"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Making women qualify themselves

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I have been working on routines to make women qualify themselves. These are for in-person, not via text or online messaging.

Routine 1: Ask them "are you sure you are single?" and when they say "Yes" say "good, becuase I don't (fvck with, mess with, entertain, hang out with) another man's woman. There is no honor in it". (That line is shamelessly taken from Colossus's 65 things.) I think that response helps establish trust and comfort.

Routine 2:
Tell them I want to give them my "are you batt-schitt crazy" test. Make them look in my eyes, tell them I have studied body language in advanced negotiating so I'll be watching to see if they'll tell the truth. I want the questions to be a mix of playful and serious. The ones I have so far are:
1) have you even vandalized a significant other's property because you were mad at them?
2) have you ever owned more than one cat?
3) have you ever gotten out of the car and threatened to walk home because you were mad?
4) how many pillows are on your bed?
5) how many different shampoos are in your shower right now?
6) have you ever yelled at your other in a restaurant?
I would welcome any more suggestions for questions.

Also, do you all have any other routines to make them qualify themselves?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What were YOUR mistakes in your last major failed relationship; not his, yours?
 

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MOTU said:
I have been working on routines to make women qualify themselves. These are for in-person, not via text or online messaging.

Routine 1: Ask them "are you sure you are single?" and when they say "Yes" say "good, becuase I don't (fvck with, mess with, entertain, hang out with) another man's woman. There is no honor in it". (That line is shamelessly taken from Colossus's 65 things.) I think that response helps establish trust and comfort.

Routine 2:
Tell them I want to give them my "are you batt-schitt crazy" test. Make them look in my eyes, tell them I have studied body language in advanced negotiating so I'll be watching to see if they'll tell the truth. I want the questions to be a mix of playful and serious. The ones I have so far are:
1) have you even vandalized a significant other's property because you were mad at them?
2) have you ever owned more than one cat?
3) have you ever gotten out of the car and threatened to walk home because you were mad?
4) how many pillows are on your bed?
5) how many different shampoos are in your shower right now?
6) have you ever yelled at your other in a restaurant?
I would welcome any more suggestions for questions.

Also, do you all have any other routines to make them qualify themselves?
Pretty intense bro...

What I do to INSPIRE qualification is I maintain a slight judgmental frame in my early dealings with a woman. And I use alot of "i like that" style confirmations. I like to keep my time with a female light, upbeat and generally positive. If she had a negative answer to any of those questions it might spoil the mood of a girl with a weak character. You also have to consider that all of your questions are about things you would not like a woman to do. She will pick up on this and it will just turn into a game of denial and lies. Thus further pushing her away from you. And by trying to qualify her so early it's almost like saying you are already considering her for more in a very negative way. Maybe add some positive questions? Like "Do you consider yourself an affectionate person?" type thing so she has a more romantic topic to talk about for a bit before she has to admit to owning three cats and sleeping with them.

You also have to consider that when a girl begins to inquire about your personal life you can use some of those questions to diffuse her inquiries and turn things back on her. So if she asks how many girls you slept with you can throw out a quick answer then return with one of those questions so she's not sitting there spazzing out, hamster in overdrive over how many girls you have recently banged.

And I don't get the shampoo thing...
 

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There was some silly "psych test" that we used back in the early 90s, and I have forgotten it, but if anyone can remember it, it would be something for OP to have fun with. It is a definite warmup. We would "Hey how you doing?" a few seconds later, "This girl just gave me a psych test, was pretty cool, have you done it yet?" and lots would instantly say "give it to me." Chick crack is what I think it's called here.

Anyway it was 5 questions, each with 6 adjective answers, and I remember some of them.

1. "What is your favorite color? What are three adjectives describing your favorite color?" then "What are three adjectives describing your feelings about your favorite color, how does it make you feel?"

2. (forgot)

3. (forgot)

4. Think about the ocean. "What are three adjectives describing the ocean itself?" (get them to write all this down, not do it question by question the trick is all the things you will tell them about themselves at the end after stirring up these feeling emotions). Then "what are three adjectives that describe your past experiences or feelings about the ocean?"

5. "You are in a small room with curved walls and no doors or windows. What are three adjectives describing this room?" then "What are three adjectives describing how you feel personally about this room?"

So each question has six adjectives as answers and TONS of emotional content going on as the questions are answered. 1. favorite color is your desired self image for the first three adjectives and then either how others see you or how you see yourself 4. the ocean is sex or love life and how you feel about it 5. is death and how you feel about it.

2 and 3 could be favorite car for "career path" and favorite house for lifestyle. The whole thing is made up and designed to get them emoting, so different things could be inserted for 2 and 3.

Anyway, OP, this is proven strong icebreaker for those learning conversation or emotion mining. I know it sounds kind of childish. The object is to get them feeling things and empathize with that into NLP loops, including some push pull and scarcity all along (don't agree with everything and even poke fun at some of their answers).

It's also a fun party game to give the test to a group.
 

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So the psychology here is to flip the switch in her mind so that she feels she needs to be proving herself to you rather than the other way around. The crazy test isn't meant to be serious it's meant to be done in a playful in funny way but yet have her be on the defensive a little at the same time.

I agree with the sentiment that it's only worth messing with high interest women, but even with a woman is interested in you I think your behavior can either escalate that interest or diminish it.

I like the phycology test too, thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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