making plans with gf

[fanren]

hey bros
so theres a semi-formal this saturday, me and my gf are going but before the semi her sorority is eating at this crappy place. i really dont want to eat there and would rather eat with her alone at some other place or with other people. should i just suck it up and eat with her and the sorority or slap her?
i havent told her i dont want to eat there yet.

thanks

 

[assasin]

Is this event specifically for her, or her sorority or just a general thing? If it's her event then you should deal with it and make the best of the situation.

Otherwise, arrange somewhere else to eat. If she still wants to be with her friends meet her at the event.

Why do you not want to eat there? Is it the venue or the company?

 

[jakeyboy]

if she's going to die if she doesn't get to eat with her sorority, let her be...

but tell her you'll meet up with her later on, or pick her up after dinner... have dinner with your mates first or something.

if your gf isn't interested in eating with the sorority at the crappy place then all is well, just head out and have dinner by yourselves.

don't force yourself to do anything you don't want to :nono:

all the best mate

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by fanren
hey bros
so theres a semi-formal this saturday, me and my gf are going but before the semi her sorority is eating at this crappy place. i really dont want to eat there and would rather eat with her alone at some other place or with other people. should i just suck it up and eat with her and the sorority or slap her?
i havent told her i dont want to eat there yet.

thanks

GF of how long?

Also, are the other girls' dates going to be there?

If none of the other girls are bringing their dates to the restaurant, or you've only been seeing her for a short while, you may be able to "find something else to do" until the actual event, but otherwise it's a social setting and you have to prove you can get along with her friends and their SOs, so suck it up and go.

It's NOT a big deal if you're socially capable enough to mingle and make small talk with a bunch of people. The fact that it IS a big deal shows that you're insecure about being "evaluated" by her sorority sisters, which is the WRONG attitude to have.

 

[spider_007]

Trying to keep her to your self when she wants to go out with friends sounds kinda clingy (in general). It sounds even worse if there is a special event.

Sounds like you want that "diner alone" MUSHEY STUFF, STOP IT, BE A MAN.

Suck it up, bring your friends too. If you try to convince her otherwise, you might have a fight, and end up slowdancing with a d1ck in you hand lather. Thisway you take one for the team, and still look like a man.

 

[fanren]

thanks guys for the response

its a gf of 2 months. anyways its a school event not her sorority dance.

one thing thats boggling my mind is that she didnt seem to want to go when i asked her, but i dont want to be like "well if you dont want to go then lets not go" i was more like "if you are free saturday night im taking you."

so i mean i was not trying to decide based on her eagerness but rather my own, although her attitude makes me not really want to go anymore but i dont want to look indecisive if you know what i mean.

while i dont mind eating with her sorority friends. i just rather not because they are pretty *****y and i hate spaghetti factory.

i also forgot to mention my gf is really dependant and most likely just do whatever i say, but i dont want to end up being a **** :woo: