Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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MAN this an AFC almost a woman!

slickone

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A buddy sent me an email that he sent to his gf of two years. Recently due to school it became a LDR thing. Now his gf is going out all the time and ignoring him and turning him into a big AFC.

Here is his email:

Subject: Hurts

GF Name,

It hurts to wake up and not know what your plans are for the day. It has killed me all summer to go to bed every night without saying goodnight. I miss what we used to have in that even when I was away, when I knew that you were thinking about me as much as I was thinking about you. I miss the security of knowing that our goals converged. I miss the unconditional feeling of love and support I had from you two years ago when it didn't matter if I got an A or a D, where what I said to someone down here didn't matter because you still loved me. I miss being able to listen to Jack Johnson's Curious George cd and remembering the trip you took to Dayton 2 years ago.

I wish it were like last summer and we were having a blast together. I Loved the buffalo bills game with the rain, and the meatball calzone. I feel like you made seabreeze a blast that day we went with your work. I usually hate lines and crowded places but you made that day a highlight of my summer.

I started a new "std-op", and it is to walk from my place to starbucks for an iced coffee and a water for Riley. I tie him up outside and he behaves great. Unfortunately the tradition started the night before my birthday, when you never answered or returned my call, and I didn't want to give up walking and waiting for you. I wish it were something like that which you and I do regularly. I realized that it is not where you are but who you are with, and if we could only rewind to last summer, and we could be simply walking the dog to a coffee shop once or twice a week, I would be as happy as I have ever been.

Last fall I started to miss getting calls from you that made me feel like you missed me and that I was as important to you as you had always been to me. It may have felt that way because we had such a great summer, and then all of a sudden I was away. I felt that as soon as I was away last year you started doing new and different things that you rarely ever did with me. That took a toll on how I felt you loved me or how much I meant to you.

Our problem has always been communication, but not just when I have been away. This whole summer I was always waiting for you to call me or text me or email me first, and it never happened. That is why It hurt more when you did not call or answer me on the 9th when you said you would.

I love you, but I have been let down again. I deserved better than you ignoring and not returning those calls on the 9th, when earlier that day you said we could talk.

I feel like I am still head over heels in love with you. When I received a birthday present and found out you sent it while we were still not even trying to talk nicely It took about 3 hours for me to decide to not rush home that very night. And honestly if if did not start work tomorrow, I would have been home just to see you. I do not feel like you love me like you once did.


And then a day or so later this is the cold biatch's reply:



AFC Loser,

I don't mean to keep you waiting, but I don't know how to put into words how I feel yet. I hope your first day of work is going well.

I love you.

B_tchy GF



GUYS. Spin many plates. Don't write AFC sappy BS emails. He sounds like a girl.

NEXT that biatch. Easy.

Have options.

These guys are 26 yo each.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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WestCoaster

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I used to blame the guy for stuff like this, knowing I was probably on par with that AFC sh-t. But then I realized it was a lifetime of bad programming, mostly Hollywood and the sort -- thanks a-holes.

Correct on spinning plates. I'll cut this guy some slack. Yeah, he's an AFC. Why? Because he was programmed by American society and/or brought up wrong. At 26, there's still hope he can be de-programmed.

Your next step isn't to post another love letter, it's to send him the links to sosuave.com and sosuave.net.
 

ThunderMaverick

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I like the Curious George soundtrack as much as the next metro.

But Jesus, don't go broadcasting it. XD
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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