making it last all summer...

[Fleshy99]

So I've been seeing this girl recently, who is fantastic. I'm seriously annoyed that I go to school out of state and I wont be able to see her for a year after this summer is over. So we've been having a great time, and the second time I saw her I slept in her bed and things happened, everything is positive.
This girl really likes me, and even is disappointed that I live so far away when I'm at school, she's actually given me a reason to not want to go back to school, but because I value my career I dont have a choice.
I havent been in a relationship in a while, but this girl has a nice fresh outlook that is great for me, and she's basically badass.
So I've been battling paranoia in my head when I'm not around her (she lives in the city, and I live about an hour away) so I've been trying to keep my cool when she's working and I'm not hearing from her for days at a time.
I've just been cheated on before, so I just want this "relationship" to last for the whole summer. It seems like something worth being loyal for, and I'm just battling overthinking in my head.
If you guys have any tips, that would be appreciated. This girl is just so awesome I guess I just find it hard to believe that she's actually going to be loyal to me - but I dont want to bug her alot, and make an ass of myself.

50% of the time I'm feeling great about it, but the other 50% my paranoid takes my brain over and I just hate thinking like that because it isnt healthy at all. I dont need this, but this girl is the key to making my summer awesome. This has already proven itself to be one of the best summers ever even though I'm unemployed.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Im in a similar situation. I started hanging out with this girl up at school before i moved (i live 2 hrs away). All year i had just been trying to get some pun but she seems chill enough and i like her enough to actually get to know with her and all that jazz. When i go up there to chill with friends i usually chill with her after them, usually at night after drinking. Im not moving back up there until Aug and i wanna date her when the time comes ,but i always think about how there are 2 months left.Just STOP thinking about it man, thats all i can really say. Find something to occupy your time so that youre not constantly thinking of this chick. On the bright side, the distance makes it just that much better when you two do hang out.

 

[Guybrush]

Pedestal, LDRs, Inexperienced youth, paranoia etc...

Read some posts. Get some green apples and enjoy the show ( life )

you'll only learn through real bruises and burns.

BUT

never be the most foolish AFC in the world by quitting school for a Jimmy John's girl...

 

[Fleshy99]

Pedestal, LDRs, Inexperienced youth, paranoia etc...

Read some posts. Get some green apples and enjoy the show ( life )

you'll only learn through real bruises and burns.

BUT

never be the most foolish AFC in the world by quitting school for a Jimmy John's girl...

Thanks guys.
Oh yeah, I've had to leave my long time friends for my career, I put my career ahead of women at this point - its too important.
The way I look at it is... just because I'm leaving for a year DOES NOT mean I'll never see her again. I'm trying to live it up while I can.

I will say this though... after being on dating websites, and trying new things to meet girls in a place where I barely live at anymore... BEST way to meet women in my opinion has always been through friends or school activities.
I have turned my summer into a great one, and accomplished my goals. I was giving up on meeting decent women, when all of the sudden I met a great one by making the right choices and keeping my demands somewhat high.

I called her today and we are both busy this weekend, meeting up sometime in the beginning of the week.
Keep the posts coming.
Thanks again.

 

[Grizou]

I feel for you on this one. Currently, I am all about making progress in my career. This includes some international postings, lots of pressure, even more workload and less sleep, and of course big time sacrifices.

By doing what I do, I left behind family and friends, and moreover any opportunity of being in a serious relationship for the next few years. Whilst I do not have any regrets right now, I catch myself thinking every now and then about how nice it would be at home having a great time with friends and a particular girl.

Again, my life is great and I would not want to take any different turns. But after all, it can be quite lonely sometimes. All the ONS and occasional flings are not that satisfying in the long-run for me. With respect to that one girl which I really dig back at home, I just tell myself, if its meant to be I am going to get her when I am back home. If not, I won't. No AFC-bullshyt about destiny or kismet whatsoever, just seeing the positive outcomes without spending too much thought on it.

On a sidenote: women seem to dig it when I tell them that I am all focussing on my career and that I ain't got time for something serious. so far, it made things pretty easy for simply physical things. Determination is a panty dropper

 

[Fleshy99]

I feel for you on this one. Currently, I am all about making progress in my career. This includes some international postings, lots of pressure, even more workload and less sleep, and of course big time sacrifices.

By doing what I do, I left behind family and friends, and moreover any opportunity of being in a serious relationship for the next few years. Whilst I do not have any regrets right now, I catch myself thinking every now and then about how nice it would be at home having a great time with friends and a particular girl.

Again, my life is great and I would not want to take any different turns. But after all, it can be quite lonely sometimes. All the ONS and occasional flings are not that satisfying in the long-run for me. With respect to that one girl which I really dig back at home, I just tell myself, if its meant to be I am going to get her when I am back home. If not, I won't. No AFC-bullshyt about destiny or kismet whatsoever, just seeing the positive outcomes without spending too much thought on it.

On a sidenote: women seem to dig it when I tell them that I am all focussing on my career and that I ain't got time for something serious. so far, it made things pretty easy for simply physical things. Determination is a panty dropper

right on man,
one of my ex-girlfriends recently gave me a really great compliment, she said she only dates guys who are driven to become something. She told me I was driven as f**k, and thats its very attractive. Same thing goes with this girl too, she's impressed by my brains and education. There is no reason good hard working smart guys can't win in the end when it comes to relationships... the whole nice guys finish last motto only applies to business transactions.

 

[Fleshy99]

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