"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Managing multiple women

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Hey guys, let's say u got the #s of multiple women, talked to them, and there's one you like more than the rest. How do you go about "handling" the other women...keeping them around and interested in you...while dating the first chick? Because if the first chick turns out to be a wacko, you'd want to try out the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc...

Any ideas?....just not talk to them, say you're busy all the time? etc...???
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes, and by doing that that will keep their interest level in you high, because you're not readily available at the snap of a finger. For all they know, you ARE banging some other chick.

If you supplicate to them and are always there when they want you, they lose interest. Just think of the other girls as girls, not potential.
 

jonwon

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wussup said:
Hey guys, let's say u got the #s of multiple women, talked to them, and there's one you like more than the rest. How do you go about "handling" the other women...keeping them around and interested in you...while dating the first chick? Because if the first chick turns out to be a wacko, you'd want to try out the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc...

Any ideas?....just not talk to them, say you're busy all the time? etc...???

Oh man life is hard huh.

Such an hard life, i feel for you i really do!

Stop worrying the best thing here, there are PLENTY more women.
You have bagged these babes you can get more.
 

Tomatoes

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jonwon said:
Oh man life is hard huh.

Such an hard life, i feel for you i really do!

Stop worrying the best thing here, there are PLENTY more women.
You have bagged these babes you can get more.
Great example of jealousy.

Yeah. Just tell the other girls that your busy and made other plans. There IL will stay high as long as you dont keep doing it....otherwise they will see your flaking.

Remember....there are 7 nights a week.



Sarge On!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Ever hear of the phrase "spinning plates?"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First make sure you have solid numbers because you never know the one you like the most might flake on you. I personally would game all of them at the same time, that way you get more experience, and your not worrying about losing 1 of them because you have the others.
 

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game all of them at the same time, you'll be that much more confident; just try not to let them catch you in bed with one of the others - or let them all know about each other; i got up to two girls at one point and after only 3 nights i was busted, to say the least it went back down to 1 girl. damn - how does anybody do it? i didn't plan on the one girl staying over the whole night i thought she was just coming for the night when the other girl was bringing me breakfast in the morning. oops. and i went to jail that day for 8 days - c'est le vie
 

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Some of them will lose interest. Move on. I have 2 FB's I can call pretty much anytime, and they don't consider themselves my GF's, which makes it easy. I have one more whom I can call occasionally for a hangout / lay but I think she's getting serious with her AFC BF right now so that's probably on the outs at least temporarily, a chick I just met this weekend who hasn't been categorized yet -- not sure if she's an interesting enough lay to warrant a second round -- and 4-5 more in a holding pattern via email, myspace, & phone / text.

I keep an Excel spreadsheet on the entire stable on my laptop. How we met, where we went and when, her hobbies if any (amazing how many girls have no hobbies!) what jokes I told, their sexual preferences and hangups, birth control method if applicable, menstrual cycle, etc. I consult it before every date. Serious.

The only time it gets complicated is when a girl calls and doesn't tell me who it is. Then I have to let her talk until I get it figured out. Often, that involves cross-referencing the database, so I'll bust out my laptop.

"What's that noise? Are you typing?"
"Just a little work. Sorry, keep going. . . um, Janine. . . ."
 

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These women are boring as hell. When they get bored, they gossip or spend money on junk. IMO, they're pretty much worthless to date. I personally like women who are fun and interesting. I prefer the "dorky" women over the ones who know how to spend $100+ in the goddam salon.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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