"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Making plans, i dont get it

DJinTraining06

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My gf always says she is bad at makign deciisons, and i should decide when it comes to making plans. Ok so i sugges things to her and she never seems thrilled. she told me weeks ago she wanted us to go ice skating, so i suggested it for this sat and she says its too cold. Isnt it supposed to be cold? I suggest a comedy club instead and she said "well talk about it later"
I mean we havent done anything besides movies or dinner/drinks yet, i thought maybe shed want to do somethin more fun. Its funny every girl ive ever dated has been the same way. They say they want u to decide but in the end they end up deciding it every time. And its funny cuz its not as if im choosing boring things, they usually end up choosing somehting more boring. I give up tryin to read their moods. How r we suppsoed to know if they r in a fun energetic mood or a lounge around mood. From now on im just gonna say "were goin here tonite. end of story"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJinTraining06 said:
...From now on im just gonna say "were goin here tonite. end of story"
:yes: If she wants to do something else, she can make the plan. Fair, right?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
:yes: If she wants to do something else, she can make the plan. Fair, right?
Nooooo. This is relationship death. Women want men to make decisions and at the same time have an idea what they like. You can't ask, "Do you want to go the movies?" You can't give her decision making powers. Women see this as weakness. I don't ask the girl I'm with now, I'll just say "We're going to see the Mavericks tonight." because I know she like them. It gets annoying sometimes, but you have to pay attention to what your chick likes and dislikes from time to time.

She will expect you to make most if not all the decisions. She will you down on you if you don't.
 

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Pappadapolis said:
Nooooo. This is relationship death. Women want men to make decisions and at the same time have an idea what they like. You can't ask, "Do you want to go the movies?" You can't give her decision making powers. Women see this as weakness. I don't ask the girl I'm with now, I'll just say "We're going to see the Mavericks tonight." because I know she like them. It gets annoying sometimes, but you have to pay attention to what your chick likes and dislikes from time to time.

She will expect you to make most if not all the decisions. She will you down on you if you don't.
Ummm, that's what we just said.
 
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