"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
man this sucks.. she's pregnant
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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I don't even care what 10s think when I walk up to them in person, so some random guy in the Internet name calling isn't really a big deal to me.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
It haunts me every day.
I live my life based on improvement only because I feel like I'm not worthy. I feel pathetic because whenever you're sad it's like the only good thing you feel you could have done with your life is given life to children that could live better than you are and in some way make the world a better place.
God has truly blessed you if you truly feel like you will feel no moral pain. I'm not even religious.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
everywomanshero
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Ok let's say she has the child and (extremely unlikely) it turns out to be his.
How about the pain of this:
You can't go to school because of child support payments.
You have to ride the bus to your dates house because of child support payments and she says, "where is your car?"
You are homeless because you cannot afford a house, food, and child support payments.
You get fired from your job because you cannot afford clean clothes as a result of child support payments.
I make 18$/hour and I can barely get by in the cheapest apartment I can find, drive USED cars, don't blow lots of cash on dates, etc. If someone took 20% of my income, I'd be forced onto the streets with no place to shower much less shag. Single guys share the SOLE burdun of utilities, housing, food, supplies. We don't get those giagantic tax returns low-class single parents and middle class families enjoy. The 5k a year they typically get back is like over 400$ a month bonus for having more kids to plague or society with! A better solution is to hand out birth control like candy.
Meanwhile, some random lady who was probably not even truly pregnant by me lives in a nice apartment with lots of spare cash/free unlimited medical coverage and has never worked a day in her life.
Now, how easy can you live with being a homeless bum who never gets any from a woman with a full set of teeth?
TurboOverCubicInches
Don Juan
1) tell her to have the baby. I don't believe in abortion as I said.
2) Get a very, very good lawyer. This will do two things. First, he will let you know if you can or cannot do anything in this situation. Second, a good lawyer will know the judges in your area. Ideally in this situation, you would want an older, conservative judge because these judges tend to follow the law as the law was intended to be followed. A good lawyer can get you a change of venue if he feels you are up against a judge who will not intrepret the situation fairly.
3) Have her take two tests. First, a test to determine the baby is yours. Second, a test to determine if she was on the pill or not.
4) if she gives you a hard time with either one of these, tell your lawyer. He WILL BE ABLE to help you, and can get this to court if you so wish.
5) If she DID lie about the pill, you may have a case on your hands. You may be able to collect from her in a court. If she was on it and the baby is yours, man up and remember this is part of the game sometimes. Also remember, NO ONE made the decision to have sex without a condom but you, and, Xanax DOES IMPAIR your judgement slightly. Kinda gives you that "don't give a dam" feeling. Bad idea when youre around a girl.
Whatever you do, protect yourself. In the USA, the courts tend to favor the female and tend to assume the male to be the bad guy in these kinds of situations.
The truth is, you both are EQUALLY responsible for this matter. Thats why, if she lied to you about the pill, you may be entitled to restitution of some amount.
Take care of yourself, and remeber, the worst thing that can happen is you'll have to pay money till the child is 18. Although it sounds like alot, it could be alot worse.
But remember, don't fall vicitim to the system. Most men aren't aware of their rights in this kind of situation. Get a good lawyer to get the best out of this situation if things go awry.
If you get the abortion...thats up to you to handle it.
peace out