You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Good idea, and one I've used before. 99% of yard sale stuff is crap, but there's always that 1%. Stay away from big, bulky items that would be hard to ship. It's sometimes profitable to visit thrift stores and church sales - many times they'll have name-brand clothes (Abercrombie, etc.) that can be purchased for a dollar or two and resold for much more. I found one church sale that had about 20 pairs of A&F cargo shorts & jeans for $1 each. I sold them on ebay for about $13-16... making a nice 1300%+ profit on each. Another idea is to be an eBay seller's assistant. Many mail places (ones that take your package and ship it via FedEx, UPS, USPS, etc) will allow you to put a banner in front of their store advertising your business. For example, a "LET US DO YOUR EBAYIN' FOR YOU! (555)555-1212" is particularly effective. Charge 30% and you're set.Originally posted by Coolage
A good way to make money on ebay would be to go through yard sales and find out how much the stuff goes for on ebay.
I could have sworn I practically wrote a book not but 2 posts above this one.Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
So what would you recommend?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
huhOriginally posted by diablo
I could have sworn I practically wrote a book not but 2 posts above this one.
Oh wait, I did.![]()
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
No, that is not a good way to make money on eBay.Originally posted by Coolage
A good way to make money on ebay would be to go through yard sales and find out how much the stuff goes for on ebay.
then purchasing stuff that there is a large difference.