cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
I knew this would happen - My ex found out about the new girl and called me a couple days ago.
She told me she thought we had an agreement to tell each other BEFORE we started 'dating' other people (which I did at one time agree to this for some retarded reason). I told me we would talk about it later because I was getting ready to bounce out to the bar for the evening.
I went to the bar with a buddy and the 'new girl'.....Got another call from her, she was crying her eyes out and obviously drunk. I was nowhere near sober either, and she started talking **** to me about how she couldn't believe I replaced her "so quick"....I said some pretty mean things about how much better the new chick is....she shot back and told me to give her cell phone back (they're on the same bill in her name)....and I told her we could talk the next day when we were both sober.
I guess that wasn't good enough for her, because her and some mutual friends came over while me and my bro and this new girl were hanging out drinking. Drama insued, I ended up talking to the ex in the truck and getting her to calm down and stop crying. She seriously couldn't believe that she was "replaced so fast" (it had been over 9 months, and no matter how you look at it, that's goddamn long enough).
Fast forward to the next day, and I called her at work and told her to come over after work so we could get things sorted out. She came over and we talked for 2 freaking hours. She cried. I asked her about all the sh*t she said......how she told me to move on and not wait, that she didn't love me anymore, that she didn't want to get back together ever, etc. She said she meant NONE of it. Piss. Told me she was deeply in love with me still and that she was trying to scare me into getting my sh*t together....
I asked her why the hell she was such a cold b*tch. She told me that I hurt her and she wanted me to change, etc. I asked about the things I heard about her looking for another dude, she denied it and swore to God she never did anything wrong. She said....and I quote: "I don't know how to be with anyone but you", and "I don't want anybody else, there is no replacement for you".
WTF.
I told her I called her bluff and she didn't expect me to move on, she agreed that I was right. I asked her what the f*ck outcome she expected, she said she wanted me to grow up and get it together because she wanted to get back together and somehow live happily ever after. She told me I wasn't marriage material while I was still acting like a boy and not a man, etc.
I mean, I'm not ashamed to admit on here that I was f*cking up and being irresponsible because honesty is great. I was pissed because she bounced on me, the b*tch. I still don't think I deserved it. It was totally fixable in my eyes, but she broke up with me, not vice versa.
Anyhow, I asked her what she wanted to do about this situation. She said she hoped we could work it out if we could both change for the better. I told her I really didn't know, but I didn't say no. She said she didn't want anybody else now or ever, and that she ALWAYS gives fake numbers when bros ask, and shuts dudes down when they try to get fresh.
We talked about everything, and after two hours, we both had to go. I gave her a hug and told her I'd be in touch. I honestly felt like a f*cker. WTF? Somehow I'm the bad guy again.
THEY NEVER LEARN UNTIL I'M GONE.
Then it's "Oh, I love you so much, etc". "Can't we work things out?".
She dumped me, I begged her to change her mind (a long time ago), now I'm 'dating' another girl and she wants to rethink things.....even after she told me no way in hell would we get back together?
Smack me hard. I've finally felt better about the way my life is going, having fun not worrying about this, then as soon as she finds out about it, things are different....she never meant what she said, and she really does love, and she wants to work things out provided we can both change??
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I f*cking hate this garbage. I think know what the right decision is to make here, but I'm having a hard time figuring out why I'm putting so much thought into it. I've learned valuable lessons here that I refuse to flush down the toilet, and I'm not the same person mentally that I was a couple months ago.
Thanks for listening.
She told me she thought we had an agreement to tell each other BEFORE we started 'dating' other people (which I did at one time agree to this for some retarded reason). I told me we would talk about it later because I was getting ready to bounce out to the bar for the evening.
I went to the bar with a buddy and the 'new girl'.....Got another call from her, she was crying her eyes out and obviously drunk. I was nowhere near sober either, and she started talking **** to me about how she couldn't believe I replaced her "so quick"....I said some pretty mean things about how much better the new chick is....she shot back and told me to give her cell phone back (they're on the same bill in her name)....and I told her we could talk the next day when we were both sober.
I guess that wasn't good enough for her, because her and some mutual friends came over while me and my bro and this new girl were hanging out drinking. Drama insued, I ended up talking to the ex in the truck and getting her to calm down and stop crying. She seriously couldn't believe that she was "replaced so fast" (it had been over 9 months, and no matter how you look at it, that's goddamn long enough).
Fast forward to the next day, and I called her at work and told her to come over after work so we could get things sorted out. She came over and we talked for 2 freaking hours. She cried. I asked her about all the sh*t she said......how she told me to move on and not wait, that she didn't love me anymore, that she didn't want to get back together ever, etc. She said she meant NONE of it. Piss. Told me she was deeply in love with me still and that she was trying to scare me into getting my sh*t together....
I asked her why the hell she was such a cold b*tch. She told me that I hurt her and she wanted me to change, etc. I asked about the things I heard about her looking for another dude, she denied it and swore to God she never did anything wrong. She said....and I quote: "I don't know how to be with anyone but you", and "I don't want anybody else, there is no replacement for you".
WTF.
I told her I called her bluff and she didn't expect me to move on, she agreed that I was right. I asked her what the f*ck outcome she expected, she said she wanted me to grow up and get it together because she wanted to get back together and somehow live happily ever after. She told me I wasn't marriage material while I was still acting like a boy and not a man, etc.
I mean, I'm not ashamed to admit on here that I was f*cking up and being irresponsible because honesty is great. I was pissed because she bounced on me, the b*tch. I still don't think I deserved it. It was totally fixable in my eyes, but she broke up with me, not vice versa.
Anyhow, I asked her what she wanted to do about this situation. She said she hoped we could work it out if we could both change for the better. I told her I really didn't know, but I didn't say no. She said she didn't want anybody else now or ever, and that she ALWAYS gives fake numbers when bros ask, and shuts dudes down when they try to get fresh.
We talked about everything, and after two hours, we both had to go. I gave her a hug and told her I'd be in touch. I honestly felt like a f*cker. WTF? Somehow I'm the bad guy again.
THEY NEVER LEARN UNTIL I'M GONE.
Then it's "Oh, I love you so much, etc". "Can't we work things out?".
She dumped me, I begged her to change her mind (a long time ago), now I'm 'dating' another girl and she wants to rethink things.....even after she told me no way in hell would we get back together?
Smack me hard. I've finally felt better about the way my life is going, having fun not worrying about this, then as soon as she finds out about it, things are different....she never meant what she said, and she really does love, and she wants to work things out provided we can both change??
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I f*cking hate this garbage. I think know what the right decision is to make here, but I'm having a hard time figuring out why I'm putting so much thought into it. I've learned valuable lessons here that I refuse to flush down the toilet, and I'm not the same person mentally that I was a couple months ago.
Thanks for listening.
