Male social circles

[animal crackers]

I have a problem when it comes to meeting new people sometimes.
When I go out and there are new people, i generally want to get to know them. When I try to interact with other males in a group, i usually end up being the one that is slightly left out of the circle. Sometimes Im funny, and sometimes im quiet, but even when i talk, its really hard for me to develop relationships with new people where we can really relate to each other.

I'd really appreciate some help with developing connections, and relating better with people of the same sex, i'm going off to college soon, and will be meeting a lot of new people.

 

[chicksrock]

hmmm...take more interest..
be yourself
stop being such a try hard i want to make friends...
be more layed back (don't try to impress)

and most importantly be genuine.

Good luck!

 

[Titus]

You probably have what is called a "Schizo" structure. It's a trauma that is aquired because of the lack of feeling safe from the time within the womb to some time outside (it's parent based -unwanted child, parents worry because of not having enough to provide for the child...)

If you want to get rid of it, talk to the nearest bioenergetist and say the magic words "i want to GROUND myself" He'll show you all you need (in practise you do different kinds of stretching and breathing exercises that change you energy structure of your body. It's all you really need to get rid of lonerism)

good luck

 

[Zoso]

It seems like the more outgoing and confident you are, the less likely you are to be left out of the circle. Don't worry so much about what these guys think, because you will come off as insecure. Instead, just focus on having fun and being warm and outgoing. Ask them open ended questions, get them to talk about themselves. Use what they're saying and build off that.

 

[Paintballguy]

I find myself to be a very laid back person. Almost everyone I met, I have been friends with . As long as you have a good laid-back attitude, you wont have any problems.

 

[animal crackers]

laid back

how do i get this laid back attitude to be there all the time. I swear im really fun and easy going sometimes, but then other times ill just want to be by myself and i wont talk to anyone

 

[evolvingnerd]

i'd love an update on this also
sometimes i'm the centre of attention, having everyone listenin in on me
other times i'm just the loner who sits no the edge like an idiot

 

[Don Rageta]

A.C. if you are going to college and you need help with girls, social skills, and making friends then joining a Frat is probably a good thing to look into. look into alot of them, they are all different from each other as night and day, there are party frats and others that give back to their communities. look into it with an open mind wether or not you find it is for you