Marking territory

[Thomas94305]

I'm in the early stages of a relationship. This woman has a habit of leaving personal things at my house -- sunglasses, clothing, etc. Not things that she would actually need if she were to spend the night, but more like she is keeping something of hers around all the time.

Then, after 3 weeks of dating, she gives me a framed photo of herself as a Xmas present.

My questions:

1) What do you think of this behaviour, how it bodes for the future?
2) What should I do? Should I put the photo up, or hide it in a drawer, or other?
3) What do I do if she keeps leaving things in the future? I have busted on her about how she is "marking her territory", and give her items back to her. If this persists, then what?

 

[penkitten]

well thomas , lets start with what you want.
you are in the beginning of a relationship, do you want this to be long term?
do you want it to move fast?
what is it you are looking for?

if you are not looking for it to move fast, ask her to slow down a little or before you know it her entire wardrobe will be in your place and she will say im gonna stop paying the rent at my place since im always here.

however on the other hand, it is clever to leave something small behind for a future visit.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Politely remind her that she forgot whatever it is she "left behind (accidentaly on purpose)."

Remember the episode of Seinfeld where George did a leave behind?

Nip it in the bud quick or you'll find tampons in your cabinet and an extra toothbrush on your sink . . .


"Cooo- Stanza!"

 

[Create Reality]

Originally posted by KarmaSutra
Politely remind her that she forgot whatever it is she "left behind (accidentaly on purpose)."

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Originally posted by KarmaSutra
Nip it in the bud quick or you'll find tampons in your cabinet and an extra toothbrush on your sink . . .

Lets not forget pantyhose hanging in your shower.

Women mark territory in a variety of ways, a picture is one of many, but it's also a very difficult one to refuse. Nothing marks territory better than a picture hanging up of her and you as a sign of ownership. Guys do this too of course - at least posessive AFCs do - but it often has the opposite effect as far as genuine desire is concerned. When guys mark territory it comes of as clingy or desperate more often than it does "sweet and sincire." I can't tell you how many times I've seen a dozen roses on a woman's desk from a new boyfriend after he'd visit my agency or the ad dept. of a casino I worked at once she'd introduce him to us all.

KARMA: Been trying to PM you lately, but your inbox is full. Wanted to see if you wanted meet up in O town sometime?

 

[speedo_meme]

haha my gf did the same thing......she's getting way ahead of herself, I had to set the precedent again last night. She's been coming "home" to my house every afternoon and taking showers there and all that. So I just didn't come home until 10 or so after watching that Michigan/Nebraska game and her ass was locked out! Just a little prank to regain a little hand...

 

[dietzcoi]

Good move speedo, if you do not put a stop to it she will move in before you know it...

I have lived with women but would never ever do it again.

You lose your freedom to maneuver.. now why would a man want to lose that, unless he is an AFC?

Dietzcoi

 

[KarmaSutra]

Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
KARMA: Been trying to PM you lately, but your inbox is full. Wanted to see if you wanted meet up in O town sometime?

Cleaned out my box and sent you a message. It would be quite something to pick your brain over sushi and sake . . . Afterwards a wonderful La Gloria cubana?

I'll be waiting for your response Brother.

 

[MightyMate]

Your girl seems psycho. I mark teritory at my gfs place. She has to have my flick on myspace and on phone as screen. And i dont have her anywhere becaus i dont want chicks to see it. Ha-ha.