"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Married to a nice woman.I want a divorce.I wanna be a DJ again! (not that I ever was)

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There's no right way for anyone to 'save this guy'. Not even himself. Who's to say whether he'll have a better life overall as a single guy trying to make up for some idea of lost time or as a husband trying to make his marriage work not unlike most husbands.

This site is great for getting a multitude of perspectives in one spot that should provoke one's own process of introspection.

Unfortunately, my experience has been that the trapped or rutt situation in an LTR can be tough to stay out of. It seems like each time you fall into it, it gets even deeper and wider, such that it becomes easier and easier to fall back into it after climbing to get out. The upshot is you can get better at climbing out...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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