@bigdave17 this maybe your problem. And, to an extent, most men too. From the 80s on, men were taught to be kind, considerate and comforting. What gender does that sound more like over the past generations? Hint, female. So, when you make a lady feel relaxed and comforted, she will have more friendly vibes towards you instead of sexual. Men, generally, are not friends with the ladies. Men hang around them to have sex or a relationship with them. That is why the push/pull technique and distant/aloof usually works. It works by keeping her guessing on what you will do; if anything at all. If you become predictable and she knows how you'd respond, then that's boring. If she talks to you about friend stuff, then you will be friendzoned. Always keep things unpredictable and interesting. Don't become her gay boyfriend. You need to keep moving the mark. Change things up. Do challenging and different things. Be different and interesting, not comfort and caring. Yes, if you get to a relationship, you'll have to add some comfort, but look at how many ladies are in relationships with guys who cheat on them and they stay with them. Yet, the guy who is dependable, caring and always upfront with them; they are not. They leave because they are bored and then it becomes a LJBF relationship. You need to be interesting. You need to be different. You need to be a challenge and adventurous. The game as changed in the 21st century. Boring = safe and predictable. In the world of instant gratification, ladies do not have the interest in this. They want experiences. They want to try new and adventurous things. They will gravitate to the dude or dudes who provide this sort of excitement and curiosity to them. Goes back to the old Elvis Presley saying, "A little
less conversation, a little
more action please". It's more important now in personal relationships then ever.
