Married co-worker is attracted to me but this is uncharted terretory for me.

[Gu_Ga]

First of, with all due respect to seasoned Don Juan, let's just skip 'don't **** where you eat' part. I'm ready to move on from where I work, 1hr one way commute not worth it anymore. The only thing that's keeping me there is this super hot babe who is married, have 2 pre-teen kids. She is attracted to me and I'm falling for her. How do I take it to the next level?

We used to talk occasionally work related but in last 2-3 months there is a lot of flirting going on. We went to happy hour couple of time with coworkers and she wants to make it a monthly event. Same with at least once a week lunches with co-workers. Since she is on a shyer side, she seems to feel more comfortable in a group setting given she is married and most likely doesn't want rumors to start. How do I break her away from her comfort zone?

Now, I'm no extravert myself, no heart of any party. Can't say I'm smartass eaither. Just a normal guy who can talk biz or sport all day but lost for words when talking to hot babes. I know I gotta work on more kino, dropping sexual innuendos, and steer convos towards sex talk whether in a group setting or with her alone. But how do I do it?

There is another happy hour coming up in couple of weeks and then company party after that. She made sure dates work for me. Thinking to quickly learn waltz/salsa/swing dancing for prime kino opportunity since I'm not good at telling jokes or stories to keep up convos. I need a game plan. Help.
Thanks!

 

[sylvester the cat]

She's married with 2 kids..!!!!

My game plan would be to look elsewhere...

 

[5string]

I'll help ya.

Don't go there! She's married with two kids for God's sake. Is there some reason you can't find a single gal with no kids and avoid the mess you are about to find yourself in?

You say you are "falling" for her. Can't really be a quality gal anyway assuming she would cheat on her husband.

 

[vatoloco]

I'm not even gonna read the thread. Two words for you, my friend: SEXUAL. HARASSMENT.

 

[Purefilth]

sorry bro, im with these two on this^^^ forget her.
You aren't falling for her, you're becoming obsessed and developing 'oneitis'.

Dont plan your life around this chick.
How is she the only thing keeping you at this job? - YOU AREN'T EVEN FVCKING HER!!!

FORGET THIS CHICK

 

[Mike32ct]

She's only friendly to you because she's married (ie taken).

Find the most b@tchy girl in the office. Five bucks says she's single lol. Just kidding (although it's true).

In all seriousness, don't mess with a married broad.

Instead of learning dance to pick her up, learn it anyway so you can meet other
single women.

 

[bigneil]

Wow, I couldn't read past the second word of the title of the OP itself.

 

[Renegade357]

LOL, she doesn't sound very appealing. Go find someone who's single preferably without kids

 

[bigneil]

5 years ago, dating women at work was not recommended, but not too bad. In fact, I dated 6 girls from work between 2003 and 2010. Nowadays, I wouldn't date a girl from work if you paid me. The ones with jobs are 95% power-hungry, incompetent, feminista rats.

 

[DonGorgon]

just remember that when you are married your wife will also be fing random dues from her job.. lol to many men dont realize this fact

 

[Alvafe]

follow waht the dudes here says, woman with children? move along is not worth, dude if you are a guy you can get a woman without childrens, why for the hell of it you would go after one who ahve it? its annoying, just take you leave find a new job, after the new job is done and you are moving, you will see it was nothing like you thought it was.

 

[DonGorgon]

follow waht the dudes here says, woman with children? move along is not worth, dude if you are a guy you can get a woman without childrens, why for the hell of it you would go after one who ahve it? its annoying, just take you leave find a new job, after the new job is done and you are moving, you will see it was nothing like you thought it was.

lol if you dont F them 10000 other dues will so she wont care what you do

 

[Alvafe]

lol if you dont F them 10000 other dues will so she wont care what you do

he have oneitis for that woman, if he could bang her and disapear all fine and dandy, but i'm betting he can't and after he do it he will fall even hard.

if he will leave it the best opportunity to do it, in a last day party or something then never talk to her again, but I doubt he can pull that off

 

[yyyy1313]

Ok, I did this once. Not proud, but the way it happened was, I got to know her. Eventually I fell for her hard. I could tell she was interested in me too. I asked her to come out with me during our break so we can talk for a bit. I said it kind of half serious and she asked if there was something wrong. I told her I would fill her in once we were outside.

So our break came and when we were outside we were walking and talking a little bit. Afterwards I tell her, "I am very attracted to you, but I know you are married. I can't help how I feel about you, but just know I am not planning to do a thing. I know you are married and I would never do this." She then gave me this big hug and she tells me how she had no clue etc.

I don't say anything else to her however things changed in fact anytime I got even a little near her she would start breathing heavy. At one point she even told me, "I never even thought of you like that, now I can't stop thinking about you. I can picture us being together." I tell her I wish she wasn't married and to avoid further complicating thing since I knew I wouldn't be able to control myself I was going to quit.

This was a temp job, so it wasn't a big deal. Anyways fast forward she found where I lived and well, the rest is history.

Point of the story, just because people tell you she would do it with someone else, doesn't mean you should be the one to do the deed.

 

[HalfAddict]

Usually I'd chime in with the don't **** where you eat..but...now I am going to chime in with a why the **** are you trying to get with a married broad with 2 kids?