"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Making Plans With Girls

CORVETTE06

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Hey whats up. it seems like whenever i get a girls number it just never works out! i call them up 3 days later and they never make definate plans with me... i get there number on a friday/sat night...and i call them on tuesday... i ask them to go out on the weekend and they never make definate plans! they always say 'call me later in the week' or 'i'll see what im doing and ill call you'.... what the hell do i have to do to make plans with a girl these days?

-the girls i ask to hang out are 17,18,19

i'm 19 going on 20.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nex

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You get their numbers Saturday night, call them Tuesday for a date the next weekend?

If that's not working for you, maybe you should try to make the dates sooner. I mean, if you get a number monday, call her wednesday for a date friday... When you call her, give her the PLAN, don't ask if she's free, just say you'll pick her up at "7" and see what she says.

If it doesn't come true, then get more numbers -- the problems are with the girls, you're probably doing nothing wrong.

There's also a high possibility that they REALLY are busy, but that "i'll see what im doing and ill call you" could be sign of her trying to put the ball in her field (but we can't be sure); in that case just take her phone call later, or try calling at a later date. If you've tried to make plans twice and she's being evasive, then she doesn't want to see you.
 

Buck Rogers

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Calling to arrange a date on a tuesday for a weekend? hmmmm... nah

now call her on the wensday/thursday ask if she has any plans, she says "yes im going...(insert place here) "
you say " Oh, so am i-see you there" you take out 5/6 of your buddies and if shes there with hers, chances are she likes you, if she doesnt show then next the chick.

o the other hand, if hse says "no i have no plans" thats when you ether say " well me and some buddies are going here, Wana tag along?"

or

"i thought we could go...(insert name here)"

if none of that works then she is to shy or to high maintenance and stop bothering.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Why not skip getting her number and just tell her to meet you somewhere on a particular day. The objective is to get her to see you again, not to just get her phone number.
 

Sean O

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Maybe you should work on building more attraction with them before you get their numbers?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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amoka

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Why not skip getting her number and just tell her to meet you somewhere on a particular day. The objective is to get her to see you again, not to just get her phone number.
Terrific respond...
 

Centaurion

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I usually never schedual my first date with a chick on a weekend, because I'm too 'busy' partying on the weekends with people I know. Or at least that's the impression I want to convey to a chick. My first date days are Thursdays or Tuesdays, as there are alot happening out on town on those days, but still it's not the weekend.

Calling up a chick that you just got the phone number from and trying to set up a date on the same weekend, will make some chicks go 'wtf, doesn't he have other people to hang with on the weekends?'.

Alternativly you can tell the chick to meet you at XXX where a whole bunch of you will be going.
 
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