You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Anyone know what the fvck seabreeze is talking about?
right back atcha baby!Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Men can open up, we do it all the time....Originally posted by seabreeze
Fran,
Um, uh not fvcking talking about anything. I'm asking a fvcking question....
Mind, it's not hard for a woman to be open. But, I always hear that it's hard for men to be. I don't want to have that knowledge from secondhand sources. I wanna know from the horses mouth, from the alpha males who frequent this site.
How should I respond to his "openess" is what I'm wondering. Do I periodically ask him to share? Thank him for sharing when he does? I'm not used to being with a guy like this...
SB
Just to emphasize that EMO isn't really an emotional state. Its just an image put on by kids. They dress a certain way and sing crappy songs about how they're lonely because everyone else is doing it. Plus, why isn't there any happy emo? Happiness is an emotion too.Originally posted by seabreeze
Is it easy for you guys to express your emotions? The guy I'm seeing is the most masculine yet emotional man I've ever met. He hates the whole "emo" thing, but he is so compassionate, empathetic, attentive and open with his emotions that it's hard for me to believe that they are real! I don't know how to react to it and I don't want to do anything to discourage it. How should I respond to him to keep him open with me?
SB
I'm with Luveno on this one. The whole "emo" state of mind is a crock of bull****. It's a teenage generalization of something that can't be generalized. To most teenagers, "EMO" means brokenhearted, but they state that it has something to do with just being emotional.