"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Managing high sex drive

Fuglydude

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Hey all,

Just a question about how you guys manage your sex drive. I dont' know if I'm "normal" or not, but I seriously need it like 2-3 times a day, and there's times where I have to jerk it to be able to focus on things other than sex. I'm 26 years old...not some 17 year old with crazy high test levels.

If I don't ejaculate for over 24 hours I wanna hump everything in site...I get really horny. I'm not sure if this is normal.

Just wondering how everyone else here controls there sex drive to actually get stuff done...haha I know I"m gonna get flamed for this, but any tips help.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Whats the problem. **** your GF if you have one or jerk off. This is got to be one of the stupidest questions I ever encountered on this forum.
 

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You have the first step down and that's admitting you have a problem, the second step is to seek professional help.

I'm good at giving relationship advice but your situation, although it seems comical, is something you really need to look in to.


We might have guys here that's qualified to handle a question like this, I'm not, so I'm just gonna take my hate out of the ring on this one.
 

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hahaha Man that is totally normal for guys that eat well, lift weights and have a low body fat % as you do.

When I have a GF I never leave the house as that is time wasted that could be spent fvcking. Not to mention embarrassing public erections.
 

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i get pretty steamed when i'm horny and my gf doesn't feel like it

how do i manage? i dont really. the agner sibsides when i go home, then i start feeling terrible about being so agro
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't see the problem. If you need to defuse a bit and you don't have a girl, go bless a urinal!
 

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What do you usually eat? I started feeling the exact same way when I was experimenting with Zinc supplements..
 

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Lucky - I'm eighteen and the only way I can get turned on at all is through physical things. I'm never horny until it's time to do the deed.
 

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MCristo said:
Lucky - I'm eighteen and the only way I can get turned on at all is through physical things. I'm never horny until it's time to do the deed.
That's not a good thing, especially as such a young age.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just a question about how you guys manage your sex drive. I dont' know if I'm "normal" or not, but I seriously need it like 2-3 times a day, and there's times where I have to jerk it to be able to focus on things other than sex. I'm 26 years old...not some 17 year old with crazy high test levels.
I am in my mid thirties and have recently lost about 20 pounds(but still overweight, about half way there), and I get like this too, since then, getting exercise and taking supplements, ideally I would like to have sex about 2x a day. It is horrible when you don't have a gf. Combined with my sense of inferiority that I can't seem to shake, I think it actually makes me come across as even more desperate and clingy to women then I would be if I was not horny and didn't care. Some sosuavers suggested that my depression was due to low testosterone but I find that difficult to believe when I am horny all the time nowadays.
 

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rjones said:
jerking off is the best way. 1-3 times a day.
this can cause sores on your wee-wee. 3 times a day will only lead to cuts and bleeding. limit yourself to one time a day and maybe twice a day on the weekends and holidays.
 

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wallycleaver said:
this can cause sores on your wee-wee. 3 times a day will only lead to cuts and bleeding. limit yourself to one time a day and maybe twice a day on the weekends and holidays.
lube
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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wolf116 said:
That's not a good thing, especially as such a young age.
I know I hate it.

I weight lift 5 days a week - run 6 miles 4 days a week - eat a fairly clean diet - rarely masturbate

yet some how my drive is low
 

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u dont need proffesional help, that was me as well. it just means you're weak.

think about something else, stop looking at porn (important!) and stay busy always. everytime you think of jacking off, go to the gym or something. i don't believe in going cold turkey in a way that suggests you sit there and try not to jack off because you will give in. the best way is to replace the habit with another habit (working out)

that what i've done and if i really need to (if i dont pickup a girl a certain week) i only ever jack off once a week out of CHOICE, not because i need to
 

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MCristo said:
I know I hate it.

I weight lift 5 days a week - run 6 miles 4 days a week - eat a fairly clean diet - rarely masturbate

yet some how my drive is low
Wow! That is your problem for sure.

Take a week off training!
Cut down that weight lifting to a 3 day powerlifting style routine and cut that running out totally(catabolic) and substitute some GPP like sled pulling twice a week. Add ZMA (100% of athletes are deficient in zinc) and raise your fat intake (best natural testosterone booster).

I promise you, that if you do this you will love the results.

Over training turns your libido to nothing.
 

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wolf116 said:
Wow! That is your problem for sure.

Take a week off training!
Cut down that weight lifting to a 3 day powerlifting style routine and cut that running out totally(catabolic) and substitute some GPP like sled pulling twice a week. Add ZMA (100% of athletes are deficient in zinc) and raise your fat intake (best natural testosterone booster).

I promise you, that if you do this you will love the results.

Over training turns your libido to nothing.
+1.

MCristo - You haven't (couldn't have) trained to be able to handle that kind of volume - yet. You could, if you ate like 7K calories a day. Take wolf116's advice, and cut down on your training, no matter how much you love it.
 

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Right I'll definitely give that a try. I remember taking a week off two months ago helped me a lot with general happiness and well-being. I'm going out to buy ZMA today; should help with my sleep and fatigue trouble too. Thanks for the advice
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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