Married co-worker

[Dr. Winston O´Boogie]

If you sleep with this woman, not only will it ruin her life, her kid's life, and her husband's life, it will ruin your career, and nobody will remember you for the great work you did, but how you were nothing but a scumbag who played a role in wrecking a family.

time to man up and ignore this woman..and if she puts the moves on you, firmly tell her that you want nothing to do with her and report her to HR.

Great post man, I really needed to read this, I´m feeling stronger. It is very difficult to resist the charms of a beautiful woman, but I have to. I don´t want any troubles around here. Thanks again pal, great words.

 

[expos]

Great post man, I really needed to read this, I´m feeling stronger. It is very difficult to resist the charms of a beautiful woman, but I have to. I don´t want any troubles around here. Thanks again pal, great words.

No problem. I've been on the other side and it's really bad. You have to look at it that you are hurting some innocent people. Her husband could be a really standup guy that for whatever reason she lost attraction to. It is not his fault. Her kids will suffer tremendously and if they ever find out who you are, they will HATE YOU.

I don't care if she is beautiful. Guess what, I met a woman after my ex-wife that blows her out of the damn water in terms of looks. All my friends know it, my brother knows it, my mom even disclosed it to me. lol. I banged this woman like a drum and took great pleasure in the fact that my possibly unfaithful wife found out about me getting with this better looking girl. KARMA.

You'll meet someone better than this deceitful, slutty co-worker. Get out and meet a higher-quality chick.

 

[soulforge]

No problem. I've been on the other side and it's really bad. You have to look at it that you are hurting some innocent people. Her husband could be a really standup guy that for whatever reason she lost attraction to. It is not his fault. Her kids will suffer tremendously and if they ever find out who you are, they will HATE YOU.

I don't care if she is beautiful. Guess what, I met a woman after my ex-wife that blows her out of the damn water in terms of looks. All my friends know it, my brother knows it, my mom even disclosed it to me. lol. I banged this woman like a drum and took great pleasure in the fact that my possibly unfaithful wife found out about me getting with this better looking girl. KARMA.

You'll meet someone better than this deceitful, slutty co-worker. Get out and meet a higher-quality chick.

i don't think i will meet a chick hotter than my ex... she was the hottest chick i ever had... and i,m 37 years old

thats what really pissses me off... i will prob end up down grading looks wise

 

[CrimsonPanther]

thats what really pissses me off... i will prob end up down grading looks wise

haha you say this as if it were a bad thing
looks is not all that matters even for us guys not for me anyway.
pvussy's pvssy. and you never know anyway what the future holds.
live in the present. women do it all the time.

 

[expos]

Any man that chooses to beat up the guy when it's is his wife that cheated is a fvcking chump

No he's not.

I am not a violent guy. I've been in one fist fight in my entire life and that was with my brother when we were kids!

However, I see it protecting as something that is mine. I was her provider and took care of this woman. We shared a bed for five years. I was a damn good husband. If this affair did indeed happen (never really confirmed but I had every right to be suspicious), he essentially trespassed into my personal territory and played a DIRECT role in ruining my life. That is a call to action. There will consequences for any action.

So, call me a chump. I'll totally own up to it. You get physical with my girl, I'll most likely get physical with you. You hurt my family, expect the favor to be returned.

I really hope that the OP does the right thing, otherwise he might be feeling the wrath of the husband who might be not so forgiving.

 

[expos]

i don't think i will meet a chick hotter than my ex... she was the hottest chick i ever had... and i,m 37 years old

thats what really pissses me off... i will prob end up down grading looks wise

No. You are just not meeting the right people. That woman was like, what? 48 years old? What's stopping you from getting with a 30-year old?

You have severe one-itis. You are idealizing this woman. I've been there too. But guess what, I upgraded in looks. In fact, I saw my ex-wife and my new girl on the same day last week. Care to guess which one looked 100x better?

I'm calling you out. If she was so spectacular you guys would have been still together, but she wasn't all that great and never was.

Sorry to hijack the thread.

 

[5string]

expos get's it

Right after I graduated college and started working I met a stunningly hot woman. We got after it bigtime. She'd come over to my place at all hours of the day and night which I thought a bit odd. Whatever.

Finally found out a few weeks later that she was married (did not wear a ring when she was with me).

I felt bad at the time and dropped her like a bag of hammers.

Never know I guess. I'm continually amazed at what women are capable of.

 

[expos]

Look, I am not trying to be a d*ick, but your thinking behind your ex wife is beta to the core.

I really don't think so. Have you ever been married before?

This forum even has a sub-forum for the Married Man.

I did my job. I provided. Her job is to support and love. She failed.

Granted, I didn't know anything about game, respect, etc. before So Suave, but I really didn't display any really beta behaviors in retrospect. In fact, I cut the b!tch loose after several rounds of disrespect after giving her a fair warning several times that her behavior was out of line. I think someone who was beta to the core would have stayed in that marriage and repeatedly gotten steamrolled.

I believe I got into marriage for the right reasons. I was in love with this woman. She was in it for status and support - and I was her vehicle. She did not give a sh!t really about me...she just wanted the big house and a baby to show off. She is with a guy (possible affair partner) who makes a lot of money now, so if they decided to marry, she'll have a pretty nice house + car, but the lack of respect will still obviously be there because this has been ingrained in her skull since childhood. Take into account that this guy has probably never dated anyone as good looking as her (looks are not his strong point, she downgraded, so I don't think he has a lot of options), and he'll have a real mess on his hands in a few years when/if they have children and he's stuck with her for life.

At this point, he has much more to lose than I ever did. I rebounded nicely and don't owe her a dime!

So I might have been the victim of a little hypergamy...but I escaped a lifetime of hell in the process and my life got substantially easier once she left.

ETA - Let me clarify that I have no proof of her cheating. Zero. I never really suspected anything. She was pretty much A MESS the day I moved out even after SHE FILED the paperwork. I'm just suspect because she is with someone she works with now.

I just think it's not BETA if someone is disrespecting you, and you make it known in some way that you will not be disrespected. I don't care if it's male or female. You stand your ground then walk away.

Back to the OP, just don't even bother with such a low-quality chick like my ex-wife. She will bring you nothing but unhappiness.

 

[soulforge]

No. You are just not meeting the right people. That woman was like, what? 48 years old? What's stopping you from getting with a 30-year old?

You have severe one-itis. You are idealizing this woman. I've been there too. But guess what, I upgraded in looks. In fact, I saw my ex-wife and my new girl on the same day last week. Care to guess which one looked 100x better?

I'm calling you out. If she was so spectacular you guys would have been still together, but she wasn't all that great and never was.

Sorry to hijack the thread.

yeh mate she was 46.... she aint that far from 50 is she.... she aint going to be hot for too long lol

you know what, i,m going to look back at these threads one day & pisss myself laughing!!

anyhow looks are not everything, i rather have an average looking woman, who is not knee deep in baggage & who isn't shollow & pathetic

 

[Dr. Winston O´Boogie]

I really hope that the OP does the right thing, otherwise he might be feeling the wrath of the husband who might be not so forgiving.

Back to the OP, just don't even bother with such a low-quality chick like my ex-wife. She will bring you nothing but unhappiness.

Yes, here I am, reading all these great stories, and taking care of my behavior.

All things fine around here, I don´t speak to her if she don´t speak to me first, and I give her only short answer, nothing rude, but I don´t have long conversations these days and I was having lunch with other friends and other girls, just to free my mind from her influence. She´s a powerful magnet, but I resisted pretty good thanks to your advice.

All your words has been a great help, believe me.

 

[5string]

Yes, here I am, reading all these great stories, and taking care of my behavior.

All things fine around here, I don´t speak to her if she don´t speak to me first, and I give her only short answer, nothing rude, but I don´t have long conversations these days and I was having lunch with other friends and other girls, just to free my mind from her influence. She´s a powerful magnet, but I resisted pretty good thanks to your advice.

All your words has been a great help, believe me.

Listen brother

We have all been there. How many women have we seen who are attractive and we think to ourselves we'd like to pound them? Even with a ring on their finger they can still be uber hot and make your thing sing. Tempting to say the least.

In the end, it's just not worth it and trouble a guy does not need.

Step up, meet the challenge. Go get some poon who is single with no baggage. They're millions of them out there.

 

[namthebabe]

Any man that chooses to beat up the guy when it's is his wife that cheated is a fvcking chump.

This is one thing I will never understand.

Especially if it's just a random dude who has no love for you.

Is this guy your friend? No.

Brother? No.

Colleague? No.

Then why should he care.

It's your disloyal wife you should have been directing those fists at.

Humans aren't always rational. And if the man leads the guy on, then so be it.

If you hate monogamy, then provide a reasoned case against it that is superior to what we have now. I personally don't think monogamy is natural, but cheating is wrong since it betrays trust. Why enter into monogamy if one wishes to cheat? It's the system that's wrong, and cheating is facilitated by the system.

 

[namthebabe]

White knight.






Beta.



And why is this relevant? Clearly it didn't matter to her.




Hypergamy doesn't care...



If she cheated on you then she was never yours to begin with.



I agree. But your anger is misdirected.

She betrayed your trust.

She went behind your back and f*cked another man.

She chose to disregard your relationship.


This man on the other hand did nothing wrong. He screwed a woman who was obviously willing.

Let's see he didn't even know she was married. Would you still see him as culpable as your wife?

Look, I am not trying to be a d*ick, but your thinking behind your ex wife is beta to the core.

Humans seldom use logic.

Sometimes feelings/emotions rule us, and this is our nature as a species.

Rather somebody who can acknowledge his feelings/emotions, then a hyper-rational, borderline autistic PUA ****.

 

[Dr. Winston O´Boogie]

Hi.

I´m feeling bad, I kind of miss her. Last night I was having trouble trying to get to sleep, I´ve slept 2 hours. I was just thinking about her and I was feeling jealous, because she went to lunch with some guy of this office, and she hardly say hello to me in the morning and goodbye when she leaves.

I know that this is a total waste of time, but I can´t help feeling what I´m feeling and it sucks. I also know that it´s all my fault. I let myself being exposed to her charms, I let myself have some kind of emotional affair with her, but now I don´t know how to back off. How the hell can I get rid of her, in my mind.

Right now I´m feeling tired and sad, and at this very moment she is right in front of me, laughing and chatting with everyone except me.

Please give me some opinion, I need help, I´m nervous and feeling like ****.

 

[Mike32ct]

She probably will find another guy, possibly at work. Do NOT let that bother you or cause you to regret not going for it. Let some other guy do something stupid.

Did I cover this already lol?

 

[expos]

Please give me some opinion, I need help, I´m nervous and feeling like ****.

Dude, don't go there. Know right from wrong. This woman is trouble. Do not talk with her. The more you engage with her, the worse it will be. Read through this thread again, NOBODY is telling you to pursue her.

 

[Tictac]

You are not your 'feelings' (whatever those are).

Cut the crap and move on.

Doing married women is for beta losers.

 

[VladPatton]

Tell her to give you a call after her divorce is finalized. Oh, and make sure her ex takes the kids. Done & done!