I have known this girl for 6 or 7 years by now.
Cute thing, and far more intelligent than the average girl. Not without a fair share of drama, though.
She was attracted to me (and I to her) the first time we met (at work). Unfortunately I had no idea what to do about it and how to talk to girls in general. She basically followed me around and I was an authority figure to her. She was quite open sexually when talking with me. Yet I did not ask her on a date and she moved to another country soon after. We called on some rare occasions, but in general we had no contact for the next 3-4 years... until she noticed and approached me on a cruiseferry. Turned out she had been married and had a child. (She is 26, he is 44) She enjoyed my company, and talked about her life. Turned out that she is living separately from her husband (he is in her home country) and they seldom see each other. He is paying her bills, however.
We kept seeing each other more and more, and I visited her several times when I was travelling. She made a point of always keeping my visitations secret from her husband - as she occasionally had other people around who could have told him I was visiting. As we met more and more, she became more open about her marriage. Telling me that she is considering a divorce. She even made a few hints of us two being together some time in the future. I did not take that too seriously. Firstly, she has a child - something that turns me off a bit - and secondly I had a few other girls I was more interested in. I even asked her opinion about a few of them. She would even act as if she were my girlfriend when I asked her to do so. She respected me and would take everything I said seriously. She would even make assumptions of me on a grand scale.
Thing turned unexpectedly when she called me - telling me - out of the blue - that her husband has been drinking (again) and told me she was thinking of walking away. After listening to her - the man was really a beta, according to her - I gave her some advice as to what to do, and in the end told her to walk away, but also warned her that I would not talk about the same subject in the future in case she would not listen to me. I am genuinely annoyed when people come to me with the same problems again and again, and let her know about that. She informed melater that she decided to stay for the time being, to see if their relationship works out. We have been calling more than previously since then, and she has always texted me back in case she has been unable to take my call, and has always called back as soon as she was able.
I was travelling by boat a few months later when I saw her and her husband. She want home, while her husband returned the next day, and invited me to have drinks with him. He told me how he is grateful for me being a good friend to her wife. (He has obviously no idea how often I have been visiting her) He was surprisingly intelligent and well meaning, and we had some interesting discussions. He even proposed a partnership of sorts, but never came through on his part.
A month or so later the girl calls again, telling that her husband has a become suicidal and that she is afraid for herself and her son. Again, she told me a bit later that it resolved itself.
We called a week or so back and it turned out that she is going home (without her child) on the same boat that I am travelling, this Saturday. She propsed we share the cabin. It was OK by me and she asked her husband, if he agreed to it. Called me back shortly and told me he had told her to have a go.
Now I am a bit unsure as to where I stand. Should I take her as a friend, or should I make a move - given she shows more signs of walking away from the marriage? I am more than certain, that her relationship will come up in discussion.
Cute thing, and far more intelligent than the average girl. Not without a fair share of drama, though.
She was attracted to me (and I to her) the first time we met (at work). Unfortunately I had no idea what to do about it and how to talk to girls in general. She basically followed me around and I was an authority figure to her. She was quite open sexually when talking with me. Yet I did not ask her on a date and she moved to another country soon after. We called on some rare occasions, but in general we had no contact for the next 3-4 years... until she noticed and approached me on a cruiseferry. Turned out she had been married and had a child. (She is 26, he is 44) She enjoyed my company, and talked about her life. Turned out that she is living separately from her husband (he is in her home country) and they seldom see each other. He is paying her bills, however.
We kept seeing each other more and more, and I visited her several times when I was travelling. She made a point of always keeping my visitations secret from her husband - as she occasionally had other people around who could have told him I was visiting. As we met more and more, she became more open about her marriage. Telling me that she is considering a divorce. She even made a few hints of us two being together some time in the future. I did not take that too seriously. Firstly, she has a child - something that turns me off a bit - and secondly I had a few other girls I was more interested in. I even asked her opinion about a few of them. She would even act as if she were my girlfriend when I asked her to do so. She respected me and would take everything I said seriously. She would even make assumptions of me on a grand scale.
Thing turned unexpectedly when she called me - telling me - out of the blue - that her husband has been drinking (again) and told me she was thinking of walking away. After listening to her - the man was really a beta, according to her - I gave her some advice as to what to do, and in the end told her to walk away, but also warned her that I would not talk about the same subject in the future in case she would not listen to me. I am genuinely annoyed when people come to me with the same problems again and again, and let her know about that. She informed melater that she decided to stay for the time being, to see if their relationship works out. We have been calling more than previously since then, and she has always texted me back in case she has been unable to take my call, and has always called back as soon as she was able.
I was travelling by boat a few months later when I saw her and her husband. She want home, while her husband returned the next day, and invited me to have drinks with him. He told me how he is grateful for me being a good friend to her wife. (He has obviously no idea how often I have been visiting her) He was surprisingly intelligent and well meaning, and we had some interesting discussions. He even proposed a partnership of sorts, but never came through on his part.
A month or so later the girl calls again, telling that her husband has a become suicidal and that she is afraid for herself and her son. Again, she told me a bit later that it resolved itself.
We called a week or so back and it turned out that she is going home (without her child) on the same boat that I am travelling, this Saturday. She propsed we share the cabin. It was OK by me and she asked her husband, if he agreed to it. Called me back shortly and told me he had told her to have a go.
Now I am a bit unsure as to where I stand. Should I take her as a friend, or should I make a move - given she shows more signs of walking away from the marriage? I am more than certain, that her relationship will come up in discussion.
