You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Anyone know what the fvck seabreeze is talking about?
right back atcha baby!You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Men can open up, we do it all the time....Originally posted by seabreeze
Fran,
Um, uh not fvcking talking about anything. I'm asking a fvcking question....
Mind, it's not hard for a woman to be open. But, I always hear that it's hard for men to be. I don't want to have that knowledge from secondhand sources. I wanna know from the horses mouth, from the alpha males who frequent this site.
How should I respond to his "openess" is what I'm wondering. Do I periodically ask him to share? Thank him for sharing when he does? I'm not used to being with a guy like this...
SB
Just to emphasize that EMO isn't really an emotional state. Its just an image put on by kids. They dress a certain way and sing crappy songs about how they're lonely because everyone else is doing it. Plus, why isn't there any happy emo? Happiness is an emotion too.Originally posted by seabreeze
Is it easy for you guys to express your emotions? The guy I'm seeing is the most masculine yet emotional man I've ever met. He hates the whole "emo" thing, but he is so compassionate, empathetic, attentive and open with his emotions that it's hard for me to believe that they are real! I don't know how to react to it and I don't want to do anything to discourage it. How should I respond to him to keep him open with me?
SB
I'm with Luveno on this one. The whole "emo" state of mind is a crock of bull****. It's a teenage generalization of something that can't be generalized. To most teenagers, "EMO" means brokenhearted, but they state that it has something to do with just being emotional.