"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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OddManOut85

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ok.interesting topic eh? well i have been thinking alot about this one in particular.in how men are portrayed onscreen.it seems back then,they were portrayed in a mostly positive manner.unless of course it was a villain,or some sort of dark and troubled anti-hero.nowadays,there drunken idiots or bumbling fools,or just generally confused.I think you can see where this is going.now,im a movie freak.its become my main interest,and what i hope too,if things turn out right,my career.

now the two directors im going to use to illustrate my point,are two of my favorites,John Ford,and Sergio Leone.Both considered masters of the western genre.First off the Ford films.For the most part,in his films,the men are portrayed as masculine,brave,strong,selfless,and caring.some films of his you could say,case in point the searchers and fort apache,some of the characters do have an edge to them.

For instance the Ethan Edwards character in the searchers,and the Owen Thursday character in fort apache.Now,Sergio Leone.It could be said the masculinity portrayed in this movie is of the uber kind.The over the top macho kind.Now,the characters in his movies,this isnt clear cut,black and white,heroes and villains.No.His movies sort of more or less take on an everyman for themselves vibe.Survival of the fittest.A sort of dark masculinity if you would.So my question is,what happened? Why did this portrayal stop? Changing of social norms? The feminist movement? Political correctness?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah, if you watch some 'classic' movies from way back.. Like Cassablanca, Gone with the wind, The apartment, etc..

These films have characters that do show a natural masculinity without patronising the audience with letting the female lead have everything go her way.

When was the last time a film came out that had the female protagonist fail with her scheming & the male prosper?

In my opinion this is a direct consequence of feminism, which in turn has made the world go crazy with political correctness. There are much deeper problems than that of entertainment but thats not for this topic. The world is now designed to catter for women.
 

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diceman said:
When was the last time a film came out that had the female protagonist fail with her scheming & the male prosper?
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Check out "Closer."
You'll notice how the masculine man (the DR.) fcks both chick, ruins the wuss, and ends up with the woman he wants.

It's actually a very realistic portrayl of modern social/relationship dynamics.
 
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