Managing a relationship with a Loose girl who cares for you ...

[dj_phobia]

I met this girl a couple of months ago on FB (She added me as she knew me through someone else)..within a week I was able to persuade her to come to my city with the help of my DJ'fied Communication skills

We had an awesome time for the couple of days she was here. We had sex and all but then she told me she also has a BF back in her city. Then she went back. We talked on the phone a lot and one of the most common theme was her telling me how much she hates her bf. I avoid discussing the topic as I didnt want to be the FRIEND who she bithces her BF about. I made it clear that she shouldnt be discussing her BF with me.

Technically, what we have is a so called "Special relationship" or at least thats the name we have given it, wherein we can sleep together, but she can also keep her bf. It took her nearly 3 months to come back to my city and we had a fairly good time for the first couple of days. After that she entered her periods and it went all awry. I also got a bit drunk one day and said things that might have steered our relationship into friendship zone. I also discovered that she has several prospects on the go..and likes too keep other guys interested, i.e. SLUT alert.

I loved talking to her because we did have a good time, she is smart and witty too and we seem to share a common sense of humour. I do enjoy the sex too, however I think the spark in our conversations is now missing. What would you fellow DJ's advice?

P:S: The title may not make too much sense. She does seem to care for me a lot, as the second time she came around it was for my BF, and she surprised me. However she is also a sweet talker and a compulsive liar which confuses me about the approach I should have towards her.

 

[KontrollerX]

"She does seem to care for me a lot"

Seems to care being the key words.

If she actually cared she wouldn't be going back to the standby boyfriend and riding his c0ck.

The way I look at this whole situation she's playing you both and reaping all the benefits.

If you were smart you'd cut off all emotions surrounding this chick right this instance and just keep the mindset that she is purely a fvck buddy and thats it.

No genuine relationship can form from being involved with a chick like this that has shown you perfectly clearly how much she cares (goes and rides the boyfriends c0ck while not with you) and is willing to cheat on a boyfriend to fvck you indicating she WILL do the same to you if you were to get her away from her current boyfriend and with you.

And yeah yeah I read the part where she supposedly hates her current guy.

Bullsh!t.

She keeps going back to him.

She can't hate him all that much.

Again she's playing you both.

 

[dj_phobia]

If you were smart you'd cut off all emotions surrounding this chick right this instance and just keep the mindset that she is purely a fvck buddy and thats it.

Cheers Mate. That's exactly what I thought I should be doing and have been doing for the last couple of days. However, I just wanted to hear that from someone else, so Thanks for that. I think it might have been a bit difficult for me to see the facts straight here as we do have a strong chemistry, irrespective of the fact that she is not always honest.

Seems to care being the key words.

If she actually cared she wouldn't be going back to the standby boyfriend and riding his c0ck.

This is a tricky one. Just because she sleeps with her BF doesn't mean that she cant care for me. It is very likely that she has a high sex appetite and likes multiple partners (like most guys do). I think as an open minded person I should accept that. When I say she cares for me, I do think she enjoys my company and IS WILLING to go out of her way to please me. She isn't officially my GF so I have no right to expect her not to sleep with someone else.

However, I agree with most of what you said.

The tricky part of the game here is that when she came this time, she spent nearly 5 days at my place, which meant that we spoke more than we should have and may have lost some of the spark (partly due to the fact that I got drunk a couple of times and lost focus off the game and may have become a bit emotional). So I am now in Damage Control mode and would love to have some more advice on how to steer this relationship back to where it was. This is my strategy so far:

1. Do not talk to her too much for a week or two
2. Discuss other Attractive prospects in our conversations more than I usually do
3. Keep conversations to the point, make her really happy in a short time and just when she is all pumped up and wants to talk more, keep the phone down.

Advice/feedback would be most appreciated..

 

[dj_phobia]

Just to add to that:

How about me telling her that I think we should just be friends...rather than SPECIAL friends and then applying the strategies discussed above..