"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Good luck though, sure it will work out fine seeing as you've been on here for over 10 years!
Not sure if anything in particular re marriage beyond classic books like Rational Male and ones mentioned on here. Rational male goes into cycles in typical womens life, so could be worth revisiting. 2nd one I think goes more into that.
Im divorced myself after 12 years or so relationship (5 of which married). I was clueless around stuff on this forum and 'red pill' type stuff. Like to think I would have been more aware of warning signals, complacency etc had I made effort to educate myself more.
As you probably know, still stick to your career;/business aspirations, keeping yourself in shape. Keep an eye on 'value' offered too by bother parties. Overall in my relationship, we both earned higher/lower amounts over time, did equal enough share of chores, bills, household admin/business etc. When it ended I wasn't too fussed, as I had kept on top of what was important to me, rather than felt it had been totally one sided and as a result was in a relative good place to move on. Didn;t feel bitter like some do when they put everything and get notthi, before it ends. Then end up paying alimony, maintenance, lose half of more assets. Defo think complacency is main destroyer of long term relationships/marriage. Key is the man keeping things interesting, leading imo as easy to get into routine and take each other for granted.
Anyway, I go on
. Congrats and sure you'll be 'happy', make success of it 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You can find his podcast too from the art of charm also.... good sh!t
There is also marriage builders.... but don't dig too deep into it... use what you need and ignore the rest of u go there.
Epi