Making the right step...and then the left step...repeat.

[curtasC]

So MY problem is, that I don;t know when to go and talk to a girl. I have tried to go and talk to a girl at Breakfast on a Sunday, but I was quickly turned down and I got a little defensive when she said she already had a boyfriend. Another problem that goes with this is the walk over to the girl. This is when I get very nervous and then I choke up when I finally get to her. I hate the feeling of being nervous around a very attractive girl, but I do have to say that I do have the confidence to go up to a girl again (I just got out of a relationship and a horrible breakup).
SO I don't know what you can tell me, but I really want to get better at this, because I feel that if I don't, then I will have to just settle with a girl...and no Don Juan wants to settle with something that is just okay.

 

[Chamber36]

i think the conversation should just be lighthearted, like: hey how's it going?
Most of the time when you're approaching a very attractive girl she already knows what you're thinking. I don't know about the straight direct approach where the girl can see you walking towards her and already knows that you're approaching her to talk to her. She'll already be thinking of how she can get rid of you like that. It has to be spontaneous.

So imagine that they have a hairy ass or something. Don't think the same thing everyone else thinks. They often want to be put in their place.

Props on approaching though!

 

[curtasC]

Funny that you mentioned thinking her ass is hairy, because I was watching an episode of "How I Met Your Mother," and they made their friend think she was a prostitute and he didn't have a problem talking to her. So I will have to try this. Thanks for the advice.

 

[the third eye]

Funny that you mentioned thinking her ass is hairy, because I was watching an episode of "How I Met Your Mother," and they made their friend think she was a prostitute and he didn't have a problem talking to her. So I will have to try this. Thanks for the advice.

yup, and this all comes back to having the mentality that you are the **** and she's the *****. You seem to have the im some guy and she's this precious angel mentality. i have problems with this too but have been working on it.