Marriage Proposal Recovery Question...Need Help

[Analysis]

Quick Background:
- Dating for over 3 yrs.
- Incredible (Is flexible, giver, humorous, 90%-Great /5% May get into an argument here or there..Nothing major..)
- High-Powered career woman going to Ivy League school
-Always doing things for me...Suprising me w/ gifts, cooking me dinner...You get the picture..Sweet girl..

I just have one question?
In a nutshell, she always asking me when am I going to propose...I always joke with her..but this time I subtly gave her a hint..and she figured out how I was going to propose...Initially, she was overjoyed, excited..but then she expressed how she feels really weird and sad know about it...because there won't be the element of suprise...She got a little teary eyed..She apologized for getting so emotional and said I guess that is the one area that I am a little traditional....I shouldln't have let anything slip out...What would a Don Juan do to bring the element of suprise back?
My thing is to do something different now...I actually thought of a better way to propose to her which is actually more exciting....What do you guys think?

 

[ValleyDJing]

ummm yeah. do something different. Do it in public so she can't say no. lol!

 

[jlr12584]

tell her ur gonna do it the way u told her anyway. then when she expects it, surprise her with ur new method. that simple really.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If you want surprise there's one word for you, ELOPE. Don't tell anyone, not even her. Just steel away on a long weekend getaway and just do it, nice and simple. The one thing that may throw a wrench into things is whether or not she wants an elaborate wedding with family and friends. You could always have a second, more formal wedding after the fact.

By the way, I see The System worked out for 'ya, congratulations.

 

[spider_007]

just make sure you do it few days Earlier then she thought it was going to happen, and in a different way....something she is not going to expect untill you pull the ring out.

 

[MisterNigma]

Just do something completely different. She wants you to propose to her. You know the answer is a yes. So just do something completely unexpected.

If I ever propose, I think I would like to do it while sky diving. Take the ultimate plunge, in more ways then one . . .

Set up: you won the contest for something. . . Prize...go to Hawaii... whatever... go sky diving . . .propose :rockon:



-E.Nigma

 

[Desdinova]

If you want to really surprise her, NEXT her.

J/K

The surprise is kind of ruined, since she's been pushing and you let her know that you want to do it. Just propose when she's not expecting it. Do it while you're in the shower with her, eating her out, or fixing your car. A big set up will give it away, so make it casual with a celebration afterward.

 

[MisterNigma]

If you want to really surprise her, NEXT her.

J/K

The surprise is kind of ruined, since she's been pushing and you let her know that you want to do it. Just propose when she's not expecting it. Do it while you're in the shower with her, eating her out, or fixing your car. A big set up will give it away, so make it casual with a celebration afterward.

Not that it's wrong. I just can't agree with it.

A setup can definately give it away, but if done well, it just makes things that much more special. Maybe I'm a bit of a romantic, but I think a story of how you proposed to her while doing something extraordinary, adds to the singnificance of the event.

In the end, it's all up to what you think she will like the most, and you know her better then anyone on this forum.


-E.Nigma

 

[Latinoman]

Quick Background:
- Dating for over 3 yrs.
- Incredible (Is flexible, giver, humorous, 90%-Great /5% May get into an argument here or there..Nothing major..)
- High-Powered career woman going to Ivy League school
-Always doing things for me...Suprising me w/ gifts, cooking me dinner...You get the picture..Sweet girl..

I just have one question?
In a nutshell, she always asking me when am I going to propose...I always joke with her..but this time I subtly gave her a hint..and she figured out how I was going to propose...Initially, she was overjoyed, excited..but then she expressed how she feels really weird and sad know about it...because there won't be the element of suprise...She got a little teary eyed..She apologized for getting so emotional and said I guess that is the one area that I am a little traditional....I shouldln't have let anything slip out...What would a Don Juan do to bring the element of suprise back?
My thing is to do something different now...I actually thought of a better way to propose to her which is actually more exciting....What do you guys think?

Well...you screwed up by telling her. So, you are not a DJ.

I mean...why even tell her that you are going to propose her? She is now expecting that from you. She is taking it for granted.

No woman should take a man for granted. Neither vice-versa.

 

[Latinoman]

To answer your question...do something completely different and unexpected.

If she was expecting the proposal to take place under certain day and date...then do it either BEFORE or AFTER.

Whichever creates the element of surprise. I personally would do it AFTER...so she feels I'm having "second thoughts" about things. And them BOOM!!! Surprise!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Well...you screwed up by telling her. So, you are not a DJ.

I mean...why even tell her that you are going to propose her? She is now expecting that from you. She is taking it for granted.

No woman should take a man for granted. Neither vice-versa.

Isn't even alluding to asking the question really asking the question anyway? Didn't she just want to know he was as interested and serious as she was? The deed is done already, he's already stepped in it and it's still going to stink no matter how much he tries to wipe it off.

 

[LongDrinkofWater]

If the relationship is really strong, and of course I'm gathering that it is, I'd consider doing a little acting. Wouldn't be too hard at all, but be careful. Just be real subtle about the possibility of NOT getting married. The trick is to let her imagination take the bait and run, thinking that you're trying to back out. If she begins to push (as you mentioned she had done before), you could always present her with a plastic "ring of affection". Think push-pull. Before I get flamed to death here, remember that this is just to diffuse her assumptions about an imminent proposal. It may not work with some girls of course, but I'm guessing this Ivy League gal will have no problems overthinking it. So long as the actual proposal is better than you slipping a ring into her vag1na while eating her out, she'll probably forgive you for sending her emotions into a tailspin (which isn't always a bad thing).

 

[Last Man Standing]

Is she a virgin? Have other dudes been on her scrotum??? Don't be a fool and marry a hor!!!!!!!!!