"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Man my girl dumped me , Please help me before i just do something to myself

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She's probably a crazy W*hore .....

who wants to **** hoodlums, criminals and badboys.

It gettheir ***** wet.

F*cuk these crazy w*hores. Screen them out of your life.

Get hard nosed. Be ruthless. F*ck them and kick them to the curb

25% want the hoodlum, 25% want a decent guy==that's from months of watching blind date.

Get Hard nosed and ruthless.


Geoff
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dude it flat out sucks. You can talk to me anytime about it.

I have dated alot of women. For some gdamn reason I thought this one was the one. What bull****. Maybe because everything she told me sounded great.

What I can't do is assume her weakness and indecision as a fault on my part.

FVCK HER.

Anybody that causes you this much grief like my ex did doesn't deserve to be a part of my life.

NOW I KNOW I CHANGE MY TUNE DAILY, but find a reason to hate this person. Then let go.

Write out every reason you can think why you will be better off without her.
 

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Originally posted by Plain & Simple
Only problem is WE WORK TOGETHER, haha we work in the same building so we are gonna be seeing each other very often, ill try to play it cool though, thats why i was asking should i talk to her or not, just a hi and bye, or let her approach me...and iniciate watever converstion if she does at all.
Don't initiate ANY conversation with her.
 

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Bro, you are 20.

two decades.

2 years since you stopped being a teenager.

TWENTY.

What were you thinking man? That you were gonna marry this girl and stay with her for 60+ years until you are both old people in rocking chairs on some porch, having to yell at each other because your hearing aid isn't working?

It's time for you to grow up and stop deluding yourself. No matter how great you relationship was, it was BUILT TO FAIL. Deep down inside, this girl thought you were a good guy to be with, and probably a good boyfriend, but that doesn't mean she is ready to keep going and spend the rest of her life with you.

You're in your 20s, this is the time you should be enjoying life, and not being shackled to one girl. Soon you will be 40, married, with kids, and you will miss the days when you were 20 and had no responsabilities. You will feel chained, and you will regret the fact you were stupid and decided to be chained when you were 20 too.

Ask any older guy what he would do if he was young again, and he will tell you that he'd be with as many girls as possible. Why? Because this guy was probably a sucker when he was young, and he wasted 8 months on some relationship that was BUILT to FAIL just like you did. And now he's 40, and still chained, and realizes what an idiot he's been. You get smart too late, and grow old too soon man.

In most cases, until you are 29+, every relationship you enter will be built to fail. Maintaining a relationship at 19 is equal to getting a hole in one in golf. Sure it can be done, but the odds are pathetic.
 

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Originally posted by Plain & Simple
Only problem is WE WORK TOGETHER, haha we work in the same building so we are gonna be seeing each other very often, ill try to play it cool though, thats why i was asking should i talk to her or not, just a hi and bye, or let her approach me...and iniciate watever converstion if she does at all.
Guess what time it is?








Time to start looking for a new job.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Re: She's probably a crazy W*hore .....

Originally posted by gmm567
25% want the hoodlum, 25% want a decent guy==that's from months of watching blind date.
Sadly, Blind Date doesn't teach math skills.
 

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No girl is worth losing your cool over.

The DJ mentality is one where there are always other girls to be had. Play hard and you'll have a new one within a week. Don't allow yourself to fill with petty emotions. Control them.
 

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Time to start looking for a new job.
lmao....how great would that be that you find a new better job because you dont want to see her face.

That'll make her really think you are done with her completely; which you should be.

Looking for a new job isnt such a bad idea. Shows you are ready for change and that you are sick of seeing her around.


You'll def find it easier to get over her since you wont be seeing her as much.
 

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Do you like your job?

If you really enjoy it, don't quit. Her presence should not affect whether you enjoy your job or not.

Furthermore, changing how you live your life because of a girl is weak. The only person who you should allow to decide whether you do certain things or not is yourself, on your own terms.

She used to be something to you. Now she's just someone else. You shouldn't care about her now. Keep your cool and become apathetic.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Legend
Slickster

I remember when my girl broke things up with me. You gave me great advice and i thank you again for it.

Since than i have taken your advice and continue to live well. Im getting great grades, looking at medical schools, in the best shape mentally and physically in my life and feel great. Getting into med school may be tough but i think within these next two years i'll get accepted.

She even wanted me back saying stuff like, i wish i never ended things. When we first broke up i would have loved to have her back. Now thats it been about a year, i could careless about her or how she feels about me.

She calls me up..i dont even reply sometimes. Not because i dont wanna talk, its because im busy with life.

You give great advice on this topic.....it helped me and it should help you too plain and simple.

Plain and simple...this may seem important to you right now, but in the long run it means nothing. Break ups are apart of life.
Legend, I do remember that time in your life. I'm glad to have helped in anyway friend :). Great to hear you are well on your way to being the best Legend you can be. Keep it up man and let me know when you get accepted to Med School!


Plain and Simple I hope you are taking all this stuff in because you've been given some great advice from an awesome group of guys who really know their sh*t!

Good luck, and I look forward to hearing all about your successful return to the game!
 

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plain and simple sup bro what part of miami do you live i could hook you up with some of my females friends
 

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ha i stay in Miramar, really it aint miami but broward county, but i hang around dade all the time, plus thats where all the sexy mamis are.

Anyways today at work was the first time we saw each other since the break up, she came up to me and said hi good moorning how you doing , so i said the same, i did make a few mistakes but im glad i made them, i had a pair of earrings i got her a few days ago with her country's flag on them, i gave it to her, she smile said thanx and whatnot but thats it, then my afc ass went out and bought her her favorite drink, she took it and the same, smiled and said thanx.

I regret doing what i did today though, good think that i talk, to my friends and they told me the same as most of you guys.

One of my friends had a convo with her and she told him that "Her feelings aint there for me no more" Yet she told me on my face that she loved me but that she just needed some space/break so go figure wich one it is but i dont give a damn now i think ima make her my fuk buddie though.
 

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fvck buddy? Its not going to happen man, she has lost respect for you.

You really need to gain self respect for yourself. Buying her earnings and her favorite drink today was lame man. I would have made her get me a drink. The fun is over, she knows she won. You need to kick out that pedastal from under her and find your balls.


Just keep things hi and bye....nothing more for awhile.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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dude im from hialeah. Im goin to bongos on saturday i went last saturday and it was off the chain if you wanna go let me know.
 

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once you get over this *****, hopefully youll have your lesson learned and youll be the biggest DJ, pmp, player...whatever.Youll realize that girls arent worth ****, especially american ones...that theyre inferior and they dont deserve your love, youll be playing them like little cheap hoes and therell be lines of them waiting to suck your **** cause thats the only thing theyre good for.

peace
 

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Originally posted by Dayr0n
dude im from hialeah. Im goin to bongos on saturday i went last saturday and it was off the chain if you wanna go let me know.
Aww i got this party to go to on saturday, a real freaky party it sounds like.

On the lost of respect for me, i dont necesarly think that she has lost respect for me, like i said this moorning she came up to me just to say good moorning how u doing, if she had lost respect she wouldnt even bother talking to me at all, even less start the converstion.approaching.

She even came to my car on our break, when i told her to, i placed the earrings in her shirt pocket, and i told her come to my car when you done (she was making salads). she came, in othe circunstances she wouldnt even bother going in my car.

By the look in her face, i can tell that she still wants to be with me, but i can also see that she is stressed, or just not right, she doesnt look herself, a couple of friends told me that too, that she looks sad and not herself.

Watch i gotta get my hair done for this weekends party, and she is the one that use to do it, ima call her to set a time and day, and while she is doing it (if she does not decline to do it wich i highly doubt, all i gotta do is feel on them nipples and thies and puss, i know she wont pull my hand away.

ITs just a matter of time before we start fukin again, ima talk some deep intelligent, mature words to her after she done with my hair.

I mean people that knows about this still cant believe that we are seriously broken up, cause we were so close, so its kinda like fake now u see, but as soon as she gets over whatever its going on with her (bloody week) itll all be good, everybody saying that not just me but even that 59 yr old coworker that i mentioned in a previous post, this is just like an intermission, a break, its halftime.
 

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Originally posted by Plain & Simple
I feel like ****, she left me, she left me for no reason man, just like that, she said that she doesnt like some of the things i say and i changed that, everything that she doesnt like i changed...
That's why she left you. Period.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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