Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Absolutely. Blunts are rolled in tobacco leaf, and tobacco is dangerous :nono:dat azz said:Drugs Are Bad Kay?
I went through alcohol counseling once and attended about a dozen AA meetings. I wasn’t an “alcoholic” but I was slipping down the slurry, slowly spiraling slope of stupor towards it. I loathed every minute of AA, but I saw how they had hit rock bottom of rock bottom and desperately needed some higher power to regain control themselves, so they have a hard time seeing how anything other than a totally clean life of sobriety from chemical influences can be beneficial. But yeah, the fact is weed is an “exit drug” from harder drugs. Studies show alcoholics do equally if not better in treatment and have longer sobriety if they partake in weed; not only is the high safer, but it protects brain cells from the damage of alcohol.backbreaker:
what actually pisses me off is, as some of you know I'm a recovered/recovering drug addict (hard drugs, not this bull**** here), and i saw many a men who have could have been saved from relapse if they would have been just told the god damn truth. dude, if it will calm you down go smoke a joint. AA takes the stance that any mind altering substance is a relapse so i have seen guys with 6, 8 months, one guy with 3 years clean, call his sponsor and his sponsor told him to basically suck it up, when if the guy could have just lit a joint and eased his mind he would have made it through he night. thousands of dollars and a blown sobriety date later…
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How old is your friend’s friend? You’re only 17 years old and at your age you aren’t hanging around people who are much older than yourself. Nobody who’s 14 years old should be smoking pot or drinking. There is a gigantic galaxy of developmental difference between 14 and 18. It's the reason why you never see freshmen playing sophomores or seniors at football: even one year of difference is huge. Science is conclusive that marijuana does not change someone’s fundamental personality, motor skills, or memory, so either your friend’s friend was already that way to begin with or he began abusing at a very young age. Frankly, I don’t think anyone should partake in pot until after graduating high school, and I know that takes away from some of the fun of youth.ScottMustaine said:Hell, alcohol is still safer in my opinion than marijuana. Although more addicting, it less affects memory.
My friend is hitting alcohol for almost 7 years. When he's not drunk, he acts normal.
On the other hand his other friend who's been hitting weed for 3 years, whether with or without weed, he's in slow motion, talking slowly and can't even remember the number of his street.
It doesn't matter who Cheech Marin even is you are using anecdotal evidence to back up your claims. And I never claimed it would make a person outright stupid, but it would make their cognition worse than what it could be if they hadn't smoked. In addition to the science I posted in my earlier post, my teacher for Pyschopharmacology also taught us the same thing.Deep Dish said:If you enjoy it, do it. It's helluva better than drinking. Just keep it light.Truer words have never been spoken.You receive heat because your position is hysteria.
Whenever you hear about the supposed “long-term” effects of marijuana, you should bear in mind that “long-term” is less than six weeks. Marijuana obviously impairs memory and cognition while someone is blitzed out of their mind, but in the morning and the days after those lingering effects are minimal, if barely noticeable, and are effectively gone by six weeks. There is no neurotoxicity. In fact, a person who has practiced a skill while stoned will actually perform exactly the same, if not a little better, on skills tests, because stoners learn to compensate. In college, stoners score slightly higher grades and earn more money in their careers than non-stoners; it’s only in high school where there is an association with delinquency.
The studies which prohibitionists cite of brain damage are always lab rats based on synthetic marijuana, studying some isolated chemical interaction, but not real marijuana with real people, which places into question the relevance of the studies even if true. The context of lab rats in drug research, usually by the National Institute on Drug Abuse, is to extrapolate the findings to children—it certainly may be true the cerebral development of children and young teenagers may become permanently impaired, in memory and cognition, but we're all adults here. There's simply no compelling evidence of lasting cognitive deficiencies in adults. For fück sake, Cheech Marin of Cheech & Chong beat Anderson Cooper at Jeopardy!
“High Times” for $800, Alex.
I'm the opposite. I mean I over think but I think correctly. If I get hung up on a chick or upset about something a girl I did and I go and get high my mind state quickly becomes something like that "man phck that b!tch, the hell do i care for I'm a man" Sure you can think this sober but it's harder to convince yourself. When I'm high I'm sold right awaySerg897 said:In general I find that weed makes me over-think and over-analyze, which can be the downfall of any man who wants to keep himself in check when it comes to women or just dealing with negative emotions. However, it can be fun sometimes. I say do it very sparingly.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Kk I can agree with that !Deep Dish said:Arcbound,
You said “Granted marijuana perhaps can be used for other things like medical marijuana, but it is not good at all for your mind.” I interpreted that to mean you only support medical purposes, dismissing personal / leisurely / recreational / fun / creativity purposes. Since the original poster was speaking on game, and I was thinking in the broader general context, perhaps there was a miscommunication (over “for other things”—are there any things other than medical which are okay?), but if you really do only support medical purposes, dismissive of other reasons, then your argument seems out of proportion and thus came off as hysterical. I do not question the veracity of the research you cite but its proportional relevance. I think for most people, in favor of weed for personal / leisurely / recreational / fun / creativity purposes, the benefits of heightened senses, heightened creativity, relaxing calm, fun, and so forth, significantly outweigh the lingering, vanishingly small, barely noticeable, temporary costs of cognitive function.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.