Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Mall Approach

HardTimes

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In my attempt to start approaching all the time everywhere I went to the mall today to scope out the scene a bit and buy some clothes. I planned on seeing if there was any approach opprotunities and I was wondering how do you go about approaching at a mall on a chick by herself? I was only there for about 20 mins but I saw one decent looking chick walking by herself with a few bags in here hand walking parallel to be a bit in front and I had about, say 30 seconds to approach before I had to turn the other direction (I was leaving the mall).

So in this type of situation, how would a approach work? I could imagine something like we were both shopping and I ask her opinion on something or if she works there but outside of the store just walking (or sitting down at a bench) I dont know what my in is.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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daygameguy

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This is what I do.

I do something called a state-shift.

I shift my state into something I want to be, or was at a high point in my life.

Everything else flows from there.


The best openers would be to act lost and ask for directions, and then as they reply, get curious, and take the conversation somewhere else.
 

Allurre

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Daygameguy's on point with asking for direction.

It serves as a safe way to approach even the most leisure shoppers.

Once you've pinpoint the location to whatever store or restaurant, redirect the topic.

You can ask what she's shopping for ... where she enjoys going to in this particular mall etc.

Then give a handshake, thank her for the directions, tell her it was a great meeting her.

Right before you two separate, say "Hold on... you seem like a very interesting person to get to know. What's your e-mail? let's keep in touch."

In most cases, given that you don't come across as a sleaze or creep, they'll most likely oblige. Don't try put your game face on. Just be genuine, warm, smile.
 

HardTimes

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The asking for directions is a good one I didn't think of that. Will try next time, thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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