projecting all sorts of shiets..when I finally meet or talk to them,they turn out to be nothing like I expected..really blows.

Even if you get rejected..you are far better off rejected then obsessing over the biotch lol.:up:
 
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