"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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man I cant make the move on the girl, what up with me?

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was out clubbing for new year in town last night and got talking to this american girl who studies over here, she was giving off the signals that she wanted me, and even at that I couldn't grab the balls to kiss her, what the hell is wrong with me?, its as though I've got some kind of psychological problem with the idea of making a move on a girl.

any tips on how to over come this?
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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In my opinion you try to go too fast. I wouldn´t try to kiss a girl the first time I meet her. Slow down dude!!! You were doing OK, what you needed is to get info about her to contact her another day.
 

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Originally posted by Dave111
was out clubbing for new year in town last night and got talking to this american girl who studies over here, she was giving off the signals that she wanted me, and even at that I couldn't grab the balls to kiss her, what the hell is wrong with me?, its as though I've got some kind of psychological problem with the idea of making a move on a girl.

any tips on how to over come this?
Ignore the stupid post above. the faster u bang her, the better it will be. my recomendation, is to create opportunt moments, that way its like a little plan =). Step by Step. thats how i convinced myself the first time.

Be like, okay, im gonna put my arms around her, then lean in, then kiss. and it becomes like a checklist =).
 

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You are just freezing in the moment. Too much tension for you to handle. A.ka. chokin', it might happen to you often, or just in the presence of hotties. Just remember one thing, THEY EXPECT YOU TO MAKE YOUR MOVE. You are the man and MUST escalate things at all times, otherwise the hottie will never forgive you and write you off. No time for the timid here, no time for the gun shy.
 

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Re: Re: man I cant make the move on the girl, what up with me?

Originally posted by DesertsFox
Ignore the stupid post above. the faster u bang her, the better it will be. my recomendation, is to create opportunt moments, that way its like a little plan =). Step by Step. thats how i convinced myself the first time.

Be like, okay, im gonna put my arms around her, then lean in, then kiss. and it becomes like a checklist =).
It´s ok if you don´t agree with me, but you don´t need to say that my post is stupid. Different strategies.
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Re: Re: Re: man I cant make the move on the girl, what up with me?

Originally posted by slipstreamer83
It´s ok if you don´t agree with me, but you don´t need to say that my post is stupid. Different strategies.
It's stupid.

Haha.

Hesitation equals, well, you know the rest of that...

Hesitation is a low status-male type of quality, and will RARELY land you the hotties who will have other less hesitant guys after them, and will often get you a membership in the LJBF club. Its normal to freeze up and not know what to do to advance things to a physical level, specially if you are just learning and you are not too good with women yet. So yes, its a different strategy, yet rarely an effective one, unless you have your game in tact and you do it because you are in control and there is no way she'll escape. Most guys don't do it because of that.

There's a right strategy and a wrong one.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: man I cant make the move on the girl, what up with me?

Originally posted by Gangster Of Love


Hesitation equals, well, you know the rest of that...

Hesitation is a low status-male type of quality, and will RARELY land you the hotties who will have other less hesitant guys after them, and will often get you a membership in the LJBF club. Its normal to freeze up and not know what to do to advance things to a physical level, specially if you are just learning and you are not too good with women yet. So yes, its a different strategy, yet rarely an effective one, unless you have your game in tact and you do it because you are in control and there is no way she'll escape. Most guys don't do it because of that.
Exactly.

My point is to avoid "freezing up" as you say. If you forget about kissing the girls the first time you meet her it won´t make you freeze up. To me kissing goes in the first or second date.

If you are a DJ you will stand between 100 AFCs, isn´t it???

Well, I live in a part of the world in which maybe the closest guy who gets into this stuff is several thousands of kilometres away:D since 5% of the population in my country speaks English, let alone access to sosuave.com or doubleyourdating.com.
 
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