condonrekema
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First question: Does anyone here know a general-use checklist to help you gauge what you’re doing right?
Background: For the first time in my life, I was ****ing with three women on a weekly basis. I had a Friday shift with one for a few weeks, a Sunday shift with another for a few weeks, and a Wednesday shift with a third for a few weeks.
Then, for different stated reasons that are hard to explain or articulate, the Friday and Sunday girls were out of rotation one weekend.
Usually, I expect girls to fall out of rotation, and I understand that's just how the business works.
But I was feeling so happy, swimming in all that *****, that I started to wonder what I might have done right or wrong and how to replicate it.
Right now, the Friday girl is coming around, the Sunday girl is still on the rocks and will probably be confirmed out of rotation soon, and the Wednesday girl is asking for more shifts.
The second question is: Does anyone here have a framework or checklist that helps you manage three or more girls successfully?
I, for instance, started reflecting on this and came up with a few points:
1. Routine: Even though it sounds nice to have them on shifts, this might have worked against the mystery and competitive anxiety needed to keep them investing all the time. Maybe I should keep a schedule for myself that’s unknown to them, so they never get used to any one routine.
2. Texting: I have the feeling I might have spent too much time texting them all the time. I don't have a standard rule or understanding of texting, but something tells me I need to correct this behavior. I could have seemed too easy or too available because of all the texting.
3. Frame issues: I frequently battle with Christian guilt, yet I still love the lifestyle. This conflict, combined with my naturally contradictory and disagreeable personality, often keeps me from establishing a frame that can guide them effectively. In the past, I've used the fun experiences and discovery frames, but now I'm struggling to define my frame, so when I get ****-tested, I respond reactively instead of proactively.
4. Abundance: On average, I can get one lay a month; usually, once I lay with one, I stay with her until the relationship ends, which is a few weeks or lays. After that, I start looking for the next one. Recently, I decided, as I said before, to change this approach by managing a few girls at the same time, but I felt so lost when two of them got cold and only one was warm, which made me think I need a better abundance strategy. For instance, deciding when I want to be available, and then picking from the rotation and trying always to be feeding more girls into the rotation just so that I can allow the natural fluctuation of cold and warmth that girls go to and always have a fresh stream of cuchi
Finally, thank you all for taking the time to read this and help me improve. Any advice will be considered.
Background: For the first time in my life, I was ****ing with three women on a weekly basis. I had a Friday shift with one for a few weeks, a Sunday shift with another for a few weeks, and a Wednesday shift with a third for a few weeks.
Then, for different stated reasons that are hard to explain or articulate, the Friday and Sunday girls were out of rotation one weekend.
Usually, I expect girls to fall out of rotation, and I understand that's just how the business works.
But I was feeling so happy, swimming in all that *****, that I started to wonder what I might have done right or wrong and how to replicate it.
Right now, the Friday girl is coming around, the Sunday girl is still on the rocks and will probably be confirmed out of rotation soon, and the Wednesday girl is asking for more shifts.
The second question is: Does anyone here have a framework or checklist that helps you manage three or more girls successfully?
I, for instance, started reflecting on this and came up with a few points:
1. Routine: Even though it sounds nice to have them on shifts, this might have worked against the mystery and competitive anxiety needed to keep them investing all the time. Maybe I should keep a schedule for myself that’s unknown to them, so they never get used to any one routine.
2. Texting: I have the feeling I might have spent too much time texting them all the time. I don't have a standard rule or understanding of texting, but something tells me I need to correct this behavior. I could have seemed too easy or too available because of all the texting.
3. Frame issues: I frequently battle with Christian guilt, yet I still love the lifestyle. This conflict, combined with my naturally contradictory and disagreeable personality, often keeps me from establishing a frame that can guide them effectively. In the past, I've used the fun experiences and discovery frames, but now I'm struggling to define my frame, so when I get ****-tested, I respond reactively instead of proactively.
4. Abundance: On average, I can get one lay a month; usually, once I lay with one, I stay with her until the relationship ends, which is a few weeks or lays. After that, I start looking for the next one. Recently, I decided, as I said before, to change this approach by managing a few girls at the same time, but I felt so lost when two of them got cold and only one was warm, which made me think I need a better abundance strategy. For instance, deciding when I want to be available, and then picking from the rotation and trying always to be feeding more girls into the rotation just so that I can allow the natural fluctuation of cold and warmth that girls go to and always have a fresh stream of cuchi
Finally, thank you all for taking the time to read this and help me improve. Any advice will be considered.
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