"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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djbr

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What to do?

This evening I went to a store to buy some things. Well, shortly let's say that some things regarging credit took a lot longer than expected, and the woman who was checking things was very receptive to me.

We started to talk. She interviewed me (for credit purposes, heheh!). We then started to talk, usual stuff. I find out that she's not married (at 36!) and doesn't have kids. Of course she catched my eye from the beginning, otherwise I would be not typing this :)

At some point, she said that I was really beautiful. (no, I didn't ask. And it was not related to the subject) -- later she said things like "it seems that you're from a really good family" and many covertly things regarding my appearance.
Some stories she told mentioned a boyfriend. However, she said later she is not with anyone now.
She told me a story that she was rejecting a guy and giving him a wrong number. (haha I guess she knew what I was on to :D)

It was all on until this wrong number story. It was on that point that I ****ed up and started to second guess. Fvck! :(

What do you guys think? I'm 20 BTW. -- And I'm going there again tomorrow morning.

And uh, my income is not that great. :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She wants in man. Don't let anything she says throw you off, she's just testing you to see how you respond.

When you see her next, be confident, friendly, and flirty. If it's still on, SOI her. Reveal your intentions. This will tell you how to proceed. If she accepts the soi, aka doesnt reject it, find information and set up a date.

At 36 she knows she wont stay beautiful for ever and reallly wants to **** while she's still hot. A few of my friends have done some pretty crazy **** with their bosses etc.

report back!
 

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Yep she was probably looking for a boy toy for the night. No kids, No bf at 36, hell ya she wanted to get fuvked.
 

djbr

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Originally posted by spitkicker
She wants in man. Don't let anything she says throw you off, she's just testing you to see how you respond.

When you see her next, be confident, friendly, and flirty. If it's still on, SOI her. Reveal your intentions. This will tell you how to proceed. If she accepts the soi, aka doesnt reject it, find information and set up a date.

At 36 she knows she wont stay beautiful for ever and reallly wants to **** while she's still hot. A few of my friends have done some pretty crazy **** with their bosses etc.

report back!
it's on that little things that I struggle

having a past full of rejection, it's hard to me to find out that I'm now beautiful (this is not the only girl who told me this, and it's becoming a trend now).

so I will ask a stupid question: how should I SOI her? I really have no clue. Everytime, this is exactly where I stop. I'm get afraid I guess.

weird... but if I pass through this I definitely think my DJing for 2006 is going to get a real boost. :)
 

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ok. the SOI takes a little bit of balls if this is your fear, but you've got to do it to get it going sexually.

Here's how you do it..

an SOI is basically a reward and an indicator of your interest. So, you use it as a reward for her making an effort with you. So if she makes a joke and you both laugh, you say "not only are you sexy, but you'r alot of fun" then, move on.

It's a way of telling her about your interest, while simultaneously moving on so that she doesnt feel awkard, while at the same time explaining to her that she posesses characteristics besides looks that make her attractive.

This is all juggler's stuff. So look into his stuff, especially his blog. I talk about alot of other juggler theory in my blog too , might wanna take a look at that.

Good luck man, and once girls start accepting your SOI's , you will have more confidence to make them.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by djbr
it's on that little things that I struggle

having a past full of rejection, it's hard to me to find out that I'm now beautiful (this is not the only girl who told me this, and it's becoming a trend now).

so I will ask a stupid question: how should I SOI her? I really have no clue. Everytime, this is exactly where I stop. I'm get afraid I guess.

weird... but if I pass through this I definitely think my DJing for 2006 is going to get a real boost. :)

Don't over analyze it. Next time you see her, tell her, " you need to take me out", or "When are you taking me out", with a smile, implying that you know what's up, and since she's interested in a younger man, she needs to do the courting. In a fun, playful way that says all the right things.

You gotta do it quickly as soon as you see her, when you greet her, otherwise you willl most likely start thinking about it, and chicken out. Do it quick, fast, confidently, as soon as she sees you, in fact, that is your greeting.

She will most likely give you a response to test you, and to see how you handle it. So don't be surprised if she says "aw, your very young", or "you're so cute/beautiful, but you're kinda young." You turn around and bust her ballz, as in implying that it is not you who's too young, but she's too old. You don't call her old, you ask her "Why, you consider yourself too told to have fun", a frame a long those lines.
 
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