"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Making the most of your birthday on Facebook

Mr. Goods

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It's your birthday. The staples of the day; cake, a gift(s), going out with family/friends, etc. In recent years, this also includes the many Facebook posts you'll get saying "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!" Most people either write a generic "thank you" on the other person's wall, or says "thanks for the wishes" on their status.

Boring, right? There is a way you can make the most of this innocent gesture. This will take more time, but write back to every single person who wrote to you. And by this, don't just say thanks. Ask how they're doing, what their plans are for the near future, or if anything good has happened to them lately. By doing this, you allow the opportunity to expand your connections and really make the most out of them. Additionally - and this is why I bring this tip here - you'll possibly get to know some HBs who wrote on your wall better.

A few weeks ago, I tried this whole thing out. A HB 8.5 who I had only met one or two times at school wrote on my wall, so I asked what her plans were for the summer. Turns out, she doesn't live all that far from me. We wrote back and forth a couple of times, where she mentioned twice how things by her have been boring. Obviously, I take this as a hint that she'd be up for something. Sure enough, when she returns from a short vacation this week, she will let me know her plans (and hopefully we're able to do something). :up:

In short: When people write happy birthday on your wall, write back and ask them questions. You never know what could come of it. At the very worst, you'll get to know people you didn't know as well better. It's a win-win situation.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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