Married Men mistakes, they stop dating their wives

[Trump]

Although you hear so many times that women initiate most of the divorces, there is actually a driving force that causes this.

It's usually in-action on the husband's part. They stop dating their wives.

But...it was his complacency and still...lack of continuing courtship with his wife that lost her.

Agreed?

I don't think so bro.

Women could care less about courtship and dating. Women initiate because they are done with his use and think they can do better. Women initiate most divorces because:

1) They have gotten everything they can out of the man (money, babies, status) and don't care about him, they now want their independence
2) They have gotten everything they can out of the man (money, babies, status) and don't care about him, they now want to have sex with others
3) They have gotten everything they can out of the man (money, babies, status) and don't care about him, they now want to improve their image

The premise of your post is based on the theory that the man should always be aware and focused on his wife's happiness. It's not the man's job to be concerned about his wife's "happiness". The man has to be great for people and his wife comes along for the ride. You are making a major assumption blaming the man.

Brutal.

 

[bigneil]

Have you all noticed that if a man loves too much or shows he cares too much, she loses all respect, and looks for attention elsewhere?

This is only true when she doesn't love him. When a woman does love her man, his loving her makes her fall more deeply in love (and vice versa). That said, it still requires mystery and you still can't over pursue, but when you tell her you love her more than anyone she should say she loves you more than anyone (and should volunteer versus reciprocate that at times).

 

[Trainwreck]

Finally, somebody on here has enough sense to put some blame on the man. These red pill idiots apply the "walking in to a burning house theory" to literally everything in life. They read some stupid article by roosh or rok and use it as the Bible. Listen! Nobody wants to be the villain in their own story!

 

[ThisNThat]

People cling to those they behave have high value.

Marriages fail because one or both parties go down in value.

Well, apparently, for better (high value) and for worst (low value) doesn't count when it comes to the vows.

Let me put it in perspective...

People who bore that easily, and then dump/file papers because THEY saw the person in question as "low value" are low value themselves.

 

[ThisNThat]

This is only true when she doesn't love him.

Very good point, it seems the onus is always put on the MAN to keep the woman entertained...when in fact, she'll never be entertained...because in her head...she's already checked out of the relationship/marriage (stopped loving him). She's simply not into the guy anymore and there's that will change that once her mind is made up.

 

[Urbanyst]

Well, apparently, for better (high value) and for worst (low value) doesn't count when it comes to the vows.

Let me put it in perspective...

People who bore that easily, and then dump/file papers because THEY saw the person in question as "low value" are low value themselves.

Why is that? Because you say so?

And when did marriage vows ever mean anything?

You're late to the red pill party.

 

[SgtSplacker]

It's not about who should or should not do something. It's about the way women think and behave.

If you are too nice to a woman she just starts thinking you are weak.

If a woman starts looking to you for happiness it just becomes an endless hole that can never be filled.

Do nice things on your schedule, you are not here to deliver a service to satisfy expectation.

These things have to be done at the beginning of a relationship to set a precedent. After it has been set and she is invested and goes out of her way for you first only then can you break out the candles and show her how you ball.