Making the night out enjoyable

[AttackFormation]

I stopped going to clubs many years ago, havent been out for years and dont drink. On friday theres a party for the students at my university... but when i read Hamurabimbi's thread about winging his incel friend, i was through associative memory reminded of why i stopped going out, and started having second thoughts about this party. My concerns are:

- Women sending absolutely 0 signals to men they dont already know. That's what i saw the culture was the last time i was out several years ago. People only interacted with the group they came with... except the one girl who was friendly with me,maybe because i lated found out shes a single mom, i dont know.

- Am i supposed to wait for women to send some signal, or am i supposed to just try dancing or talking with them until i dont get rejected. And if it's the machine gun approach.. how will that look to the other girls there.

- I want to do something enjoyable there so i wont have a bad vibe from being bored, or nervous from looking like im out of my element. Ill be going alone so wont have a group to fall back on until i get to know one, or maybe find someone from my class if anyone is going. It's not fun to try to dance or talk with uninterested girls, and i dont drink. I want to have a plan for that... bring a card game? just chat with some guys (maybe the guys just stand around on the edges while the women interact with themselves, like the last time i was out)? palm reading or some bullshyt haha? just anything as a reserve to do besides getting rejected by girls, dancing next to girl groups who pay no attention to you, or standing by a wall.

Come on guys.... give me a pep talk. One bonus is there is a dress code for different faculties, so i can use that as an intro subject whether the folks are in my faculty or not.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

don't worry about IOIs at clubs. I learned that recently. and I'm in brutal SF. Just talk to girls. They like it.

 

[sevbucmash]

You realize that Sweeeden has different cuuulture? That means 99.9% of advice given to you will be off point.

 

[AttackFormation]

You realize that Sweeeden has different cuuulture? That means 99.9% of advice given to you will be off point.

What's the culture like where you live?

 

[Gamisch]

Very true. ANY pickup advice for Italy is wrong, for example. ALL of the pickup advice still applies for Vegas. MOST applies for NYC.

But how different can pick up be? Every where on planet earth it's the same recepy; people consume alcohol, dance and have fun.

I stopped going to clubs many years ago, havent been out for years and dont drink. On friday theres a party for the students at my university... but when i read Hamurabimbi's thread about winging his incel friend, i was through associative memory reminded of why i stopped going out, and started having second thoughts about this party. My concerns are:

- Women sending absolutely 0 signals to men they dont already know. That's what i saw the culture was the last time i was out several years ago. People only interacted with the group they came with... except the one girl who was friendly with me,maybe because i lated found out shes a single mom, i dont know.

- Am i supposed to wait for women to send some signal, or am i supposed to just try dancing or talking with them until i dont get rejected. And if it's the machine gun approach.. how will that look to the other girls there.

- I want to do something enjoyable there so i wont have a bad vibe from being bored, or nervous from looking like im out of my element. Ill be going alone so wont have a group to fall back on until i get to know one, or maybe find someone from my class if anyone is going. It's not fun to try to dance or talk with uninterested girls, and i dont drink. I want to have a plan for that... bring a card game? just chat with some guys (maybe the guys just stand around on the edges while the women interact with themselves, like the last time i was out)? palm reading or some bullshyt haha? just anything as a reserve to do besides getting rejected by girls, dancing next to girl groups who pay no attention to you, or standing by a wall.

Come on guys.... give me a pep talk. One bonus is there is a dress code for different faculties, so i can use that as an intro subject whether the folks are in my faculty or not.

You gotta adjust your expectations. You probably do get ioi ,but when you're too eager and hungry women pick up on this and reflect it to you.

If you have the ability to visit college type of parties you should realize this; you are just an ant, a tiny part of the universe. If you act all wild and (spam) approach women, nobody dgaf. They forget about you the next day. Now is your time, dont be sorry for yourself ten years from now. You go to the club to party , have fun , listen to good music and check out pretty girls. If needed you drinks couple shots at home so you save money.

This way, if you do meet a hottie , you'll be butthurt and jealous when you see her talking and/or dancing with another dude(which will happen anyway). You gotta have the abundance mindset and realize she is NOT yours and do the exact same thing, meet one, talk a little bit and move on.

And being sober can actually be a strength. Tell it like you are the designated driver that night. Shows responsibility. Plus alcohol does NOT make a man look prettier.

Force yourself to TALK to at least 3 women every night, regardless of the outcome.