"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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spider_007

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"oh he makes me feel soooooo special" she said.

hmmm.

If you can't make her feel special by: buying gifts, calling always to find out if she is ok, giving her atention THEN WHAT.

some peple understand this already, but I thought it needs to be said again.

Haw about this. Imagina a guy and a gurl. The guy is a Absolute MAN. He is attractive, confident, and calm. He has tons of good atractive, confident friends, some of them woman. He has his own life, good carrier, and great relationships with his family.... In another words, he is THE DON JUAN. He is the essence of a reall QUALITY MAN. But this man doesn't spoil his woman, but yat she STILL FEELS SPECIAL.

WHY IS THAT

It's quiet simple; Under all the makeup, bich shilds, and games, she is still an insecure litle gurl looking for attention and somebody to love. It's ok to be loved back, but it doesn't feel as good on the receiving end as it does when she is giving the love. You all can relate. You feel all tingly when you love somebody, but If they love you back, it'doesn't feel the same. It's just "another person who loves you", nottin special. So that insecure litle gurl is looking for her rock. she is looking for somebody better then her. somebody more cofident, in control of his imotions, in control of his intire life....

in another words; JUST BY BEING ACCEPTED AND WANTED BY SUCH A MAN SHE FEELS SPECIAL.
read that another 5 times. JUST BY EBEING ACCEPTED AND WANTED BY SUCH A MAN SHE FEELS SPECIAL.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Deadly_Assassin

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thats a good post just one question.

How do u stay calm. I know it means not getting angry. But how do u stay calm?
 

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To make a girl feel special...

Don't play games.
Be faithful in your actions and your intent.
Listen to what she says, understand and empathise. Be supportive.
Plan exciting adventures together.
Be caring, affectionate and attentive.
Be a gentleman.
Be romantic.

NOTE: This is after you become a couple.
 

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Originally posted by Hellboy
To make a girl feel special...

Don't play games.
Be faithful in your actions and your intent.
Listen to what she says, understand and empathise. Be supportive.
Plan exciting adventures together.
Be caring, affectionate and attentive.
Be a gentleman.
Be romantic.

NOTE: This is after you cut your own nuts off and let her hang them from her rear-view mirror.

Dude, do you even know what website you're on?
 

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Hellboy....u sound like AFC of year, man....
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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LOL. Make her feel special... Yeah brilliant idea.

Be supportive?
Be faithful in your actions and your intent?
Listen to what she says, understand and empathise. Be supportive?
Plan exciting adventures together?
Be caring, affectionate and attentive?
Be a gentleman?
Be romantic?

That is the worse AFC idea.

hehehehehe.
 

Hellboy

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NOTE: This is after you cut your own nuts off and let her hang them from her rear-view mirror.
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Have any of you guys ever been in an LTR? The result you want to get should always determine the the way you act.

So fine, if you want to be a player (and that gets old believe me :)), then obviously you behave with a different mindset. You don't spend enough time with any one woman to get attached. You'll get the numbers, you'll play the games, you'll fyck some hoes. And it's fun. For a while...

But when it gets boring, and you feel a need for something more fulfilling, you have to adopt a different mindset. It is possible to get a woman to fall in love with you. If she has a high enough value to you for you then you become to feel the same about her over time.

By the way, if you ARE a player, then it's not really fair to get them to fall in love with you. Karma will get you in the end.

Otherwise, if a girl is important enough to you then it's highly worthwhile. There's much more to this than looks. Obviously looks are important, but you're looking for a connection. Similarities in beliefs, interests, styles. Deep rapport. Mutual respect and understanding. Shared goals. Mindblowing sex. Trust.

Of course you are ALWAYS THE MAN, and she is ALWAYS THE WOMAN. You lead, she'll follow. You'll make decisions and take charge. You'll have your self respect. You won't act like a ***** if things go wrong.

But to really amplify the feelings of love, after you seduce her you have to both ROMANCE her, and deepen the connection. And to achieve that you have to include the points mentioned above.

Thank you :p
 

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Imagine this. Someone who can spell and use correct punctuation in the same sentence. Sounds like a fairy tale, right?
 

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I agree with hellboy on this. This is the natural thing to do in a LTR.

It's not wise to OVERDO this, but every once in a while and you have to leave her wanting for more of that stuff.

than again, spider_007 also had it right. But it's a different type of a relationship.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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