"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Because of this site and the DJ Bible i'm now much more confident, dress better and and have no problem being looking fine females and the eyes and and talking to them (i used to avoid there gaze!). I'm also workign on my body as well. I just have 1 big problem... I don't have good conversational skills!!! I've been shy most of my life, so I haven't developed them. I just realised recently that instead of talking about thoughts and bs like that it's better to go with just topics (took me about a month since i've been trying to work on it). Is there any good websites or demonstrations on how to interact better with people, male and female, to get to know them better and build something out of it?

and 1 more thing. Why if you cuss a femlale you know or don't know she seems to want to talk to you and in somecases seem like she has interest? And is this a habit I should break? I'm quiet but have a bad temper so its happened a couple times, lol!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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toneqdup said:
and 1 more thing. Why if you cuss a femlale you know or don't know she seems to want to talk to you and in somecases seem like she has interest? And is this a habit I should break? I'm quiet but have a bad temper so its happened a couple times, lol!
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LoL,this is funny. You don't know why if you cuss a woman out,she seems to still want to talk to you? This is elementary man. Women are emotional.

I've said this a THOUSAND times:Women want to FEEL.
They want a man who makes them FEEL something,anything.

It's better to make a woman feel anger than to feel nothing at all. And I'm not joking about that,I'm serious.

Now don't get me wrong. I'm NOT SAYING to go around cursing women out.
That's NOT a good thing to do,however,with most women today,and especially the 18-26 range,you'd probably have a better chance dating her by saying something offensive when you first meet her as opposed to the standard "nice guy" approach.

You don't have to curse a woman out,but you do have to generate some emotions/feeling in her.

This is one of the reasons being a nice guy fails with women-It's based on how the guy behaves instead of how the guy makes her feel.
Being a nice guy does make a woman feel.....nauseous/repulsed.
Instead of feeling attraction for the guy,she's too busy trying not to hurt his feelings. She doesn't have to worry about that when a guy curses her out. She's not trying to avoid hurting him,she's busy experiencing the emotions (negative or positive,makes no difference) he's causing in her.

As for your conversation problems,do a search on here. There are an OCEAN OF THREADS/POSTS on here to help you out.

Peace man.
 
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One rule is to RESTRAIN yourself from cursing bro. It's mannerless, and being a hot tempered dude is not attractive. Let the women be the emotionally fragile ones. Real men control their emotions, not the other way round.

If you want to strike up great conversations, try to establish a common ground first. Find out what her interests are, and branch from there.

Don't try to conjure conversations that will 'impress' her. Just go with the flow.

Most importantly, place the spotlight on her. Women love talkin bout themselves, especially when you've just met her.

To your dating success,

Andrew Wang (Allurre)
 
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