"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Many of my HS classmates are now married.

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It's mostly the females. Their ages range from 21 - 26. Is their a segment of the female population that are looking to get married very early? How does one seek out a 22 year old woman that's looking for a LTR?

I'm always on the lookout for a true dime (not just physical beauty) but have been unlucky in finding any females in the 21 -24 age bracket looking for a LTR. I need to know where these chicks hide.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you are feeling left out, cut it out man. I think anyone who gets married in their early 20s, in this day and age, is doomed to feel like they sold themselves short, either in terms of partner or life experience or both.

I'm 27, and all my classmates who rushed to the altar are now divorced or fat and boring. I couldn't see getting married under the age of 30.

We know that women are at the peak of their sexual value in their early 20s, and IME a man does not enter a relationship with these women by "looking for a relationship." The kind of guy they are especially attracted to when they are young, is the one they have to chase down.
 
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^ What he said. I'm guessing you're from the Midwest as well (I'm from Iowa originally). When I checked the RSVP list for my 5 year reunion I didn't recognize most of the girls due to changed last names. If you want to "settle down" and start popping out some crumb crunchers before you've really gotten anywhere in life then by all means. I am definitely not that guy. When you get married that is basically your way of saying "this is the best I will do in life," because there's a slim chance things will get better.
 
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I don't want to get married yet...I just want to find a girl that's not ho-ish. Ho-ish girls are fun but I find myself getting tired of them.
 
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Wed in haste, repent at leisure.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Not possible. "Ho-ish girls" are the ones that have no problem putting out, and are not looking for anything serious. That does not get old. An LTR is basically a trial marriage, because if nothing goes wrong you're most likely going to get married. I don't believe anyone can argue with any of that.
 
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Girls usually get married early for one of these reasons:
1. Forced by pregnancy
2. Come from a disfuntional home so they rush to start their own family in order to psycologically feel better about their lifes and to show their parents they can maintain a family better than they did. Of course, they end up realizing that their frustrations can not be solved like this but by then its too late.

This does not apply to arranged marriages or to girls outside
America.
 
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Think about your life. I don't know about you, but I have alot of plans for my own life: go to graduate school, date different girls, spend some time traveling, build up my career a little, etc etc.

NONE OF WHICH leaves room for getting married and having a couple of kids at 22. Why do these girls (and the guys) do it? Because they have nothing to hope for in their lives, so they figure 'might as well get the family now and wait to die'.

A generalization, but with much truth.
 
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Leporello said:
Think about your life. I don't know about you, but I have alot of plans for my own life: go to graduate school, date different girls, spend some time traveling, build up my career a little, etc etc.

NONE OF WHICH leaves room for getting married and having a couple of kids at 22. Why do these girls (and the guys) do it? Because they have nothing to hope for in their lives, so they figure 'might as well get the family now and wait to die'.

A generalization, but with much truth.
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As others have said you have to make sure your life is in order before you can get married. In this day and age, it's VERY hard to have your life in order by the time you're in your early to mid 20s. I think you should at least be started on a long term career track before you get married.

For most people, the early to mid 20s are a scramble to get settled in life. You're not financially stable, you're not settled into your long term career track and you're dealing with a lot of uncertainty. To throw in a marriage on top of that is often a recipe for disaster.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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4 months ago I had a decent stable 9-5 job and a great girlfriend who was everything I wanted a girlfriend to be. But I decided that I wanted to be with more women before I decide on someone for life, that I wanted a different career path and that I wanted to move to a different country. So I took the bold move of leaving my job, left my girlfriend and moved country on my own to go back to college.

Then within the next few months, no less than 3 similarly aged couples with whom I am good friends from college do the exact opposite and get engaged and move towards settling down.

By and large, I'm pretty comfortable with myself and my decisions. But at the same time, somewhere at the back of my mind I can't help but ask: are they insane for settling down, or was I the crazy one for throwing away what I had to go on a new adventure?
 
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I can't help but ask: are they insane for settling down, or was I the crazy one for throwing away what I had to go on a new adventure?
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The answer always lies within. Read your own sig.
 
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PlaysToWin said:
4 months ago I had a decent stable 9-5 job and a great girlfriend who was everything I wanted a girlfriend to be. But I decided that I wanted to be with more women before I decide on someone for life, that I wanted a different career path and that I wanted to move to a different country. So I took the bold move of leaving my job, left my girlfriend and moved country on my own to go back to college.

Then within the next few months, no less than 3 similarly aged couples with whom I am good friends from college do the exact opposite and get engaged and move towards settling down.

By and large, I'm pretty comfortable with myself and my decisions. But at the same time, somewhere at the back of my mind I can't help but ask: are they insane for settling down, or was I the crazy one for throwing away what I had to go on a new adventure?
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And if you'd settled down, you'd be asking if you made the right choice and wondering what crazy adventures you could be happening now.

I believe we are our decisions, and if you decide to take risks you can't be weighed down by regrets.
 
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