Married Men, Flirting, Fooling Around, etc,...

[Parvane]

34 yr old female here. There is a 31 yr old married co-worker with whom I've been reciprocally flirting and exchanging very hot emails and have fooled around with a little. (Kiss, touching, groping a bit...) We've even gotten each other off in chat, and he constantly tells me I've got him hard. etc,...

He says no when it comes down to it, but does things when in the situation, says I'm tempting, and tries sometimes to back off sometimes- but after saying this today after work he said: "Want to go away for the weekend and have crazyhot sex?" Then he laughed.

Does he really want to or is he just joking? How should I make him want to take the next step.

 

[bobbob]

ur fvcking lame ...

 

[Caveman]

Originally posted by Parvane
Does he really want to or is he just joking? How should I make him want to take the next step.

Yes he really wants hot sex with you but never ever believe that he will leave his wife for you. You are fooling yourself like many many women..

 

[Chrispy]

Why would a married guy throw away the fun of having an affair with someone at work? It doesn't work that way. So ya, you'll get the hot sex, he may even complain about his wife or whatever, but he won't leave her for you. You're better off finding someone outside of work and someone who is single.

 

[Parvane]

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[Parvane]

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Thanks for your replies but you are assuming I want him forever and ever because I'm a woman? (I would never wish for him to leave his wife or experience the pain of a divorce or anything like that.)

I'm not in love here, know what I mean?

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Great. yet another unashamed slut for the guys to beat up on. Why do you *****s come here and ask such dumb questions..... If sex is all your looking for give me your number--im single and will not ignore your slutty advances.......

 

[NewMan]

You want to fvck him?

Then do it.

Tell him.

Get a motel room and take him there at lunch time.

Make a move.

 

[Caveman]

Re: ...

Originally posted by Parvane
Thanks for your replies but you are assuming I want him forever and ever because I'm a woman? (I would never wish for him to leave his wife or experience the pain of a divorce or anything like that.)

I'm not in love here, know what I mean?

Parvane, sweety, ofcourse you are not in love! You just want to fool around with him for a little while. Aren't you allowed to have fun? Ofcourse you are! Why would you want to be with him forever? Because you're a woman?? Hell no!! Or....?

Women are wired different than men. They get attached because it is in their nature. It is in their genes. Believe me, I've seen this happen a million times before. It always gets ugly.

For your sake I hope you are an exception. If not, we'll be seeing you back here within the next two years, crying: he won't leave his wife for me.

So this was not an assumption, it was merely an early warning. If you feel you can fool around with him without falling in love, by all means: go ahead. I won't be giving you the moral speech about messing with a married guy because I assume you are old and wise enough to know this for yourself. But once you DO start to fall in love, and he starts giving you the usual excuses (me and the wife have problems, I think I'll end it soon and start over with you - well I can't divorce her now because she is having a nervous breakdown, just give me a few more days - you know what? she is pregnant, I can't leave her now.. blah blah blah) I hope you will remember my words: He will not leave his wife for you.

 

[Paratrooper51]

This is a nasty trail that you definately DO NOT want to go down there hot stuff. Promise. Find another man to have hot sex with, interfering with a marriage is like willingly sticking your hand in a flame. Walk away from it. This guy is scum anyways if he wants to **** you behind his own wife's back.

 

[DJDamage]

Just remember that it takes only one time for a woman to be called a slvt and a homewrecker once the affair comes out in the open (and most of the time it does - you can never keep an affair a secret. The longer it kept a secret the more chances that someone or something will mess up) and that label will be stuck on you for a very very long time. Think if its worth it to be ostracized, laughed at and shunned by others.

The drama and risk is not worth it.

NEVER MIX BUSINESS WITH PLEASURE.

NEVER HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH SOMEONE WHO IS MARRIED.

 

[Slickster]

I'm sure you could find sex anywhere you looked.

Why fvck up someone's marriage for your own selfish reasons?

Lame.

 

[scordate]

and when you think you heard it all.... ;-)

2 issues here;
married + coworker

married you should be able to handle yourself unless you fall for the "My wife dont understand me cr&p" and dont have moral issues regarding the wife that he has promised to keep for better or worse

co-worker is another issue which involves your boss, your job, your income, your carreer

i would off hand say no to co-worker-sex cause when it turns sour ( and it*will* turn sour at some point ) you are still stuck there working together

OTOH if you are planning a carreer change and can get a written reference before the boss gets wind of your affair, then for gawds sake; leave with giving him a farewell affair he wont forget !

/ scordate

 

[scordate]

and when you think you heard it all.... ;-)

2 issues here;
married + coworker

married you should be able to handle yourself unless you fall for the "My wife dont understand me cr&p" and dont have moral issues regarding the wife that he has promised to keep for better or worse

co-worker is another issue which involves your boss, your job, your income, your carreer

i would off hand say no to co-worker-sex cause when it turns sour ( and it*will* turn sour at some point ) you are still stuck there working together

OTOH if you are planning a carreer change and can get a written reference before the boss gets wind of your affair, then for gawds sake; leave with giving him a farewell affair he wont forget !

/ scordate