Marriage/Relationship

[Ll Principe]

This subject is abit controversial and Id like those with experience and great wisdom to answer. Ive seen a few posters such as Vulpine and Fransico ( you guys really KNOW what you talking about, so if you could respond here, Id like your input) as for the others, Im sure there are plenty who know plenty too, please, please... respond.

Situation:

Father:

Age: 50's
Situation: Living alone with his mother

Mother:
Age: 50's
Situation: Living alone with her mother

Reason for breaking it off: Fighting and conflict

Total: 1996 seperated, married for 11 years.. so they got married in 1985 and seperated in 1996, the year is now 2007 as we all know.

Both parents have NOT remarried. And both are still SINGLE.

They have a DAUGHTER who currently lives with the MOTHER.

I have this feeling speaking to the daughter that the father still loves the mom. Words such as "the way he acts." and "the things he says."

---> Those things tell me that their is a possibility the father may want the mother back or should I say the husband and wife? Anyway, whats your take on this?

I know its NOT my place to know, but they will JUST die WANDERING if something isnt done about it... I was thinking should I speak to the father or the mother and find out their feelings or should I let nature take its course and let them die wandering because I KNOW they wont speak to eachother about it due to AFC characteristics in the MALE and obviously the FEMALE is never the aggressor in most cases.

I believe.

 

[Wyldfire]

Don't interfere...it's not your business.

 

[Ll Principe]

I knew Id get answers like that, hence I said "I know its NOT my place."

So, as a PUA/DJ should one not spread their influence of what one knows and try help? Whats the point of living if you cant help others? Hey Wyldfire:>

 

[Wyldfire]

They are adults...and if they want to be together they will get together. Sometimes you can love a person and not want to be with them. Just because someone implies they think the father still loves the mother it doesn't mean the mother loves him or wants him. If there were not reasons why they split up in the first place then they would be together. Aside from the points I've just made...when you interfere in things like this it tends to bite you in the ass. Just leave it be is my advice.

 

[Ll Principe]

Okay fair point lady

So, I have a question you have over 8 thousand posts, you must have some ideas's even if you are female.

What If I were a qualified pyschologist?

a) Is it okay to approach them about it?
OR
b) Is it only OKAY to get involved once SOMEONE comes to YOU for the HELP?

 

[Obsidian]

if someone comes to you for help, kick them in the ass and tell them to stop being such a damn chump and approach already

 

[Ll Principe]

Osbidian; read the posts carefully, this isnt about APPROACHING a girl or anything.. lol... Its about a marriage.

 

[Obsidian]

you said he was too chumpish to approach and she was too womanly to approach

 

[Wyldfire]

Okay fair point lady

So, I have a question you have over 8 thousand posts, you must have some ideas's even if you are female.

What If I were a qualified pyschologist?

a) Is it okay to approach them about it?
OR
b) Is it only OKAY to get involved once SOMEONE comes to YOU for the HELP?

It's only okay to offer advice if the father or the mother comes to you and asks for help. If it's anyone other than one of those two people then it's NOT okay to offer unsolicited advice. It wouldn't matter whether you were a psychologist or not...you only offer help to those who ask for help for themselves...period.

 

[Wyldfire]

Osbidian; read the posts carefully, this isnt about APPROACHING a girl or anything.. lol... Its about a marriage.

It's not about a marriage. There is no marriage...they are divorced.

 

[Desdinova]

So, as a PUA/DJ should one not spread their influence of what one knows and try help?

If there's anything the last 6 years have taught me, it's that you can give them tips until you're blue in the face. If they're not looking for good, useful advice, anything you tell them will go in one ear and out the other.

Most people are afraid of change; changing what they do, where they are, and what they believe. They won't change unless change is forced upon them.

Also, both parties need genuine interest in each other for a relationship to work. If it's only the male who's interested in fixing things up with the female, the relationship will not work.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...I know its NOT my place to know, but they will JUST die WANDERING if something isnt done about it...

And what will happen to you if something isn't done? What would it mean to you if you could turn help them turn things around?

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Okay fair point lady

So, I have a question you have over 8 thousand posts, you must have some ideas's even if you are female.

What If I were a qualified pyschologist?

a) Is it okay to approach them about it?
OR
b) Is it only OKAY to get involved once SOMEONE comes to YOU for the HELP?

Hopefully any qualified pyschologist would not be seeking advice on this forum.