"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Marraige Poll: Would You...

Would you MArry her is she was


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slickaz

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i.e;
What you wanted based on:

looks.
attitude.
character.
sex quality.
career/job.
gets along with your family/friends
dress sense.
No drama.
Hobbies/sport
independant


Reason im asking is because many of the guys here say they will never get married coz we know women and how messed up they are.

but!

what if you met the one girl, that you know matches some of your requirements.
if she didnt cheat had good character and was hot (7+) and got along with your friends/family.

what would you do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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edu11

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First I'd find out about her past (sexual and nonsexual). Then we'll see.
 

daygameguy

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If we connect well, and she is the type of girl I had in mind for marriage, and she satisfies above 70% of the attributes, then I would give it a thought.
 

shinko

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im no where near as jaded as some other folk, despite the train wrecks i have dated. If she's a woman of quality, not pefection since that doesnt exist then i'd certainly marry her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DonGorgon

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Divorce is too expensive and happens 80% of the time.. So marriage is not for me.. And i dont want kids so there is no need at all for me to be tied to one woman until she decides to divorce.
 

bigjohnson

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I have a different list but I'm up for marriage if the situation is right. Add "must sign prenup" and "must be a hard worker" to the list.

Anyone who is thinking of getting married before 30 is crazy, BTW.
 
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Aragon034

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I want all those attributes if i'm going to marry. Thats why i don't expect to find a girl worth marrying till i'm nearly my 30s.

if i reach 28 and i havn't found her yet, i'll go down to 70% of those traits. but no drama/attitude/looks are still mandatory.
 

SharinganUser

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This question is incredibly slanted!!

You are pretty much asking if we would marry a nearly perfect woman! That is like asking "Hey, you want a million dollars, but would you take the money if it was only 700k-900k?"

I personally don't want to get hitched for at least another 5-10 years. I have carry on a long Irish tradition of having kids when you are getting to old to play with them when they are older.
 

Yahooey

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I'd want 100% of my requirements but a couple of yours don't match mine, notably:
Career/Job - I would expect that the character, intelligence would take care of this. Her current situation would be temporary and, if she older, I would need signs of temporary.
Family/friends - I would be worried and not trust her if it appeared to be a perfect match. It doesn't exist. Knowing how to act with respect to people she doesn't like and respecting my choices of friends are the critical parts. This obviously is a two way street.

BTW: The criteria applies to any gf. Way before they become a possible wife.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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